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Reflections from the Red Chair with Ms. Ayana

106 EpisodesProduced by Ms. Ayana Burnett, LCSWC; Psychotherapist & Soul CoachWebsite

Some insights are too good to keep to one selves, this is a space where I shall share of the treasures that Life and the Universe have gifted me to help uplift the other seekers of my global tribe. Join me, an expert in the art of personal transformation, as I share wisdom that has served thousands … read more

106 Episodes | 2019 - 2023

Episode 106: Dismantling Self-Doubt

September 27th, 2023


In this episode, we fearlessly tackle the notion of shedding that old, worn-out internal measuring system that might have you secretly feeling like a …

Episode 105: Dem Darn Happy People

June 21st, 2023


It's time to debunk the misconceptions and get real about what it means to be happy! You know that whole idea that happiness is either something …

Episode 104: Mom-Mom Said No, Confronting Disappointment

May 14th, 2023


Have you ever been let down? Experienced the devastation that comes with being told “no” to your heart’s desire despite it being so close you can …

Episode 103: Nightmares

January 22nd, 2023


Today, I'm talking about...nightmares.  Could there be a higher purpose to those scary dreams that can sometimes wake you up in a sweat? Let's …

Episode 102: Stillness

January 13th, 2023


Often when divorcing parents come to me, one has been estranged from their child and they don't know why.  They feel heartbroken and are full of fear …

Episode 101: Will Did A Thang!

March 30th, 2022


Yes, ladies and gentlemen. Will Smith did that thang. He did it. He was exposed to a vulnerable moment and he slapped the ish out of Chris Rock. …

Episode 100: Dare to Dream

December 19th, 2021


In spirit of the holy days, I am delighted to deliver this special message to you. I have been waiting over a year to share this (so give grace when …

Episode 99: My Obsession with Self-Development

December 12th, 2021


Okay, obsession might be too strong of a word.  Yet I definitely have had a long standing passion and love affair with self-development.  Today, I share why in hopes that you too might be inspired to embrace this …

Episode 98: Matrix - love it or hate it?

December 5th, 2021


Have you heard that the 4th Matrix Movie debuts on the 22nd this month?!! It does!!! And I’m super excited. In fact, the trilogy is my inspiration for today’s episode. When I share how much I love these movies, I’m …

Episode 97: Where my trekkies at?

November 7th, 2021


“How are you living in your meantime?” During the moments of uncertainty between knowing what you desire and living without it, are you anxious? Are you frustrated? Annoyed? Criticizing yourself or judging yourself? We …

Episode 96: Lessons from the Play Kitchen

October 31st, 2021


How do you respond when the unexpected hits?  Today, I was able to stay cool, calm and collected when a hazard moment occurred. And more importantly, …

Episode 95: What do when drowning in overwhelm?

October 24th, 2021


Today, I want to speak to those parents who are amidst ligation and fighting over their rights to see their children.  No one says that want to be in a legal battle when I grow up, yet it is the reality for many.  If …

Episode 94: What to do when the bliss is gone?

October 12th, 2021


Bliss! Such a wonderful state when we are there!  And yet, like with most pleasurable things, it can flee aww too soon.  So what do you do when the …

Episode 93: Is it simpler than we think?

October 3rd, 2021


In these unscripted times, we can find ourselves seeking. Seeking 'the right way" or the perfect solution to get us our desired outcome.  This …

Episode 92: "I don't wanna do 'the work' today!"

September 27th, 2021


I was once asked, "Ms. Ayana, what happens when I'm doing 'the work' and it still isn't helping?"  Has this happened to you too?  Where you are doing …

Episode 91: Let's Talk About Love

September 12th, 2021


Still ‘searching’ for your ‘soulmate’ or seeking ‘your person’? In this episode, I share wisdom that was inspired in the unlikeliest of …

Episode 90: Poor vs. Rich

September 5th, 2021


Do you believe that rich and poor are only defined by one’s economic status? Or might there be more to this conversation?

We talk about being poor or rich often. Yet when we do so, we are usually speaking in terms of …

Episode 89: Confused while following the spiritual path?

