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Why Won't You Date Me? with Nicole Byer

208 EpisodesProduced by Team Coco & Nicole ByerWebsite

Nicole Byer is single and has been for decades. She’s smart, funny, has a fat ass and loves giving blow jobs. So the question is why is she perpetually single? This podcast is a quest to find that answer. Every week, Nicole invites a comedian, friend, or ex-fling to interview their dating life and f… read more

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Attached (w/ Brittani Nichols)

October 15th, 2021


Comedian and writer Brittani Nichols (A Black Lady Sketch Show) chats with Nicole about recognizing different adult attachment styles in …

Second Puberty (w/ Carter Ray)

October 8th, 2021


Filmmaker Carter Ray (The Change Up) chats with Nicole about their experience going through a 2nd puberty while on hormones, the challenges they …

Pooping Together (w/ Meghan Trainor and Ryan Trainor)

October 1st, 2021


Does the couple that poop together, stay together? Grammy-award winning singer-songwriter Meghan Trainor and brother Ryan Trainor (co-hosts of Workin on It') discuss the special relationship that's bonded over pooping. …

Awkward Sex Talk (w/ Crystal Methyd)

September 24th, 2021


Drag queen Crystal Methyd (RuPaul's Drag Race S12) joins Nicole to chat about their most romantic date, getting the 'sex talk' at the age of 22, and …

Playing Hard to Get (w/ Ms. Pat)

September 17th, 2021


Comedian Ms. Pat chats with Nicole about her time in jail for drug trafficking, shares the secrets behind her 28 years of marriage, and offers advice …

Yelp for Escorts (w/ Alexa Eason)

September 9th, 2021


Full-service sex worker Alexa Eason shares about her life as an escort. She teaches Nicole about BDSM, the relationship risks involved with sex work, …

Catfish Catcher (w/ Justin Martindale)

September 3rd, 2021


Comedian Justin Martindale joins Nicole to discuss how their 'summer of love' has been disappointingly dry for the both of them. Justin shares the …

Sucking D in the Locker Room (w/ Laganja Estranja)

August 27th, 2021


Drag queen and choreographer Laganja Estranja (RuPaul's Drag Race S6) joins Nicole to discuss her truth coming out as trans, finding confidence in …

Hot Girl Summer (w/ Lawrence Chaney)

August 20th, 2021


Drag queen of Scots Lawrence Chaney (winner of RPDR UK S2) chats with Nicole about his dating live after winning Drag Race, how he got banned from …

I got 99 problems... palsy is just one (w/ Maysoon Zayid)

August 13th, 2021


Comedian and actress Maysoon Zayid was born with cerebral palsy. She chats with Nicole about some of the cruel comments she receives about her …

How to be Intuitive About Your Love Life (w/ Laura Day)

August 6th, 2021


'Psychic to the stars' and best selling author Laura Day is here to teach Nicole all about intuition and how to develop it. She discusses how she …

Problem Solving on the Toilet (w/ Yola)

July 30th, 2021


What a treat. Grammy nominated English musician Yola is here! Nicole and Yola chat about the difference in racism when dating in the UK vs the US, …

Thriving Alone (w/ Harvey Guillén)

July 23rd, 2021


Actor Harvey Guillén (What We Do in the Shadows) is single but not quite ready to mingle. He discusses why he guards his profession from his dating life, how he found love on Instagram, and the important need for space …

Being a Single Mom of 3 (w/ Francesca Amber)

July 16th, 2021


Nicole’s close friend Francesca Amber (host of Law of Attraction Changed my Life) talks about the struggles of being a mother of twins, explains the …

The Cost of Being 'Cute' (w/ Cat Hollis)

July 9th, 2021


Cat Hollis led the 2020 Portland Stripper Strike. Here, she explain why it happened and her work for equitable workspaces in the adult industry. Cat …

The Power of 'I Love You' (w/ Sam Richardson)

July 2nd, 2021


Actor and comedian Sam Richardson (Veep, I Think You Should Leave) chats with Nicole about his success finding love on Raya, wanting kids so he can …

Are you 'Love Avoidant'? (w/ Reggie Watts)

June 25th, 2021


Comedian and musician Reggie Watts (The Late Late Show with James Corden) chats with Nicole about his unique eating habits, his time spent playing in …

We're living in the wildest times (w/ Jason Concepcion)

June 18th, 2021


Jason Concepcion (host of Takeline, Binge Mode) joins Nicole to discuss the culture shock he experienced visiting the Philippines during a coup, how …

Interview with a Male Escort (w/ Troy Amistadi)

June 11th, 2021


International male escort Troy Amistadi is here to answer all of Nicole's questions about escorting and sex work. He discusses how the TV show Gigolos

Back in the Dating Game (w/ Shea Couleé)

June 4th, 2021


Drag queen Shea Couleé (Winner of RPDR All Stars 5) talks to Nicole about finding love at the club, being a drag mother, wig mishaps, and doing …

Sleeping with your Uber Driver (w/ London Hughes)

May 28th, 2021


Comedian London Hughes (Netflix's To Catch a Dick) and Nicole chat about her experience moving to America during a pandemic and race war, sleeping …

Proposal Gone Wrong (w/ Paul Scheer)

May 21st, 2021


Comedian and actor Paul Scheer (The League, Black Monday) and Nicole chat about how his proposal to June Diane Raphael went terribly wrong, how …

Kinky in Public (w/ Jessica Rothe)

May 14th, 2021


Actress Jessica Rothe (Happy Death Day, La La Land) and Nicole discuss if it's OK to do kinky acts in public, the bizarre ways people are monetizing …

Filming Sex Scenes (w/ Casey Wilson)

May 7th, 2021


Comedian Casey Wilson (Happy Endings, SNL) chats with Nicole about shooting her recent sex scene, exchanges crazy nannying stories, and shares how …

Being 'Sexually Smart' (w/ JB Smoove)

April 30th, 2021


Comedian, actor, and self-proclaimed 'Love Doctor' JB Smoove (Curb Your Enthusiasm) joins Nicole to provide his wisdom on flirting, roller skating, …

Bad Dating App Bios (w/ Aparna Nancherla)

