Why Oh Why

65 EpisodesProduced by Andrea Silenzi / Panoply

Named a best new podcast of 2016 by The New York Times, NPR, Huffington Post and iTunes. Andrea Silenzi speaks with friends, experts, and guys in bars about where love, dating and sex meets technology. The show tells the stories about relationships often blurring the lines between memoir, documentar… read more

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Meet a new podcast: Bad With Money with Gaby Dunn

June 20th, 2018

52:20
Friends, it’s been a while.  I stopped by the Panoply studios to chat with our old Why Oh Why producer, Lindsey. Somehow, she's been able to fill the …

Meet a new podcast: By The Book

February 8th, 2018

41:53
Oh, hey there! I'm back again to introduce you to another great show from my friends at Panoply: By The Book. Their latest episode is all about The Five Love Languages, and I think you'll really get a kick out of how …

Meet a new podcast: When Meghan Met Harry

January 10th, 2018

25:13
Hey guys. Remember me? You know, Andrea Silenzi? It hasn't been that long. I popped back in the studio for a little update, and because Why Oh Why's producer, Lindsey, had some news to tell me.

And no, this is not a new …

#59: Loose Ends

December 26th, 2017

40:20
We have news. Starting in 2018, we're taking a break from making Why Oh Why. While we can't predict the future, let's call it a break not a breakup.

For this special episode, we'll hear from a wide range of past guests …

#58: Just Another Sad Love Song

December 17th, 2017

53:18
This summer, Schuyler shared a playlist of songs that have helped her cope with depression and anxiety. It moved a lot of people in her life to reach out, including Tom.

For all the feels, check out the playlists …

#57: Casual

December 8th, 2017

42:00
After you've developed an allergy to casual sex, is there a cure? We talk with comedy writer and performer Matteson Perry about keeping things casual. He's the author of "Available: A Memoir of Heartbreak, Hookups, Love …

#56: Stage a Fight with Esther Perel

December 1st, 2017

58:04
Esther Perel has ideas for how to humor yourself on your first dates using a bit of role play. She's the host of the Audible original podcast "Where …

#55: Live in Chicago - Find Your Single Ladies

November 23rd, 2017

36:21
Live from Chicago Theater Works, our show begins with the love story. Hear how a first date turned into a meaningful relationship for six single women

Panoply Fall 2017 Trailer

November 20th, 2017

3:33
We’re thrilled to present Panoply’s Fall 2017 lineup of shows. They include the satirical self-improvement show “Dexter Guff is Smarter Than You (And You Can Be Too),” the creepy paranormal series “Haunted,” “Family …

#54: End of the World Sex

November 17th, 2017

45:29
On election night last November, the world shifted beneath our feet... but what was going on our bedrooms? Nona Willis Aronowitz is a features editor at Splinter and writes a newsletter called "Fucking Through the …

#53: Dating While Brian

November 9th, 2017

46:57
Brian has Muscular Dystrophy and gets around in a wheelchair, but that doesn't mean he won't make out with your girlfriend when you're not looking. …

#52: Horrible Anonymous

October 27th, 2017

40:37
You know that hit podcast where a comedian talks with an anonymous person for an hour, no holds barred? We love that show! That's why we wanted to …

#51: Ghosting Stories

October 20th, 2017

43:56
Ghosting has been called the millennial way of breaking up, but that doesn't make the phenomenon any less haunting for its victims. Just in time for …

#50: Stop Dating Older Guys

October 12th, 2017

42:29
The age gap between men and women in heterosexual dating has become a fact of life in the 21st century. The Guardian’s Mona Chalabi suggests it’s time for that to change. Read her op-ed "I Want My 2.3 Bonus Years" in …

#49: Birth Control by Stapler

October 5th, 2017

37:32
The arm implant, known as Nexplanon, is a birth control option that's slightly more effective than the IUD, and less painful to insert. Why aren't we …

#48: The Perfect Storm

September 23rd, 2017

39:37
While Hurricane Irma sped towards Miami, Emily decided to ask a guy from Bumble if he wanted to evacuate with her as a 3rd date. Her family has a …

#47: Puppies or Ice Cream?

September 16th, 2017

49:17
Helen Zaltzman has a way with words, which is why we're putting her to work solving one of the trickiest parts of online dating—composing your …

#46: Leagues Over the Sea

September 8th, 2017

27:04
This week, with Bumble Mike in tow, we set sail on a singles mixer, organized by The League. Is finding a date while stuck on a boat easier than swiping through the apps? And more importantly, who's your favorite yacht …

#45: My Friend the Human Shield

August 29th, 2017

30:43
In this episode, we talk to a human shield and a human billboard. First, Al Letson was just trying to cover a demonstration—an anti-hate rally in Berkeley. When he saw a group of balaclava-clad men descend on an …

#44: Going Out with Randy

August 21st, 2017

27:00
Can flirting with your problematic friend help you date better in the wild? Our regular guest, Randy, stops by to help your host cure a bad case of …

#43: A Man and a Woman Walk into a Bar

August 13th, 2017

28:51
Today on the show, we’re finally tackling THE QUESTION we're asked the most frequently as a podcast about dating: "Who should pay for the drink on a …

#42: One Short Episode

July 29th, 2017

21:37
When determining your criteria for a date, how much should height matter? We'll talk to one woman who has always known exactly what she's looking for …

#41: Can You Fall in Love with Anyone?