August 29th, 2021


Have you noticed how mainstream 'walking the spiritual path' has become? Talk of seeking balance and oneness with the Creator is quite common.  Yet, there's also an underlying expectation of finding the 'right' way to …

Episode 88: I'm's why

August 22nd, 2021


Holding negative feelings and thoughts internally can be burdensome, especially when we do so alone.  Let’s reflect on the ways we unknowingly …

Episode 87: Reframing - The Power of The Mind

August 15th, 2021


Have you ever replayed a hurtful experience in your mind over and over again? Maybe it was an argument, a disappointment or even heartache. Sometimes …

Episode 86: The Orange Cone Zone Pt. 2

August 8th, 2021


Ya’ll! Life is always speaking to us. In today’s podcast, I reveal another insight that Life has shared about The Orange Cone Zone. Not sure or forgotten what The Orange Cone Zone is? Don’t recall what the higher …

Episode 85: Divorce...yuk!

August 1st, 2021


Who likes divorce?  I certainly don’t. Yet not for the reasons you think.

Of course we can agree that divorce brings forth big change. So for those of you who are struggling with this experience, let’s reflect.

Just for …

Episode 84: Orange Cone Zone

July 25th, 2021


Everybody encounters struggle at one time or another. I am no different!  Yet how do we deal when there is chaos all around? How do we keep motivated when change is knocking us off our behinds and we are stretched …

Episode 82: The ONLY Task Ever Needed on Your Daily To Do List

July 11th, 2021


This is one of my all time favorite episodes!!! Are you tired of the unending To Do List too?!  So exhausting!!!!  Well, I got ya!!!  Listen now and learn the only task you will need EVER!!! Yep, I can get you to JUST …

Episode 80 (Re-release): I Confess...

July 4th, 2021


Beautiful people!  Here is the re-release of Season Two's 1st Episode.  As the first version was only available on Spotify, here it is for all of you …

Episode 81: Relationship Woes

June 27th, 2021


Are you unhappy with your mate? If so, you aren’t alone.  Lots of us right now are dissatisfied when we look at our relationship CHOICES.  In today’s episode, I invite you to look inside yourself.  You aren’t to …

Episode 79: Where you at?

August 16th, 2020


Let me know what is on your mind. Send me your questions via the voicemail link or email me at Let’s make season 2 all about you!


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Bonus Episode 78: Your Turn...

August 8th, 2020


Preparing for more is a step... take a listen for how you can be a part of the next season!!!


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Episode 77: The 6th Love Language?

July 30th, 2020


Have you heard of the 5 Love Languages?  Well, I think I just might have discovered a 6th.  Take a listen! Then visit to leave me a voice message and let me know what you desire me to …

Episode 76: Why you’re not taking action....

July 5th, 2020


Do you know what is needed to improve your life yet you aren’t doing it? Want to know why? I got you! Take a listen!


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Episode 75: What NOT do after being disappointed by your partner!

June 28th, 2020


If you find yourself enraged when your partner just isn’t putting forth their best, this episode is for you!!!


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Episode 74: Why Astrology’s Approach to Relationships may be what you need!

June 21st, 2020


Let’s explore the matter of relationships today! What if we been taught all wrong? Perhaps the Stars can point the way!


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You been listening, but now what?!

June 14th, 2020


I have news for you! With over 70 episodes, I have an invitation for you!!! Let’s Go Deeper Together! Take a listen for details...


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Episode 72: Perfect Imperfections...

June 7th, 2020


Today, I reflect deeper on the matter of Self-Love.  Even once you think you got it, you realize you don't.  Take a listen for what do when you try it all and it still ain't working!  

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Episode 71: True Prayer Meditation

May 27th, 2020


Today, I am switching it up! As a gift to you, I present one of my favorite meditations to help get your through these unscripted times!


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Episode 70: The #1 Killer of Relationship Success

May 9th, 2020


Some insights are so great, they must be shared. Let’s explore the topic of relationship success a little deeper today. Take a listen!


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Episode 69: It’s what about the kids?

April 27th, 2020


This episode explores the realities of addressing the end of a loving (at least it use to be) relationship. Making the decision to leave your partner is one what about your children?