April 23rd, 2021


Stand-up comedian Aparna Nancherla (BoJack Horseman, Corporate) joins Nicole to discuss how her first and only Tinder date evolved into her longterm …

Will You Be My Girl? (w/ Jillian Bell)

April 16th, 2021


Actress and comedian Jillian Bell (Workaholics,The Pole) joins Nicole to solve the reasoning behind their mutual singleness. They discuss the results …

Finding the G-Spot (w/ Marc Rebillet)

April 9th, 2021


Loop Daddy AKA Marc Rebillet Fucks. He and Nicole have a very horny chat about how he's enjoying his singledom, gaining the confidence to dominate …

Deputy Gangs in the LA County Sheriff's Department (w/ Cerise Castle)

April 6th, 2021


In this bonus episode, Nicole talks to reporter Cerise Castle about her multi-part series, A TRADITION OF VIOLENCE, uncovering the history of deputy …

Arranged Marriages (w/ Hari Kondabolu)

April 2nd, 2021


Stand-up comedian Hari Kondabolu (The Problem with Apu, host of Politically Re-Active) joins Nicole to break down some common misconceptions about …

Acid Tripping (w/ Bowen Yang)

March 26th, 2021


Actor and comedian Bowen Yang (SNL) is just as fiercely single as Nicole. They talk about the struggles of singledom, the crazy current news cycles, …

Polyamorous and Experimenting (w/ Ashley Ray)

March 19th, 2021


Comedian and pop culture expert Ashley Ray (host of TV I Say podcast) used Tinder to run an experiment where she dated every zodiac sign for a month …

How to Manifest your Dream Man (w/ Alaska Thunderfuck)

March 12th, 2021


Drag queen Alaska Thunderfuck (RuPaul's Drag Race S5, winner of Drag Race All Stars S2) joins Nicole to discuss what it was like to date another drag …

Unravelling From A Breakup (w/ Rhea Butcher)

March 5th, 2021


Comedian Rhea Butcher (Adam Ruins Everything, Good Trouble) chats with Nicole about how they quit smoking after 16 years, being a lifetime …

You Need Therapy (w/ Nore Davis)

February 26th, 2021


Comedian Nore Davis talks with Nicole about the movies that have brought them joy, why he's decided to 'date himself', leaving a toxic relationship, …

Love & Music (w/ Randy Jackson)

February 19th, 2021


Musician/producer/host Randy Jackson (American Idol, Name That Tune) shares his skepticism with app dating, the worst date he’s been on, his favorite …

Stripping & Sex Work (w/ Teddy B. Ruxpin)

February 12th, 2021


Dancer and sex worker Teddy B. Ruxpin chats with Nicole about all things stripping and sex work. They discuss her start into the profession, finding …

Ask Him About His Credit Score (w/ Tiffany Haddish)

February 5th, 2021


Actress and comedian Tiffany Haddish (Girls Trip, Night School) first clears the air regarding her Clubhouse bullying allegations. Then, she talks …

Owning Your Sexuality (w/ Margaret Cho)

January 29th, 2021


Comedian Margaret Cho (The Masked Singer, All-American Girl) and Nicole chat about claiming your right to talk about sexuality, her experience coming …

Empowering Relationship Statements (w/ Deon Cole)

January 22nd, 2021


Actor and comedian Deon Cole (Black-ish, Barbershop) joins Nicole to share his deep wisdom about love and relationships. They discuss judging people …

Big Dick Energy (w/ Conan O'Brien)

January 15th, 2021


Conan O'Brien is here to help solve the root problems behind Nicole's singledom. They also discuss his sexually repressed Catholic upbringing, what …

Sex Work (w/ AM Davies)

January 8th, 2021


Sex worker AM Davies (Host of Yes, A Strippper Podcast) is here to answer all of Nicole's questions about stripping and sex work. She discusses the …

Lining Up a Relationship for the End of the World (w/ Niccole Thurman)

January 1st, 2021


Comedian & actress Niccole Thurman (A Black Lady Sketch Show, Shrill) joins Nicole to discuss their 2021 resolutions, how they are cleaning out …

Wedding Ruiners (w/ Solomon Georgio)

December 25th, 2020


Stand-up comedian and #Skategang member Solomon Georgio (Shrill, Adam Ruins Everything) talks to Nicole about his recent butt surgery and how he's …

Issues Affecting the Black Condition (w/ Roy Wood Jr.)

December 18th, 2020


Roy Wood Jr. (The Daily Show) shares his calculations on the safest way of traveling during COVID, discusses dealing with friends who aren't taking …

Caught in the Act (w/ Jiggly Caliente)

December 11th, 2020


Drag queen and actress Jiggly Caliente (RuPaul's Drag Race S4, Broad City) joins Nicole to discuss sex work, walking in on friends or family members …

Healthcare (w/ Langston Kerman)

December 4th, 2020


Actor and comedian Langston Kerman (Insecure, The Boys) joins Nicole to discuss her recent broken ankle and awkward brush with healthcare. He also …

Serving the Full Fantasy (w/ Creme Fatale)

November 27th, 2020


Drag queen & makeup artist Creme Fatale joins Nicole to discuss dating horror stories, how to leave a bad date fast, why aren't there any lady …

Grown-Up Breakup (w/ Lucy Stoole)

November 20th, 2020


Drag queen Lucy Stoole joins Nicole to discuss the story behind their drag name, their recent breakup, the struggles of dating app messaging, and if …

Fresh Heartbreak (w/ Priyanka)

November 13th, 2020


Drag queen Priyanka (Winner of Canada's Drag Race, host of YTV's The Zone) joins Nicole to discuss their very recent breakup, getting COVID19 from …

Trash TV (w/ Patti Harrison)

November 6th, 2020


Comedian Patti Harrison (Shrill, Search Party) joins Nicole to chat about 90 Day Fiancé, issues with casting in today's media, and advocates for the …

Volunteering in Your Community (w/ Mitra Jouhari)

October 30th, 2020


Comedian Mitra Jouhari (Big Mouth, Three Busy Debras, host of Urgent Care) joins Nicole to discuss missing malls, the horrors of dating in high …

Advice from a Dating Coach (w/ Damona Hoffman)