July 23rd, 2017

38:56
If you can fall in love with anyone, how do you choose well? Mandy Len Catron offers an answer. She's the author of the book How to Fall in Love with Anyone. She also wrote the Modern Love essay "To Fall in Love with …

#40: Game of Groans

July 17th, 2017

33:07
Many fans of the HBO show Game of Thrones use photos of themselves sitting proudly atop an Iron Throne replica for their online dating profile …

#39: Live at Bonobos - Making Out in LA

July 13th, 2017

42:44
What's the biggest difference between dating in LA and dating in NYC? Our running theory: there's more making out, usually in or near cars. We'll offer advice for Angelenos with help from TV kissing expert, Erica Rose. …

#38: Dressing Room Confessionals

July 9th, 2017

37:33
This summer, we went on the road to tape live shows at Bonobos Guideshops in NYC, Chicago, and LA. And in true Why Oh Why fashion, we asked our audience to tell us their deepest secrets in makeshift confessional booths …

#37: Live at Bonobos - Branching Out in Chicago

June 30th, 2017

32:38
Sometimes in order to find love, you have to figure out what you love to do. We begin by exploring our Chicago roots, and a story of how Andrea's mom answered the question, "What do you like to do for fun?" Then …

#36: Like a Virgin

June 26th, 2017

31:13
Are millennials spending too much time behind their screens and not enough time in the back seats of cars? Recent studies show that the generational cohorts born in the 1980's and 1990's are starting their sex lives …

#35: Data-ing

June 15th, 2017

34:06
The persona we create online or on apps isn't very representative of what's going in our lives. So we brought in Seth Stephens-Davidowitz, author of

#34: Live at Bonobos - The Rules for Dating in NYC

June 14th, 2017

40:49
We begin with a story: The tale of your host's earliest ancestor’s dating life, and the love life of a more recent relative, Grandma Phyllis. Then …

#33: Why So Forlorn, OK Cupid?

June 8th, 2017

54:12
Does OK Cupid's app icon tell a larger narrative of chaos and distress? Let's use the logo design of popular dating apps to explore the state of the …

#32: Deep in the Woods

June 1st, 2017

28:48
Over at Why Oh Why HQ, we're planning quite the event for our first live show with Bonobos. And it got us thinking about the joy of crafting a live show and the fun of experimenting with the medium. Today, we'll listen …

#31: Daddy Randy

May 13th, 2017

28:06
The other day, Randy called to say he was outside Panoply studios. Didn't we get his fax messages? Hear why our show's favorite regular guest is …

#30: Don't Listen If You're My Ex-Boyfriend

May 5th, 2017

35:08
How do you even begin to deal with heart break? Your host weighs the advice.

We'll speak with Olga Pronin, the marketing manager at Wham-O.

Dr. Fred Nour is a neuroscientist and wrote the book True Love.

Gretchen Rubin

#29: Hotter on Bumble, Part 2

April 21st, 2017

39:07
If our potential matches on Bumble feel hotter than other apps, who's making that decision? What does this mean for us normals?

Reynald Adolphe caught …

#28: Hotter on Bumble, Part 1

April 14th, 2017

30:47
Bumble is held up as Silicon Valley's gift to single women. Finally, a dating app made with us in mind. But after you download the app and start swiping, does it live up to the reputation?

In this episode, you heard …

#27: Muscle Thrasher

April 7th, 2017

39:55
In June 2013, your host and friends independently piloted a podcast idea called "Like Like." The concept involved setting up blind dates and …

#26: Aspiring Dads Focus Group

March 31st, 2017

34:01
In which six single guys split between D.C. and Brooklyn studios share their plans for the future—down to the baby names. For listeners who aren't accustomed to hearing straight men talk about these things, queue the …

#25: Your Best Foot

March 24th, 2017

20:02
What do you do when you meet someone who doesn't meet your most essential criteria? Why Oh Why explores how turning thirty can change your dating life for the better.

#TryPod:
All this month, we’re asking you to tell a …

#24: Tips from a Gentleman

March 17th, 2017

25:34
Jim's a 40-something guy who lives in Florida and exclusively dates strippers. What can he teach your host about improving her dating life in NYC?

Tell Us:
What do you make of Jim? Is he a real world Richard Gere seeking …

#23: As Seen on TV

March 10th, 2017

24:29
In a time when dating feels so broken, could The Bachelor be a reasonable last resort? What does a reality show get right?

To discuss this week's …

#8: How Will I Know (Welcome, Planet Money Fans!)

March 2nd, 2017

18:32
The wonderful team at NPR's Planet Money just rebroadcast an episode that changed the life of your host. To welcome any new listeners into our show, …

#22: Going There

February 25th, 2017

33:41
Today's episode is basically StoryCorps, but between total strangers in the back of a bar with the potential of sex later.