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Episode 68: Supporting your child through emotional pain

April 21st, 2020


Wondering how to support your child through the Parent Reunification process? Or a similar process that is likely to put them face to face with the memory of emotional pain? This episode is for you!


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Episode 67: Unequally Yoked...

April 20th, 2020


We often talk about meeting “The One” or writing out “The List” of what we want in the ideal mate. This, however, is only part of the conversation... take a listen as I reflect about the most important aspect of this …

Episode 66: The Pursuit of Relief

April 19th, 2020


We always hear about the pursuit of happiness, yet what if there is more? What if what we want is actually something different....what about the pursuit of relief? Let’s ponder together!


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Episode 65: Trying to understand this thing called life?

April 15th, 2020


Have you ever heard that “life is a process”? Wonder what this really means? I have learned there is a bit more to it all... have a listen!


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Episode 64: Making Joint Custody Work... For Real!!

April 10th, 2020


In divorce, many parents naturally ask for 50-50 custody. Yet it is important to know what it really looks like and what is needed to truly make it …

Episode 63: What happens if we un-name emotions?

April 8th, 2020


I continue our examination of emotional flow with a radical idea...


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Quarantine Reflections....Again (pt 3)

April 3rd, 2020


Just as we are still not yet through the thick of this season (what I call a Global Holyday), I too am not yet done sharing my thoughts about the …

Episode 61: Emotional Flow (pt 3)

April 1st, 2020


I got more for you regarding how emotions truly work!!!  So let's get to it.  Today, we will explore the question: What do you do next when you are …

Quarantine Special - part 2

March 29th, 2020


For those who are still curious about my view of current affairs....for those asking why this might be happening for us...for those who just want to take a break from all the doom and gloom...this episode is for YOU!!!! 

Episode 59: Emotional Flow (pt 2): Good vs Bad Feelings

March 27th, 2020


Let's continue our exploration of our internal emotional worlds, shall we!   Today, I bring you lesson #2.  Listen as I provide us with a new way to respond to those pesky negative feelings that just can't seem to stay …


March 25th, 2020


During this quarantine time, I want to gift you some inspiration!  This episode was recorded live about two weeks ago while in Miami.  Who would have …

Episode 56: Emotional Flow, lesson #1

March 20th, 2020


As promised, here is your first lesson in understanding your inner world of emotions. Lesson #1 is not likely what you think.... listen now!


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Quarantine Special (pt 1 ): Why I’m not freaking out with the rest of the world...

March 20th, 2020


Many have asked me what my reaction is to the latest state of affairs. Here it is ....part 1.


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Episode 55: Encountering Difficult Feelings

March 18th, 2020


Riding the emotional rollercoaster can be most unpleasant .... yet what if there is a higher purpose to feeling bad... listen as I explore a new …

Episode 54: Emotional Security

March 15th, 2020


Do you know what emotional security even is? Have you experienced it? Listen as I reflect what is on my heart about this elusive topic...


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Episode 53: Jealous? Of course not....

March 4th, 2020


Not only have we labeled certain emotions as good or bad, we have gone as far as to deny when we are experiencing bad feelings. Listen in as I share how are bad feelings, such a jealousy , may indeed have a higher …

Episode 52: This stuff is hard!

February 19th, 2020


I am so grateful you are listening and now I owe you something! Take a listen...


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Episode 51: The Pursuit of Happiness - what they didn’t tell you!

February 18th, 2020


So many of us are seeking happiness, yet do we really know what happiness is and more importantly, what it isn’t?! Let’s explore together and sort the truth from the lie! Connect with me on IG @LivingLightOnline


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Episode 50: Ecstasy & Suffering

February 15th, 2020


Let’s continue our journey into understanding the dark side of the emotional spectrum...listen as I review the wisdom from an elder while seeking to explore the relationship between ecstasy and suffering...


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Episode 49: What to do when encountering your dark side?

February 13th, 2020


I have been sharing a lot about positive thought, yet what happens when you find your thoughts have gone dark? Take a listen...


