Wake Up To Your Life

It happens to all of us.  We compare ourselves to other people.  And sometimes that leaves us feeling bad about ourselves.

When you come down with a case of "comparisonitis", there are things you can do to improve …

Please stop saying you're fat.  Please stop hating your body.

With care, compassion and practice you can learn how to love your as she is today.

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When your emotions take over and you're all worked up, you need to get grounded.  

In this episode I share a mindfulness technique as taught by the …

If you're having a hard time sticking to your resolutions, practicing two things will help you get back on track:

SELF-COMPASSION and BRAVERY

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Haters gonna hate.  We know this.  But it still hurts.

In this episode I remind you of some things to think about when you find yourself ruminating on something a meanie has said about you.

I'm rooting for you!

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Your thoughts are driving your actions and your actions create your results.

If you have junk thoughts, it's tough to create a life you love.

In …

You have at least one.  Maybe you have several.  Family members you love, but they still get under your skin.

They insist on getting into political …

Have you ever abandoned yourself in a relationship? It can look like sacrificing things that are really important to you in order to fit into someone else's life.  This can be a relationship killer.

So can emotional …

In this episode I answer listener questions.

Questions like, how do I reconnect with my partner?  How do I stay on track with my goals when there are so many distractionns?  How do I form healthy habits?  

If you have a …

What do you regret?

When was a time you led with your heart?

What is love?

What is a good person?

These are among the questions posed by Rabbi Steve Leder in his latest book, For You When I Am Gone.

Rabbi Leder has …

When you experience rejection or criticism, what do you do?  I've been known to get defensive, cry, take it personally, feel sick to my stomach, then eat chips and salsa.  Can you relate?

There are much better ways to …

Holding onto anger isn't good for you. 

But if someone has really hurt you, it can be hard to let go of it.

In this episode, Mental Health …

It's a skill that can change your life. 

BRAVERY

You can learn how to be brave.  And once you do, you can apply the skill to your relationships, career, health and finances.

To be brave, you need GOALS. Big, …

Episode 100 brings you a special guest host.  Avid listeners will recall Colonoscopy Nicole, who has since been renamed "Nicolonoscopy".  (How could …

What's an old soundtrack?  Those broken, negative thought loops that run through your brain.  The ones that say that you don't measure up, you're not …

You are too important to give up on yourself.

The world needs your brand of weirdness!

If you're about to give up on your dreams, listen to this episode.  It's a quick reminder of what to do when you're tired, burned …

Your daughter doesn't get invited to the sleepover and she's upset.  Do you call the girl's mom?  

Your son forgets to bring his homework to …

Lean into the ache... don't try to outrun it. 

Love is all that matters. 

Your relationships need to be nurtured.

Make peace with your body.  She's the only one you get.

Forgiveness is mandatory.  I know it sucks.  But …

Take a moment to think about big mistakes you've made.  Now imagine having the world know about those mistakes.

That's what happened to Eugene Robinson.  Eugene played football in the NFL for 16 seasons.  He played in …

You have someone you love to hate and keep looking at his or her social media.  That's hate scrolling.  I'm guilty!

You read every depressing story …

Sending your kids off to college is bittersweet.

On the one hand, you're so proud!  You wanted this to happen.  It's the order of things.

On the …

Look on the bright side.  It'll all work out.  Everything happens for a reason.  Things could be worse.

#shutup  

Toxic positivity isn't …

Do ever say, "I've had a hard day.  I deserve a drink."

Do you believe that you need alcohol to have fun?

Do you use it to ease your social anxiety?

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If you're feeling down in the dumps, one sure fire way to feel better is to do something nice for someone else.  I know, I know... you're thinking …

If you're tired of small talk and long for deep, meaningful conversations, this is for you.

Be interested and interesting.

Be a good listnener.

Ask …

You have many thoughts you think are true, but are actually lies.

Thoughts like: I'm not good enough, I can't make more money, I'll never find love... all LIES!

Listen to this quick episode in which I remind you to …

Apartment = Trigger

Anniversary = Trigger

Graduation = Trigger

I'd been feeling more "normal" for a while.  Then a series of things triggered me, …

But grieving can feel scary and overwhelming.  How do we feel our feelings without getting swallowed up …

Fear and comparison can keep you stuck.

When people say "don't compare" and "be fearless" that's not partiuclarly helpful. 

Listen to this quick …

If you're single and looking for love, this episode is for you.  And coupled up folks, you might learn something too!

Jennifer Hurvitz is a dating …

Is it difficult to have honest and vulnerable conversations with your partner about sex?  Sex therapist Dr. Laurie Watson wants to normalize talking …

Stop making everything so damn hard already!!!