October 23rd, 2020


Dating coach Damona Hoffman (A&E Network's #BlackLove, A Question of Love) is here to dish some professional advice. She shares tips for video-dating, setting up your dating app profile, how to stay sane with your …

We're Thirsty (w/ Nichole Perkins)

October 16th, 2020


Writer and podcaster Nichole Perkins (Thirst Aid Kit) joins Nicole to discuss setting boundaries in your casual relationships, dealing with thirsty …

Rock Bottom (w/ Sydnee Washington)

October 9th, 2020


Comedian and actress Sydnee Washington (Broad City, Gayme Show) joins Nicole to discuss feel-good foods to eat when you're sad, their lowest points …

Signs He's Into You (w/ Yassir Lester)

October 2nd, 2020


It's our longest episode ever! Comedian Yassir Lester (Black Monday, Duncanville) joins Nicole to discuss sex protocol for a COVID era, reconnecting …

Joking Around (w/ Yamaneika Saunders)

September 25th, 2020


The incredibly funny Yamaneika Saunders (Broad City, Inside Amy Schumer) joins Nicole to discuss comedy, following her mom's love for stand-up, her …

From Race Chaser to Husband (w/ Latrice Royale)

September 18th, 2020


Drag queen Latrice Royale (RuPaul's Drag Race, RuPaul's Drag Race All Stars) joins Nicole for a good teeheehee. She discusses getting into drag on a …

America Scammed Us (w/ Dewayne Perkins)

September 11th, 2020


Comedian and writer Dewayne Perkins (Brooklyn Nine-Nine, The Break with Michelle Wolf) joins Nicole to talk about getting back together with his ex, …

Lady Game (w/ Sam Jay)

September 4th, 2020


Comedian Sam Jay (writer at SNL) discusses how she met her girlfriend, the influence of wealth in a relationship, and the difference between flirting …

The World is Really Shitty and I'm Alone (w/ Ziwe)

August 28th, 2020


Ziwe (writer for Desus & Mero) and Nicole chat about being horn'd up, what they've been crying over, and are trying to learn to love what they …

Class Clown on the Plantation (w/ Amber Ruffin)

August 21st, 2020


Writer and actress Amber Ruffin (Late Night with Seth Meyers, A Black Lady Sketch Show) chats with Nicole about the weight of having to discuss …

Code-Switching (w/ Gabby Sidibe)

August 14th, 2020


Gabby Sidibe (Precious, American Horror Story, Empire) joins Nicole to discuss the problematic expectation to have to code switch at work, why Black …

Fatphobia (w/ Roxane Gay)

August 7th, 2020


Oh boy this is a juicy one. Author Roxane Gay (Bad Feminist, Hunger) joins Nicole to discuss their experiences with institutional racism, dealing …

Performative Allies (w/ Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman)

July 31st, 2020


'Do you want to be an active ally, or do you just want to say that out loud?'

Jeffrey Bowyer-Chapman (Judge/host on Canada's Drag Race, Unreal) joins …

White-Passing Privilege (w/ Ele Woods)

July 24th, 2020


Actress/comedian Ele Woods (The Good Place, CollegeHumor) shares her experiences being White-passing, and how she's using it for good. Her and Nicole …

Sleeping for the Story (w/ The Vixen)

July 17th, 2020


Drag queen The Vixen (Rupaul's Drag Race S10, host of Black Girl Magic) chats about calling out microaggressions on Drag Race, the type of hate mail …

Black History Year (w/ Bob the Drag Queen)

July 10th, 2020


"I was just looking for butthole. And then wrapped around the butthole was a really nice, young, Jewish man."

Bob the Drag Queen (winner of RuPaul's …

Dating with Disability (w/ Santina Muha)

July 3rd, 2020


Actress and comedian Santina Muha (One Day at a Time, Curb Your Enthusiasm) answers the worst questions to ask someone in a wheelchair, shares some of the aggressive messages she's received on dating apps, and asks to …

If You See It, You Can Be It (w/ Kirby Howell-Baptiste)

June 26th, 2020


Actress Kirby Howell-Baptiste (The Good Place, Barry, Why Women Kill) discusses the rise in "Karens", managing life after death, and the reality of the Black experience. Plus, they share personal stories of racial bias, …

Foundations of a Successful Relationship (w/ AJA)

June 19th, 2020


Rapper and former drag queen AJA (RuPaul's Drag Race S9, All Stars S3) catches up with Nicole on the #BlackLivesMatter protests, discussing Black …

How to Date Virtually (w/ Jinkx Monsoon)

June 12th, 2020


"Sex is always better when you can be yourself during it"

Jinkx Monsoon (Winner of Rupaul's Drag Race S5) dishes about fulfilling race chaser …

Butt Stuff (w/ Monét X Change)

June 5th, 2020


Drag queen Monét X Change (RuPaul's Drag Race, winner of RuPaul's Drag Race All Stars S4) shares the story about how they got their first STD from a …

Embrace Your Sloppy (w/ Michelle Buteau)

May 29th, 2020


The wonderful comedian Michelle Buteau (Always Be My Maybe, host of The Circle) discusses owning her sexuality, raising twins, being denied the …

Don't Comment on my Body (w/ BenDeLaCreme)

May 22nd, 2020


BenDeLaCreme (RuPaul's Drag Race, RPDR All Stars) chats about how he deals with other people's traumas, getting gaslight by their therapist, and …

Fast n' Friendly Divorce (w/ Giulia Rozzi)

May 15th, 2020


Oh boy, this episode is a juicy one. Comedian/actress Giulia Rozzi (Girl Code) speaks to Nicole about the struggles of being pregnant in quarantine, …

Doing Your Own Hair (w/ Tawny Newsome)

May 8th, 2020


Comedian Tawny Newsome (Space Force) chats with Nicole about learning how to do your own hair in quarantine, their crazy fashion phases, and the …

Quarantine Breakup (w/ Jamie Loftus)

May 1st, 2020


"On what date do you reveal you're a merperson?"