Have you ever had a …

#21: One Date at a Time

February 16th, 2017

31:02
Think about it: The de facto first date invitation tends to be "let's get a drink." What's a single person to do when they don't imbibe?

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#20: Do I Hate Men?

February 9th, 2017

20:59
Before listening to this week's show, we recommend starting out with our "Dudes in Bars" episode from last week. It's #19.

For this week's show, we go back to the day of the Women's March, back to our army of lady …

#19: Dudes in Bars on January 21, 2017

February 2nd, 2017

27:17
How do we date men in a time when our rights are under attack? We sent 10 ladies into bars across the country on the day of the historic Women's March.

To discuss this week's episode, head to facebook.com/whyohwhyradio

#18: What Ifs and Butts

January 26th, 2017

27:44
Is Uber the new Tinder? A lesson in how to shoot your shot when life sends you a cute driver. You can find Kelli on Twitter @KelliAmirah, and see her GIF-filled story here

Then, for the bottom half of our episode, a …

#17: Alone Forever

January 20th, 2017

22:22
What's going on with you romantically? Nothing? Our guest Aimée Lutkin says that's okay.

You can read her Jezebel piece here, follow her on Twitter

#16: Randy's Mema Died

January 13th, 2017

25:14
This week on the show, our regular guest Randy finally goes off the deep end. Will your host dive in after him?

Yes, it's a real website:

#15: The Quiznos Guy

January 6th, 2017

25:25
When your host first met Randy, it was the opposite of a meet-cute. We'll revisit the phone call that kicked off years of quasi-friendship.

To discuss this week's episode, head to facebook.com/whyohwhyradio or tweet with

#14: Hacking the Uterus 2.0

December 22nd, 2016

50:10
The inexpensive reproductive healthcare coverage offered by the Affordable Care Act may soon be a distant memory. On today's show, we speak with a woman fresh off her own IUD insertion procedure to see how she's …

#13: Single Straight Lady Focus Group

December 20th, 2016

28:17
Back in episode #1, we welcomed 10 dudes into the studio to shout about their dating lives. This week, our latest focus group invites 14 single ladies in New York and D.C. to chat about the many thrills and face palms …

#12: Oblique Strategies

December 6th, 2016

25:00
Single? Chances are, someone who is decidedly not single has given you advice lately. This week, Andrea asks economist and journalist Tim Harford to vet the various dating advice she's heard from friends and fellow …

#11: Listen to Your Heart

November 29th, 2016

20:51
When your host became newly single, she was shocked to discover that Tinder had made a drastic change as well. Like when silent films turned into …

#10: Separation of Church and Date

November 22nd, 2016

27:39
We ask a group of Christian ministers about what it's like to date when your other big relationship in life is with God. Our panel includes Amy …

#9: Just My Swipe

November 17th, 2016

33:46
This week, we're heading into the past, to a simpler time. When Why Oh Why re-launched on Panoply in the fall, we celebrated with our own special live show at the Kraine Theater in New York City. Andrea helped her …

#8: How Will I Know

November 8th, 2016

25:26
This week on Why Oh Why, a look back at the role this show has played in your host's personal life. Travel through the past three years as Andrea …

#7: Too Old for Meet Cute

November 1st, 2016

27:21
This week on Why Oh Why, Andrea’s friend Joanna tells the story of a truly horrible first date. It’s one of those dates that makes the other people …

#6: Dating with the Stars

October 25th, 2016

29:02
This week on Why Oh Why, we attempt to plant one lucky listener inside a private dating app for celebrities, Founded by a PR executive in 2015, Raya targets "users in creative industries," which is a coded way of …

#5: A Celebration of Awkwardness

October 17th, 2016

28:52
At the end of Episode #3, a surprise ending left us all cringing from head to toe. As an antidote, this week we welcome David back into the studio to share his side of the story. Plus, we head back to Bushwick to get a …

#4: Hillary Clinton Sex Dream

October 11th, 2016

17:10
This week, a love story that takes place in the mind of a mathematician-turned-artist. Sarah Sole began her unique obsession with Hillary Clinton in …

#3: Can Meddling Help a First Date?

October 3rd, 2016

29:17
This week on Why Oh Why, Kate and David go on a first date at a bar in Brooklyn. You might remember these two from the focus group episode--David is the guy who asked Kate out at the end. And just for you, dear …

#2: Randy's First Kiss

September 26th, 2016

23:30
Remember Randy from last week's focus group? He told us why he's not on any of the dating apps, and how he meets women at Club Seacrets in Ocean …

#1: Single Straight Guy Focus Group

September 19th, 2016

19:12
In this debut episode, Andrea finds out what's been going on in the dating world. As her guide: a focus group of ten single, straight guys split between D.C. and Brooklyn studios. With some liquid lubrication, the guys …

Trailer

September 12th, 2016

1:28
Your host was hoping to play highlights from the new show, but found something better instead. Why Oh Why returns on Monday, September 19th.

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