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Episode 48: The Puzzling Nature of Soulmates

February 13th, 2020


Today, I share an excerpt from a book by Florence Shinn about Marriage. Perhaps this wise elder’s words can help us wrap our minds around the true …

Episode 47: The Wisest Ones are Not Who Think....

February 11th, 2020


Today, I want to reveal who I find to be the wisest teachers on the planet .... it’s not who you think 😉. Lets listen together and learn what they have to share!


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Episode 46: Break-Ups

February 10th, 2020


This morning as me reflection on the common idea that relationships are hard... yet perhaps there is more to this ... take a listen!


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Episode 45: What exactly is Emotional Independence?

January 15th, 2020


There are all types of terms you discover when researching and exploring the realm of self-help. Yet, what do they truly mean? Today, listen as I …

Episode 44: Three Powerful Words that Will Change Your Life

January 10th, 2020


Let’s explore yet another step along our pathway to true lasting Happiness... it’s easier than you think!


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Episode 43 - Ready for change? Do this!

January 5th, 2020


So you are ready to commit to you...Great! Yet, want to know the next step? Listen here!


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Episode 42: The Happiness Formula - Part 2

December 28th, 2019


Happiness may indeed be closer than you realize! Listen for the How!


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Episode 41: The Happiness Formula - Part 1

December 14th, 2019


Are you unhappy? Let’s explore what is really in the way and how to get beyond it!


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Episode 40: How ya living?

December 11th, 2019


One of my favorite teachers, Dr. Edith Fraiser, always taught us about the power of a question. One of most powerful questions we can ask ourselves …

Episode 39: How to sit the Inner Self-Critic Down...finally!

December 9th, 2019


Sometimes we have to admit that our ways are unloving. We aren’t being gentle with ourselves yet what do we do next? Take a listen while I explore one way forward.


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Episode 38: Slaying Chronic Dissatisfaction, What Are You Settling For?

December 7th, 2019


Tired of feeling dissatisfaction? Give a listen for what baby steps you can take to begin to turn things around.


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Episode 37: Perspectives

December 3rd, 2019


I’m sure you have heard “Perspective Matters”.... but let’s explore Why!


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Episode 36: Griot Power

November 29th, 2019


I am fascinated with Griots... here is why you should be too...


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Episode 35: Ladies Talk#2 - Not receiving enough from your relationship?

November 27th, 2019


Asking why they can’t just do better? Perhaps this can give you a different approach to get on the path towards getting what you want... finally!


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Episode 34: For the Parents Amidst Struggle

November 22nd, 2019


This is my response for parents who want to know how to cope with the hurt of being distant from their beloved child. Take a listen as I got you!


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Episode 33: Ladies Talk...

October 19th, 2019


Today, I want to take a minute and address my sisters! Ladies, let’s get real and examine ourselves!


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Episode 32: Tired of waiting for more? Try this!

October 9th, 2019


I’m switching it up today and asking you a question!


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Episode 31: God Talk part 3 - Claiming Your Name

September 25th, 2019


Take a listen as I continue my musing about how “God” works.


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Episode 30: How Do We Get Real Results From God?

September 10th, 2019


Spoiler Alert: If you are near children who are Santa Claus lovers, put your earbuds in NOW!!!


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Episode 29: Confronting life’s annoying roadblocks

September 9th, 2019


I don’t know anyone who is excited by a roadblock. Let’s explore if these annoying things can possibly teach us something about creating ease. Perhaps they can .... or perhaps not...


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Episode 28: God Talk

August 22nd, 2019


This episode is not for everyone. However, if you are one who has questions about “God” and what you believe, then take a listen.


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Episode 27: Counselors, Mentors & Coaches...Oh My! - the essential ingredient to get what you need

July 17th, 2019


Let’s reflect together about how to determine whether we are getting the right kind of help from our professional supports.


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Episode 26: Why The Red Chair?

July 16th, 2019


Wondering about why this podcast is titled Reflections from the Red Chair? Take a listen as I share the backstory here.


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Episode 25: Who is Ms. Ayana again?

July 15th, 2019


Want to know a little more about me? Take a listen as I quickly reintroduce myself and what this podcast is all about.