Comedian and TV writer Jamie Loftus (Robot Chicken, host of The Bechdel Cast) theorizes what it must be like being broken up but quarantined together, shares her …

Instagram DM Sex (w/ Ira Madison III)

April 24th, 2020


Ira Madison III (TV writer, host of Keep It) chats about how he's staying sane while quarantine alone, his guest appearance on You, and how he's …

Third Wheel in a Quarantine (w/ Tommy Lenk)

April 17th, 2020


"Marriage should be a lease with an option to renew"

Tommy Lenk (Buffy the Vampire Slayer, host of Trashcast) shares his ideas to modernize marriage, …

Saying Yes to the Dress (w/ Megan Gailey)

April 10th, 2020


Comedian Megan Gailey (Conan, Tonight Show Starring Jimmy Fallon) chats with Nicole about life as a newlywed in quarantine, the horrors of wedding …

Loving Your Boobs (w/ Amy Miller)

April 3rd, 2020


Stand-up comedian & Nicole's opener Amy Miller (host of Who's Your God) teaches us how to spot a chucklefucker, shares her experience going …

Dating During Coronavirus (w/ Jacquis Neal)

March 27th, 2020


"We're all just on Zoom trying to date people?"

Jacquis Neal (host of Culture Kings) joins us remotely while in quarantine to discuss what it's like …

Love (w/ Paul Rust)

March 20th, 2020


Paul Rust (Love, Comedy Bang! Bang!, Arrested Development) has been married for 5 years. He discusses what it's like to date and work with his …

Recognizing your Self-Worth (w/ Nicolette Mason)

March 13th, 2020


"Everyone that I thought was 'the one', was a piece of trash."

Nicolette Mason (plus-size fashion blogger) joins Nicole to discuss the latest dating …

Open Relationships (w/ Kelly Hudson)

March 6th, 2020


"My life's work was dating people."

Kelly Hudson (Search Party, Sunnyside, CollegeHumor) left her open-relationship to be with the man she's married …

BONUS: The Struggles of your Twenties (w/ Rae Sanni)

March 3rd, 2020


Writer/stand-up Rae Sanni (The Good Place, A Black Lady Sketch Show) joins Nicole to discuss all the struggles of their twenties, and how it has …

Seeking Single Men at Target (w/ Janelle James)

February 28th, 2020


Janelle James (stand-up, writer for Black Mondays) joins Nicole to discuss the difference between East coast and West coast men, when to let a guy …

Unpacking Nicole's Fear of Relationships (w/ Jess Rona)

February 21st, 2020


"Once both people like each other, the games are over."

Close friend and dog groomer Jess Rona (Author of Groomed) has a heart-to-heart with Nicole to …

Finding Love at DragCon (w/ Taylor Orear)

February 14th, 2020


Friend and fashion stylist Taylor Orear joins Nicole to shares the most adorable story behind meeting his boyfriend at RuPaul's Drag Con. They also …

Drugs & Dogs (w/ Eric Edelstein)

February 7th, 2020


'She saved me in her phone as 'Eric Weirdo".

Eric Edelstein (Jurassic World, American Dad) shares the story behind meeting Jess, his lovely dog …

Setting 2020 Resolutions (w/ Kevin T. Porter)

January 31st, 2020


Podcast pro Kevin Porter (Host of Inside Voices, Good Christian Fun, and Gilmore Guys podcast) helps Nicole set some 2020 dating goals - starting …

Hiring a Professional Matchmaker (w/ Grace Edwards)

January 24th, 2020


Nicole's old roommate Grace Edwards (writer - Unbreakable Kimmy Schmidt, Loosely Exactly Nicole) answers Nicole's questions about professional …

Prison Dating (w/ Ann Pyne)

January 17th, 2020


"He had committed arson when he tried to kill himself in his mother's basement"

Ann Pyne (Drag queen booker) is the queen of drag queens. She …

Dead Mom Club (w/ Kate Spencer)

January 10th, 2020


Kate Spencer (Forever 35 podcast, author of Dead Mom's Club) discusses Nicole Byer's mention in The Masked Singer, explains to Nicole what a "VSCO …

Running into Past Flings (Live w/ Josh Sharp)

January 3rd, 2020


Josh Sharp (The Opposition with Jordan Klepper, The Chris Gethard Show) joins Nicole to discuss their previous liveshow where Nicole ran into a guy …

Vehicular Assault (w/ Akilah Hughes)

December 27th, 2019


Akilah Hughes (host of What a Day podcast) discusses why she doesn't believe in long term relationships, shares her worst date stories, and the time …

Moving On After a Nasty Breakup (w/ Marty Michael)

December 20th, 2019


Nicole starts the episode with a DM from her doppelgänger who's been taking advantage of her likeness. Marty Michael (Co-Founder of Headgum) shares a …

Emojis are a Red Flag (w/ Whitney Cummings)

December 13th, 2019


"We're taught to laugh at guys' jokes that aren't funny so they don't feel insecure."

Whitney Cummings (stand-up, creator of Two Broke Girls) explains why she likes to be the beta in her relationship, what's it like …

Living with Nicole Byer (w/ John Milhiser)

December 6th, 2019


Nicole's roommate John Milhiser (SNL, CollegeHumor) discuss how Nicole serves as a third in his relationship, if they've ever heard each other have …

What's it Like to Finally Date a Good Guy (w/ Michaela Watkins)

November 29th, 2019


Michaela Watkins (SNL, The Unicorn, Big Mouth) has been boy crazy her whole life. She discusses the hot kids they were into, shares why her husband …

Having Tandem Sex (w/ Sasheer Zamata)

November 22nd, 2019


"When you and your friend fuck at the same time, just in different places".

Best friend Sasheer Zamata (SNL, Corporate) shares the time her and …

A Nightmare Wedding Experience (w/ Diona Reasonover)

November 15th, 2019


Diona Reasonover (NCIS, I Love You, America) shares her nightmare wedding experience which included a rear-end accident, a broken wrist, a typhoon, …

Why Everybody Needs Therapy (w/ Therapist John Kim)

November 8th, 2019


Licensed therapist John Kim (aka The Angry Therapist, author of I Used to Be a Miserable F*ck) discusses the stigma stopping many PoC to join …

Dating As a Virgin in Your 30s (w/ Jake Kroeger)

November 1st, 2019


Dating in your thirties can be nightmarish. Jake Kroeger (Stand-up, The Comedy Bureau) shares his experiences navigating the dating scene as a virgin, the cute story behind his first kiss at the age of 31, and his …

100 Episodes of Why Won't You Date Me (w/ Willam Belli)

October 25th, 2019


Wow, it has been 100 episodes of the podcast and Nicole Byer is still single. In this live anniversary, Willam Belli (RuPaul's Drag Race, A Star is …

Overcoming Emotional Setbacks (w/ Echo Kellum)

October 18th, 2019


"Please acknowledge your pain."