CEO coach Danielle Jefferson believes we can make things easier.  And when things are easier, we can enjoy our lives more.  

Danielle works with small business owners to …

I tell you what I've learned about myself, how I deal with loneliness and anger, and how I've learned to enjoy my …

You think they do because you see them on social media and they appear to be killing it.

But there was a time they didn't know what they were doing …

Perhaps you think you need a different body, a better job, a relationship, or a million dollars to be happy.

Your fixed idea of what you think you …

If you're tired of having the same fight with your partner over and over again, or if you feel more like roomates than lovers, this episode is for you. It's also …

Two simple words that can be so difficult to say… I’m sorry.   If you value your relationships, you need to be able to say these words and receive …

If someone says something that upsets you and you just can't stop thinking about it, put the comment through the filter of True, Not True, Maybe True.

If you get really defensive when someone offers you feedback, this …

You know those days when you wake up and think… ugh I just CAN’T today!  You think you can’t face your boss, have that difficult conversation, clean …

My friend Lily is six years old and she has something she calls a Happy Box.  She says she keeps her favorite treasures in it.   We should all have …

LIsten to syndicated …

NO!!!!  Those thoughts are a buzz kill.  

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It's not morbid... it's reality.  And when we intentionally think about the fact our days are numbered, it informs us …

Telling someone who is hurting that this terrible thing he or she is going through is happening for a reason won't make …

You are competent.  You are capable.  You are strong.  You can do what needs to be done.  

In this episode I share why it's critical you remind yourself constantly just how capable you are.

When my husband left me, I …

Resolutions don't work.  Keeping small promises to yourself is what creates big changes over time.  Listen as I share how to take a grandiose …

I wanted to boycott Christmas.  I didn't think I could stomach getting a tree and decorating in my new life as a single person.  I thought it would …

It's supposed to be the most wonderful time of the year.  But you're not feeling that.  Maybe that's because it's your first holiday season after …

Straighten up.  Shoulders back.  Chin up.  Your posture matters. It's connected to your confidence.  Listen to my conversation with …

You tend to think the worst is going to happen.  That catastrophic thinking is costing you.  I know, I do it too. 

I'm getting a divorce.  I have painted a bleak picture of my future.  I'm assuming everything will …

Divorce sucks.  Whether you want it or not, it blows.  I'm getting one.  My heart hurts.  I'm learning to grieve and live.

Follow me on Instagram: …

Your business didn't work out.  You're not happy with your body.  You thought you'd be married by now.  You thought you'd have kids at this point.  You didn't plan on getting divorced.  When life doesn't go according to …

I turned 51 last month.  I spent some time thinking about things I wish I'd known a long time ago.  Breathe.  Use the good towels.  Forgive.  Not every thought you have is true.  Stuff like that.  I hope that my …

Remember playing Hot/Cold when you were a kid?  Someone would hide an object and you'd have to find it.  If you were getting closer to it, he or she …

If you'd like to feel better, practice self compassion.  Speak to yourself the way you would to a good friend.  In this episode, learn more about why …

Being selfish can come very easily for many of us.  What if we decided to be more giving... to think more about what we can give rather than what we can get?  My friend Meghan Trainor is the most incredible fitness …

When you feel irritated by your spouse, your co-workers, your kids, neighbors or anyone... it's easy to think, "if only they would stop doing what …

I had to give a speech on confidence recently to a group of business owners.  Ironically, I didn't feel all that confident myself.  When you are plagued with self doubt and insecurity, you can coach yourself out of that …

If you've ever said that you're not a creative person, this conversation is for you.  kenT Youngstrom is a successful artist whose work hangs in the …

When you receive news you don't like, how do you handle it?  Do you resist it, fight against it, get caught up in anger, and then turn to unhealthy …

Isn't there more to life than THIS?!  If you've ever had that thought, perhaps you're struggling to find your purpose.  Discovering what your purpose …

If you find yourself constantly saying YES when you want to say NO, you probably feel resentful.  Learning how to say "no" is good self-care.  No is …

What is she wearing?! I knew their marriage would never last... I mean do you hear how she talks to him?  She hasn't aged well at all.