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Episode 24: Stepping Outside of Yourself

July 10th, 2019


Let’s reflect upon using this new practice to cope with relationship distress and dissatisfaction. Themes: Self-Health & Sacred Partnership


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Episode 23: Can PTSD heal itself?

July 9th, 2019


Most have heard about PTSD, yet do we truly know what it is and most importantly how to heal it? Take a listen as I put on my clinical hat and share …

Episode 22: What is Hidden in Vintage Children’s Cartoons?

July 8th, 2019


Today, I share the gems of truth found within in one of most overlooked places...


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Episode 21: The Gift of Momma Love

July 5th, 2019


My storyteller comes out and shares how my Momma’s Love taught me the formula of attracting abundance!


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Episode 20: Reflections of an Ol’Skool Queer Ally

July 4th, 2019


Take a listen to my reaction of while learning about the new school vocabulary of what started out as just LGBQ.


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Episode 19: What is the Deal with Mental Health Diagnosing?

July 3rd, 2019


Ms. Ayana puts on her clinical hat and breaks down the real deal about how Mental Health diagnosing works. Listen to get clear about what it is and what it is not. No fluff, promise!


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Episode 18: Are you fully present?, Part 2 - The Trap!

June 27th, 2019


Let’s examine the practice of being present a bit deeper. In this episode, we reflect about the relationship between showing up and engaging in routine.


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Episode 17: Are you truly present?

June 26th, 2019


We keep hearing about the practice of being in the Now, yet what does it all mean? I share how a horse named Bunny schooled me about what it means to …

Episode 16: Ode to The Kings

June 16th, 2019


This message is for the King Men of My Tribe! The Great Feminine Salutes You!


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Episode 15: Healing through Heartache - part 2

June 12th, 2019


Let’s look at what we can do with all that leftover emotion from a breakup.


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Episode 13: Observing Water - learning about the ebb and flow of emotions

June 10th, 2019


Listen as I share what Mama Ocean is teaching me about the true nature of how emotions work


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Episode 12: The Unforgiving Past - Why our partners won’t change ...

June 9th, 2019


Let’s look at what gets in the way of our mates granting our wish of being more forgiving of our mistakes.


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Episode 11: It’s Okay Not to Be Okay

June 3rd, 2019


Let’s examine our thoughts and beliefs about not feeling good. How do we truly react when we aren’t feeling positive?


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Episode 10: The Secret to Effective Therapeutic Mental Health Counseling

May 25th, 2019


Ever wondered what truly makes counseling work? I have been serving others for over 10 years as a Psychotherapist and in today’s episode, I drop the …

Episode 9: Facing Problems

May 23rd, 2019


You have heard the term, a beautiful struggle. Yet what if our thinking is all wrong and there is even more to this idea of how use view …

Episode 8: Part Two, Embracing the Beauty & The Beast

May 16th, 2019


Now that we acknowledge that our love will endure phases, what do we do? Listen for my reflections.


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Episode 7: Embracing both - The Beauty & The Beast

May 13th, 2019


Let’s talk grown folks business, the business of relationships that is!!! Listen to learn what I have discovered is one of our biggest challenges in …

Episode 6: Expressing Your True Self

May 12th, 2019


Sometimes a lyric says it all. Let’s explore the wisdom found within the chorus of one of my favorite jams ...take a listen to see which one!


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Episode 5: Giving Space to Others...

May 11th, 2019


I spoke before about the challenge of giving space to ourselves when feeling low. Now, Iet us explore the challenge of giving space to others we are invested in...


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Episode 4: Releasing the Plan

May 10th, 2019


Today’s reflection is about what happens when the plans fail you!!! Listen to find out what I now do instead of following the plan!


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Episode 3: Face to face with OverThinking....

April 25th, 2019


Listen to learn what I did when I was face to face with overthinking...


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Episode 2: Seeking Relief from Pain...

April 22nd, 2019


Today, I reflect about how my attempt to battle pain was changed by one mentor’s wisdom...


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Episode 1: My origin story & why I do what I do

April 18th, 2019


I, Ms. Ayana, introduce the inspiration behind my creation of a podcast as well as why I choose such a challenging profession.


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