Echo Kellum (Arrow, Rick & Morty) discusses overcoming life's pain after emotional trauma, controlling negative …

Managing Anxieties During Intimacy (w/ Dave Ross)

October 11th, 2019


"I would eat my ass for flavor, and you can quote me on that."

Dave Ross (stand-up, Suicide Buddies podcast) shares his experience performing at a sex …

Crying Boys (w/ Laci Mosley)

October 4th, 2019


"All I want is a dick that is also a coat rack."

Laci Mosley (Florida Girls, Scam Goddess podcast) discusses reckless driving, which dating app has the cutest guys, and how she injured her clit masturbating. Plus, …

Breaking Up (w/ Paul F. Tompkins)

September 27th, 2019


"I was at a point where I was like... I never sorta played the field and had fun. I'm gonna do that now."

Paul F. Tompkins (Between Two Ferns: The …

Dating Neurodiversity (w/ Sam Pancake)

September 20th, 2019


"He said, 'I'd rather be dead than how old YOU are.'"

Things get real emotional in this episode. Sam Pancake (Arrested Development, A Million Little …

Hooking up on Craigslist (w/ Atsuko Okatsuka)

September 13th, 2019


Atsuko Okatsuka (stand-up, Let's Go Atsuko! podcast) discusses living as an undocumented for 7 years, meeting people on Craigslist, and being …

Dating Someone with Commitment Issues (w/ Fortune Feimster)

September 6th, 2019


"You only get to cuddle if there's been penetration."

Fortune Feimster (The Mindy Project, Chelsea Lately) shares the cute story how she met her fiancee at Pride, how coming out late in life affected her confidence, and …

Problematic Issues of Porn (w/ Erika Lust)

August 30th, 2019


"I would like to see films where women's pleasure is also in focus. Where it's important to the story that she is also having a good time."

Erotic …

Married at 20 (w/ Ron Funches)

August 23rd, 2019


"We stayed married for 7 years - and we should've never gotten married."

From the age of 20, Ron Funches (Trolls, Giggle Fit, The Eric Andre Show) …

Dating Dogs and Werewolfs (w/ Justin Simien)

August 16th, 2019


"When he came, did he go AWOOO?"

Justin Simien (Creator of Dear White People) joins Nicole to talk about the kinkiest thing he's ever done, teach her …

The Joy of Being Alone (w/ Ashley Nicole Black)

August 9th, 2019


"I would love for Guy Fieri to narrate my sex"

Ashley Nicole Black (Full Frontal with Samantha Bee, A Black Lady Sketch Show) joins Nicole to share …

Power-Bottom (w/ Monique Heart)

August 2nd, 2019


"I thought I had contracted an STD where I was rotting from the inside"

Drag queen Monique Heart (RuPaul's Drag Race Season 10, All Stars Season 4) …

Making a Polyamorous Relationship Work (w/ DeRay Davis)

July 26th, 2019


DeRay Davis (Snowfall, 21 Jump Street) has lived a polyamorous relationship with 2 women for most of his life. He explains how he introduces it to …

A Boyfriend for Every Stage of your Life (w/ Jessica McKenna)

July 19th, 2019


Jessica McKenna (Off Book podcast) has had a boyfriend in every stage of her life. She details the drama behind her middle school romance, to meeting …

Microdosing (w/ Johnny Pemberton)

July 12th, 2019


"I thought I was going to die. I was actually laughing at the idea of living."

Johnny Pemberton (22 Jump Street, Superstore) discusses taking LSD at Disneyland, and accidentally overdosing while trying to microdose. …

Nicole's Choice of Porn (w/ Ronnie Adrian)

July 5th, 2019


"I'm crazier than you. I'll fuck you up with these dildos"

Ronnie Adrian (Comedy Bang Bang, White Women) joins Nicole to discuss their mutual struggle …

The Opposite of a Meet-Cute (w/ Alice Wetterlund)

June 28th, 2019


Alice Wetterlund (Girl Code, Treks and the City podcast) joins Nicole to discuss their Girl Code tour horror stories, talk about men who claim to …

Top or Bottom? (LIVE w/ Jon Gabrus, Nick Wiger, and Mike Mitchell)

June 21st, 2019


Freshly drunk from a power-hour, Gabrus (High & Mighty), Nick Wiger and Mike Mitchell (Doughboys) join Nicole to discuss how they would want to …

How to Share Secrets on Drag Race (w/ Shangela)

June 14th, 2019


D.J. 'Shangela' Pierce (RuPaul's Drag Race, A Star is Born) discusses his struggles with dating, getting picked up by fans, and describes his perfect …

Sleeping with DJs (w/ Greta Titelman)

June 7th, 2019


"What happens in Vegas, stays in Vegas... But not this."

Greta Titelman (The Worst podcast) breaks the double-standard behind having sex on a first date, talks about their first masturbation stories, and what it's like …

BONUS: The One That Got Away (w/ Blair Socci)

June 4th, 2019


Blair Socci (stand-up, The Blair & Greta Show) discusses what it's like to date an "influencer", how to have an amicable break up with your ex, …

Having Sex in Drag (LIVE from DragCon 2019 w/ Vicky Vox)

May 31st, 2019


Drag queen Vicky Vox (DWV, Magic Mike XXL) joins Nicole to discuss having sex in drag, using AOL messenger to lose your virginity, and where to find …

Dating in the 3rd Grade (w/ Beth Stelling)

May 24th, 2019


Beth Stelling (Crashing, I Love You, America) discusses the crazy things they learned in school, what it was like to have a 3rd grade boyfriend, how …

How to Date Long Distance (w/ Demi Adejuyigbe)

May 17th, 2019


Demi Adejuyigbe (The Late Late Show with James Corden, Punch Up The Jam podcast) joins Nicole to discuss how he found love on Twitter, how to …

How to get Banned from Tinder (w/ Eleanor Bray)

May 10th, 2019


Eleanor Bray (Nicole's old assistant!) comes on to discuss what it was like working as Nicole's assistant, how she got banned on Tinder, and the …

Heckled Online and Offline (w/ Miel Bredouw)

May 3rd, 2019


"I hope my dad ate ass."