Be honest.  …

This title tells you nothing about this episode.  But trust me, the Native American parable of the Two Wolves is a good one.  It reminds us that we …

I don't care if you think affirmations are hokey.  They really work!  I share some I practice on the daily.  Remove the negative thoughts and tell …

If you get triggered by something, what do you do?  Do you REACT or RESPOND?  Being reactive often means we're letting our emotions run our lives.  There are ways to ground yourself and choose how to respond to any …

If talking to your teen or tween makes you crazy, you need to listen to this episode.  Practicing this one technique will make all the difference with your child.  It's called "Botox Brow".  Parenting expert, author and …

What do I do if I feel undervalued at my job?  Why can't I lose weight?  How do I say no without hurting someone's feelings?  Should I chase my …

Overthinking is killing your dreams.  Overthinking is keeping you from being productive, it's keeping you stuck, it's keeping you from taking action.  Overthinking is a nice hiding place.  You can tell yourself you're …

If you find it hard to forgive people, you're in the right place.  If holding a grudge is your jam, you need to listen.  Being unforgiving hurts …

Life coaches ask a lot of questions.  And for good reason.  When you're asked a thought-provoking, powerful question, you come up with insightful …

Singer/songwriter Edwin McCain recorded two of the most popular love songs in pop music history.... I'll Be and I Could Not Ask for More.  He'd …

You don't make the sale, you don't get the job, your boyfriend breaks up with you, you don't win the Emmy award.  The last one just happened to me.  And I was really bummed out about it.  I was thinking that my work is …

If you want deeper and more meaningful friendships, you want  "frientimacy".  Shasta Nelson is a friendship expert who coined that word.  She says to …

If you want to pay off debt, spend less than you make.  That's not exactly breaking news.  Bernadette Joy is a money expert.  She says to really make …

If you find yourself getting caught in negative thinking, this episode is for you.  When you spend a lot of time indulging negative thoughts, it's a …

You've got that thing you want to do.  Change your career, write a book, public speaking, start your side hustle.  But every time you think about it, fear shows up and ruins all the fun.  In this episode I talk about …

It's easy to put your marriage on autopilot.  You're cruising along, busy with kids and work and chores and errands.  Then you wonder why you feel so disconnected from your spouse.  A great marriage doesn't just happen …

When your jeans are unforgiving and cutting off your circulation, do you ever think, "That's it.  I'm doing a juice cleanse for the next three …

Are there parts of your past that you would rather not remember?  My guest on this episode talks about the importance of owning your story.  Roshanda …

I have Tourette Syndrome.  And because of that, I spent much of my life thinking I was weird, unlovable and not as good as other people.  In this episode I talk about my tics.  And I also share the beauty that has come …

Do you have a hard time making decisions?  Do you catch yourself often saying "I don't know" or "I'm confused"?  Maybe you don't trust yourself to make the "right" decision so instead you just never decide.  Doing this …

People with swagger put themselves out there, they’re bold, they take risks.  How would having just a little more swagger change your career, your …

If you've ever said, "I don't want to get my hopes up", listen to this episode.  I think we SHOULD have hope.  You dress rehearse disappointment so that you won't be bummed out if you don't get the job or if the person …

I wrap up some of the big takeaways from this year's Wake Up To Your Life episodes and how they can help you stop living on autopilot.  The importance of your thought, feeling your feelings, setting and achieving goals, …

If you get easily discouraged, you're feeling low-vibe, or experiencing a lot of negativity because of your circumstances, this episode is for you.  Fitness Coach Meghan Trainor is a FIREBALL.  Listen as Meghan shares …

Prollins (prol-inz)

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Something that is a problem, problematic, not to your liking.  Can also be a …

Don't write off the holidays!  I know things feel impossibly difficult right now.  But you really can have more moments of enjoyment this season by …

If you're scrolling on social media and find yourself thinking... she's so much prettier than me, I could never be as successful as her, her life is …

I'm making a big change in my life.  I'm saying goodbye to my TV career after nearly three decades and I'm going all in with my coaching business. I'm excited and scared.  In this episode I talk about how we can embrace …

When you repeatedly say no to your dreams, you shortchange yourself and those around you.  What would happen if you said "yes" to what's in your …

The fear of failure can keep you from trying new things or ever really GOING FOR IT.  As a life coach I see this with my clients.  I also experience it myself.  In this episode I talk about how you can reframe the way …

What brings me joy?

What do I truly want?

What brings me energy?

What lights me up?

Asking these questions really shook up Sarah Colon Harris.  She …

You doubt your skills.  You think other people in the room are more qualified than you.  You're worried everyone will think you're a fraud.  Imposter Syndrome hits all of us.  I have experienced this as a TV news …

No one wants to have tough conversations.  But avoiding them comes at a cost.  Issues don't get resolved and resentments can build.  But if a …

Things aren't happening as quickly as you'd like.  You want your thinner body NOW!  You want your business to be booming NOW!  When you don't see …

I have lived with anxiety for as long as I can remember.  Shallow breathing, tightness in the chest, sweaty pits... check.  Over the years I have used food, wine, shopping and Netflix to cope.  Guess what?  All that got …

Many times we can be our own worst enemy.  We get caught up in fear, comparison, low self-worth, etc.  On this episode I talk with multi-millionaire …