Miel Bredouw (Punch Up The Jam podcast) joins Nicole to discuss online harassment, what it was like to 'date' on Vine and …

Building a Sex Roster (w/ Laura and Rachel)

April 26th, 2019


"You get a social security number when you're born, you should also get a therapist that you have to see when you turn 13."

Laura and Rachel (Girls …

High School Dating (w/ Cameron Esposito)

April 19th, 2019


Cameron Esposito (Put Your Hands Together, Queery podcast) discusses what it's like to host a show with her ex-wife, her past experience working as a circus ring leader, and how it feels to get dumped as a couple. …

Getting an STI from Grindr (w/ Matt Rogers)

April 12th, 2019


"If it got leaked - everyone would know that I'm really good at sucking dick."

Matt Rogers (Las Culturistas podcast) discuss their experiences with …

Death & Taxes (w/ Punam Patel)

April 5th, 2019


"Would I rather live a shorter life where I'm happier, than a long one where I have to work so hard to be healthy? More often than not I choose …

BONUS: Bad Birthday Hookup (LIVE w/ Dulcé Sloan)

April 2nd, 2019


"If he had chest hair, I would've had rug burn. That's all I'm saying."

Dulcé Sloan (The Daily Show with Trevor Noah) discuss their mutual hate for

Learning How to Love Yourself (w/ Charla Lauriston)

March 29th, 2019


"Every black person I know is in therapy. And if they're not, I encourage them to be."

Charla Lauriston (Ghosted, People of Earth) dissects white privilege, how hard it is to be a black woman in the dating scene, and the …

Blowjob Tips (w/ Jake and Amir)

March 22nd, 2019


Jake Hurwitz and Amir Blumenfeld (Jake and Amir) discuss their favorite porn, whether they like to 69, if they would enjoy sucking their own dick, …

Date Exit Strategy (w/ Grace Helbig and Mamrie Hart)

March 15th, 2019


"Guys go on Raya just to see how famous of a person they can match with."

Grace Helbig and Mamrie Hart (This Might Get Weird podcast) discuss their …

Putting Faith in your Love Life (w/ Liza Treyger)

March 8th, 2019


"Go out into the world with confidence, not desperation."

Can crystals and candles help with your love life? Liza Treyger (stand-up, Horace and Pete) …

How to Kiss (w/ Matt Ingebretson)

March 1st, 2019


"A fun thing that I like to do is when kissing someone, is to open my eyes to see what their face looks like."

Matt Ingebretson (Corporate) talks all about kissing - the stress of going in for the first kiss, when to use …

Why You Need Couple's Therapy (w/ Naomi Ekperigin)

February 22nd, 2019


"There's nothing I love more than a slutty wedding vibe"

Naomi Ekperigin (Broad City) shares her experience dating on Craigslist, why every couple …

Eskimo Sisters (w/ Skyler Hurt)

February 15th, 2019


Nicole met Skyler through Tinder, and they turned out to be eskimo sisters. Things got weird in their relationship real fast when Nicole began dating …

Period Horror Stories (w/ Toni Charline)

February 8th, 2019


Periods suck. Toni Charline (UCB) joins Nicole to share all their embarrassing period-related stories. From their first tampon applications, to …

Dealing with Creeps (w/ Trixie Mattel)

February 1st, 2019


Trixie Mattel (Winner of RuPaul's Drag Race: All Stars Season 3) discusses getting touched by strangers in public, being in an "It's Complicated" …

All Things Panties (w/ Eliot Glazer)

January 25th, 2019


Eliot Glazer (Broad City, New Girl) discusses spending money on nice underwear for your partner, the grimiest requests he's received on dates, and …

Role-Playing (w/ Rachel Bloom)

January 18th, 2019


"Good role-playing is just bad improv"

Rachel Bloom (Crazy Ex-Girlfriend) has an open discussion about finding therapy and using medication to treat …

Seeking Professional Advice (w/ Dr. Chris Donaghue)

January 11th, 2019


Dr. Chris Donaghue (Host of Loveline, sex and relationship therapist) provides Nicole with an honest assessment why she may be single. He provides …

Finding your S/O's Pet Name (w/ Elizabeth Ho)

January 4th, 2019


Did you know that couples with pet names statistically have longer lasting relationships? In today's episode, Nicole and Elizabeth Ho (Disjointed) …

Scheduling Your Booty Calls (w/ Raiza Licea)

December 28th, 2018


"If you're busy, you need to book a dick appointment"

Raiza Licea (UCB) agrees that life is busy and sometimes you just gotta book time for a dicking. …

Dating Gay Twins (w/ Joel Kim Booster)

December 21st, 2018


"I was apart of an orgy on a ship, where I looked over at my friend who was wearing this guy like a fucking bracelet"

Joel Kim Booster joins Nicole …

Getting Past Dick Size (w/ Lisa Hanawalt)

December 14th, 2018


"He just started sweating so much, that it was like water pouring onto me. And he said it was cause he was sad about his ex-girlfriend."

Lisa Hanawalt (Bojack Horseman, Baby Genuises Podcast) discusses how to deal with …

Love, Lust, and Infatuation (w/ Baron Vaughn)

December 7th, 2018


"Everyone is doing monogamy. And if you try to cram all those people into one door, someone is gonna get hurt."

Baron Vaughn (Corporate, The New Negros) explains LOVE. What it is to be a love addict, and the differences …

Nicole Does a Live Tarot Reading (w/ Inessa Frantowski)

November 30th, 2018


Inessa Frantowski (UCB) performs a live tarot reading for Nicole, and boy, are the results dark. They also discuss at what point in the relationship …

Dating for Personality or Looks (w/ Erin Whitehead)

November 23rd, 2018


"The thought of you inside me makes me upset"

Erin Whitehead (Animals, Wild Horses) shares her experiences on a dating app designed for Apple fans, why she doesn't like relationships, and dating for looks vs personality. …

Nicole Reviews Guy Fieri's Restaurant at the Burbank Airport (w/ Justin Noble)

November 16th, 2018


"This is the best date I've ever planned, and it's all downhill from here."

Nicole opens up about her current dating life! She shares the story of her …

Is It OK to Google Your Dates? (w/ Kara Klenk)

November 9th, 2018


"He gave the podcast people more insight into why we broke up than he did to me"

Turns out, talking about your relationship publicly on podcasts could …

Vagina Talk (w/ Megan Neuringer)

November 2nd, 2018


"With size, there's truly no winning in being an objectified woman."

Megan Neuringer (writer, Portlandia) talks about body anxieties at every size, …

Sex Tips to Make Your Girl Cum (w/ Ify Nwadiwe)

October 26th, 2018


"I promise you, you'll never fuck good enough to not have to eat pussy"

Ify Nwadiwe (@midnight, Buzzfeed Video, Nerdificent Podcast) joins us to discuss playing D&D with the Sprouse twins, provides sex tips for the …

Ice Cold Kiss (w/ Tony Rodriguez)

October 19th, 2018


Tony Rodriguez (UCB) discusses his worst dates, the importance of communication during sex, and bad kissing. Nicole shares the time she showed her …

Limp Dick (w/ Pandora Boxx)

October 12th, 2018


Pandora Boxx (RuPaul's Drag Race S2) discusses life after Drag Race, being in an open relationship, and wild fan encounters. Nicole describes her …

Nicole's Horny (w/ Mary Sasson)

October 5th, 2018


Mary Sasson (UCB) discusses the ever growing trends in women's bodies. Nicole talks about the worst dicks she's slept with and makes an apology to …

The Trouble with Threesomes (w/ Jazzmyne Robbins)

September 28th, 2018


Jazzmyne Robbins (Buzzfeed) is on to discuss thirsting publicly on Instagram, the times they’ve contemplated sleeping with fans, and the problematic …

Sex Tapes (w/ Roz Drezfalez)

September 21st, 2018


Roz Drezfalez (Drag queen, stand-up) discusses the life and struggles of dating as a drag queen. Nicole expresses why dating a improv comic is a turn …

Nicole Plays Matchmaker (w/ Jason Kim)

September 14th, 2018


Jason Kim (Love, Girls) is on the podcast. They talk about how they met over a mutual love for Beyoncé, Nicole shares her latest cocaine bender, and …

Booty Call Horror Story (w/ Jameela Jamil)

September 7th, 2018


Jameela Jamil (The Good Place) chats about how she got cast in The Good Place, the rejection she got as a child, and shares her most horrifying Tinder date.

Check out Jameela's "I Weigh" Instagram, a movement for us to …

Woke Therapy (w/ Fiona Landers)

August 31st, 2018


Things get heavy in this episode of Why Won't You Date Me. Fiona Landers (UCB, Full House) discusses her previous marriage with a comedian, how a …

Wes from Nailed It is here! (w/ Weston Bahr)

August 24th, 2018


Weston Bahr is on the podcast to discuss what it's like to be harassed by Nicole on Nailed It, creepy DMs he gets from fans, all the dick jokes …

Why'd You Stop Dating Me? (w/ Nick Snow)

August 17th, 2018


Nicole and Nick Snow dated for a month, before Nick decided they should stop seeing one another. Now he's on the podcast to reminisce their first …

Nicole Answers a Dating Questionnaire (w/ Ego Nwodim)

August 10th, 2018


Ego Nwodim joins Nicole to talk therapy and the times they've shat their pants. Ego takes a look at Nicole's updated Tinder profile. Nicole re-reads …

Boyfriendless Forever (w/ Marcella Arguello)

August 3rd, 2018


Marcella Arguello (stand up, @midnight) joins Nicole to share their love for sucking dick, her worry for being fetishized as a tall woman, and gives …

Shoplifting Stories (w/ Sabrina Jalees)

July 27th, 2018


Sabrina Jalees (Netflix's The Comedy Lineup) joins Nicole to discuss hot celebrities they've taped to their bedroom walls, why they both enjoy gay …

Nicole's Opening Bumble Messages (w/ Fran Gillespie)

July 20th, 2018


Fran Gillespie (SNL, Love, The Good Place) joins Nicole to discuss why it's harder for women to openly discuss sex than men. Nicole describes her …

Nicole's Latest Tinder Failures (w/ John Mason & Nicholas Stavola)

July 13th, 2018


Nicole's oldest, best friends John Mason & Nicholas Stavola reminisce about their old high school romances, why John wouldn't take Nicole to …

Racism in Hollywood (w/ Oscar Montoya)

July 6th, 2018


Oscar Montoya (UCB, Inside the Disney Vault podcast) joins Nicole to talk through his 4 year dry spell, Mario Betalli's mitten hands, and the rampant …

Love, Marriage, and Taxes (w/ Nick Wiger)

June 29th, 2018


Nick Wiger (Doughboys, I Love You America) is on the show to gush about the love for his wife, learn about Nicole's green card marriage, and talk …

Why Won't You Bake with Me (w/ Carl Tart)

June 22nd, 2018


Carl Tart (Comedy Bang Bang, Party Over Here) joins Nicole to discuss their favorite memes, the crazy foods Nicole's been subjected to on Nailed It!, …

Dating Thick (w/ Jon Gabrus)

June 15th, 2018


The incredible Jon Gabrus (Raised by TV, Action Boyz, High & Mighty podcast) joins Nicole to share the adorable story on meeting his wife, and …

Take a Look at Nicole's new Tinder Bio! (w/ Zeke Nicholson)

June 8th, 2018


Zeke Nicholson (A.P. Bio, Take My Wife, Lopez) joins Nicole to share stories from their first acting gigs, discuss the incestuous feel of dating …

Nicole's Figuring Out Her Sexuality (w/ Zainab Johnson)

June 1st, 2018


Zainab Johnson (Stand-up, HonesTEA with Z podcast) is here to answer all of Nicole's questions on the Muslim religion, what being "emotionally …

Getting Paid for Sex (w/ Meatball and Big Dipper)

May 25th, 2018


Buckle up, this episode is a wild one. Nicole is joined by drag queen Meatball and rapper Big Dipper! They discuss how they like to be choked in bed …

Live from RuPaul's DragCon 2018 (w/ Eureka O'Hara)

May 18th, 2018


It's Why Won't You Date Me's first live podcast! Eureka O'Hara (RuPaul's Drag Race season 9 & 10) joins Nicole to discuss what it's like to have …

The World is Pretty Unfair (w/ Jake Weisman)

May 11th, 2018


Jake Weisman (Corporate) joins Nicole to talk the traumatic incident that couldn't let him cum for a decade, his experience with Raya, and how he …

Advice from a Married Couple (w/ Madeline Walter and Ben Greene)

May 4th, 2018


It's Why Won't You Date Me's first married couple guest! Madeline Walter (UCB, Definitely Dying podcast) and Ben Greene (UCB, On The Cusp podcast) …

Lying About Your Age Online (w/ Molly Tarlov)

April 27th, 2018


Molly Tarlov (MTV's Awkward) joins Nicole to talk about their one night stands, Nicole's experiences on a Jewish dating app, and lying about your age …

Body Positivity (w/ Tess Holliday)

April 20th, 2018


Tess Holliday is a plus sized model who's attracted some creepy Instagram DMs. She's on the show to discuss body positivity, Nicole's latest Tinder …

Masturbating to Food (w/ Marcy Jarreau)

April 13th, 2018


Nicole's good friend Marcy Jarreau (UCB Comedy, Loosely Exactly Nicole, Kar Dishin' It podcast) is on the show to discuss Nicole's hate for the

Nicole's finally on Raya! (w/ Eliza Skinner)

April 6th, 2018


With the help from Eliza Skinner (The Late Late with James Corden, Drop The Mic) Nicole is finally on Raya! They discuss what the exclusive dating …

The Fappening (w/ Dan Black)

March 29th, 2018


What if shit actually tasted great, and that's why people eat ass? Dan Black (UCB Comedy, The Comedians of Wrestling Podcast) is on the show to ask …

Gay Bar Sidewalk Sale (w/ Mano Agapion)

March 23rd, 2018


Mano Agapion (UCB, Horny for Horror) joins Nicole to have a great discussion on race and gender identity, body dysmorphia, and a crazy Grindr …

What a Time to be Alive (w/ Langan Kingsley)

March 16th, 2018


Langan Kingsley (Corporate) joins Nicole to discuss masturbating in public, stalking exes on Instagram, and what Nicole really wants in a man.

You …

The 5 Love Languages (w/ Warren Burke)

March 9th, 2018


Warren Burke (Jimmy Kimmel Live!) talks Nicole through her intimacy issues, the 5 love languages, and the time she got mistaken for a hooker.

You can …

Dating Fans (w/ Mike Mitchell)

March 2nd, 2018


This week Mike Mitchell (The Birthday Boys, Doughboys, Love) is on the show to get his Tinder profile rated, discuss whether they would date fans, …

Sexting (w/ Jen D'Angelo)

February 23rd, 2018


Jen D'Angelo (Workaholics, *Loosely Exactly Nicole) is on the show to discuss terrible prank shows they've filmed, why Nicole hates Christmas, and …

Getting Drunk at the Movies (w/ Brooks Wheelan)

February 16th, 2018


Brooks Wheelan (SNL) is on the show to discuss the ultra-exclusive Raya app, how he once got scabies from a girl he met in a liquor store parking …

Featuring the Man Who's Floor I Peed On (w/ EJ Wolborsky)

February 9th, 2018


EJ isn't a comedian, but just a nice guy who's floor Nicole peed on after a drunken party at an Apple store. Hear them reconcile on what happened …

Bad Threesomes (w/ Matteo Lane)

February 2nd, 2018


Nicole's good friend Matteo Lane (Guy Code, @midnight, Ladylike) is on the podcast to rate Nicole's Tinder, talk about their experiences with …

Growing Up Fat (w/ Jacob Wysocki)

January 26th, 2018


Jacob Wysocki (*Loosely Exactly Nicole, UCB Comedy) joins Nicole to discuss being fat, going through puberty, and dating "normies".

You can play along …

Do Men Not Respond to Funny Women? (w/ Joanna Bradley)

January 19th, 2018


Joanna Bradley (UCBComedy, Saturday Night Live) joins Nicole to share some of their bad Craigslist hookups stories, discuss the challenges of dating …

Would You Date a Chucklefucker? (w/ George Kareman)

January 12th, 2018


George Kareman (UCB Comedy, Long Haired Businessmen) is on the show to teach Nicole how to use Hinge, and if they would ever date a chucklefucker. …

We're Getting Juiced (w/ Alison Rich)

January 4th, 2018


Alison Rich (The Goldbergs, Party Over Here) joins Nicole for a nice juicing. Get ready to listen to some crazy Tinder hookup stories, find out how …

What's Up with Hair Conditioner? (w/ Ben Axelrad)

December 29th, 2017


Nicole's friend Ben Axelrad (UCB Comedy, Definitely Dying Podcast) joins her to talk therapy, horrible dating stories, and why Nicole and Ben stopped …

The Science Behind Dating Apps (w/ Emily Heller)

December 21st, 2017


Emily Heller (Comedian, Baby Geniuses) joins Nicole to discuss the stats behind dating apps, steamy movies and the most boring man Nicole has ever …

Nicole's Pussy Pic That Went Too Far (w/ Sasheer Zamata)

December 15th, 2017


Nicole's dear friend Sasheer Zamata (SNL) joins her to rate her Tinder bio, perform a live-reading of her Tinder conversations and Nicole shares the …

Bad Hookups (w/ Dan Lippert)

December 8th, 2017


Dan Lippert (UCB Comedy, Comedy Bang Bang) joins us to talk about Nicole's abandonment issues, the time she blew him in a bathroom, and Nicole shares …

Tinder Troubles (w/ Will Hines)

December 1st, 2017


On the first episode of Why Won't You Date Me, Will Hines (UCB Comedy, Don't Get Me Started, CollegeHumor) joins Nicole to rate her Tinder game, …

Why Won't You Date Me? Here's a Little Tease.

November 15th, 2017


Why is Nicole so single? She's cute, funny, has a fat ass, and loves giving blow jobs. This podcast is a quest to find the answer. Join Nicole and …

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