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Ladies, We Need To Talk

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Want to know how to close the orgasm gap? Riding your hormonal rollercoaster blindfolded? Feel like kicking your mental load to the kerb? You're not the only one. Ladies, We Need To Talk dives headfirst into the tricky topics we often avoid talking about, like our alcohol consumption, the struggles … read more

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Facing your own death

September 26th, 2022

23:37

Facing your own death

The prospect of dying is an abstract thing, something we try hard not to think about at all costs.

But what if the one dying…is you? Join Yumi Stynes as she meets women who are facing their own death …

PRESENTS — Tall Tales & True: Sex Workers

September 19th, 2022

1:23

Have you ever wondered what goes on behind closed doors in ‘the world's oldest profession?’ In the new season of Tall Tales and True, seven sex …

Generation gap - Can couples with a large age difference last?

September 12th, 2022

29:15

Cradle snatcher, sugar-daddy, toy-boy, cougar… all of those terms are loaded with baggage and undermine the relationships they describe. Beyond the stereotypes, what's it like to be in a relationship with a big age gap?

Burnout

August 29th, 2022

25:57

Burnout: It's a word so frequently used that it's almost become a catchphrase. And let's face it, who isn't feeling exhausted? But when does that fatigue and overwhelm tip into burnout?

Being cheated on

August 15th, 2022

24:09

Rooting around is as inescapable as laundry and taxes. While humans all around the world make promises to be with each other through sickness and health, to be loyal to the exclusion of all others, it doesn't always …

INTRODUCING — New episodes of Ladies, We Need To Talk

August 8th, 2022

2:15

Fresh from a season on sex, Yumi Stynes is leaping out of the sack, changing the sheets and delving deep into the stuff that keeps us up at night. We're making a big stink about our fear of farting; learning how to nip …

What we need men to know about sex

August 1st, 2022

29:01

YOU TOLD US AND NOW WE'RE TELLING THE MENFOLK. What we need men to know about sex — from jack-hammering to hygiene to female anatomy 101, nothing's off-limits. If there ever was an episode to share with the blokes in …

When bad sex is your life — update

July 18th, 2022

33:37

We've all got a bad sex story. The partner who's selfish in the sack. The horribly uninspiring one-night stand. The lover with 'performance anxiety'. Most of us have been there. There's this idea though that we grow out …

Bonus — Your sex and disability stories

July 11th, 2022

6:56

Our sex and disability episode really resonated with you. Hear what our listeners had to say about sex and disability. We love your feedback ladies@abc.net.au.

With thanks to Zoe, Lauren, Rose and Rebecca.

Sex and the D Word – Disability

July 4th, 2022

28:44

Around one in five Australian women live with a disability. And guess what? They're having sex. Hot, creative sex. But steamy conversations about what it's like to love and lust with a disability are often considered …

Anal sex — update

June 20th, 2022

29:12

Warning: Explicit Content. Is anal the last taboo? One in five women in Australia has had anal sex. It's everywhere in porn and many of us, especially young women, are feeling the pressure to do it. It's uncomfortable …

Next level sex

June 6th, 2022

26:08

Imagine you've been having ho-hum, pedestrian sex your entire life and BAM! A new trick, a new partner, a revelation about yourself or a total life …

Asexuality — I don't want to have sex, ever

May 23rd, 2022

26:08

In a world obsessed with sex, what if you never (or rarely) want it? Yumi Stynes meets women from across the asexuality spectrum to find out how they navigate dating and relationships in a sexed-up world.

Featured in the …

LiLL — Later in life lesbians

May 9th, 2022

28:34

Imagine going down on a woman for the very first time in your 50s. Yumi Stynes meets later-in-life lesbians who, after years of hetero partnerships and raising kids, are coming out. Were they always attracted to women …

Swinging

April 25th, 2022

26:33

What's it like to watch your partner have sex with another person? What about a group of people? Welcome to the world of swingers, where couples "play" with each other and with the boundaries of sexual expression. Join …

INTRODUCING — Season SEX of Ladies, We Need To Talk

April 18th, 2022

3:00

Welcome to season six of Ladies, We Need to Talk. This time around we're turning the steam up to 11, dropping our towels and baring all. Join Yumi Stynes as she learns the ins-and-outs of swinging; meets later-in-life …

Sexual pleasure and how to get it

November 1st, 2021

28:14

Sex is more available and permissible than ever before, but despite this, are we actually getting any pleasure?  Lots of women still don’t feel …

PRESENTS — Ladies We Need to Talk the book

October 25th, 2021

2:14

We know you love the podcast and now there’s Ladies We Need to Talk the book! 

Women who have never orgasmed

October 18th, 2021

28:51

For some women, reaching climax, cumming, the Big O... is as easy as a walk around the block. For others, it’s an arduous, long, steep hike up a mountain, never quite reaching...the “peak”.

Body Image — Update

October 4th, 2021

38:26

Thanks to the pandemic, we now spend even MORE time doom scrolling through obnoxiously perfect Insta-people, and endlessly staring at our own faces …

Digital dating despair

September 20th, 2021

30:03

You're more likely to meet your partner on an app than any other way. But between the constant swiping, messaging, rejections, ghosting and d&*k pics, it can be rough. Yumi Stynes talks to a bunch of awesome single …

Sex detox

September 6th, 2021

23:37

Forget juice cleanses, meditation and yoni eggs, is a sex detox the best way to reset our thinking around sex and relationships to find out what really presses our buttons? Yumi Stynes talks to women who have flipped …

Foreplay — update

August 23rd, 2021

29:56

Ladies, it's time for a refresher course on foreplay! Yumi Stynes talks to psychotherapist Esther Perel and a bunch of brilliant female experts about their best foreplay tips. We're here to talk about it. Ring us on …

Birth trauma

August 9th, 2021

33:19

"Have a baby," they said. "It'll be great," they said. But what they didn't say, was that getting that kid out could leave you traumatised. …

A love letter to our friends

July 26th, 2021

30:14

On every form you ever fill out, there’s always a tick box about your romantic status — de facto, married, single. Why are we only judged on romantic relationships rather than some of the most important bonds in our …

Mum won't come to our wedding

July 12th, 2021

27:25

You can't help who you fall in love with. But what happens if your family disapproves? Every relationship has its challenges, but for lovers from a …

Young widows

June 28th, 2021

27:52

What happens if you're young and that #1 person, the special love that you searched for and pinned down, the one you expected to love till you were …

Last shot pregnancy

June 14th, 2021

34:18

What happens if you want a baby but you're running out of time? Maybe you haven't found the right partner, or you've found the right one, but they don't want kids? You just can't seem to get pregnant or you're simply …

Hair — Why do we care?

May 31st, 2021

26:33

Have you noticed that most women have long hair, and most men have short hair? And how grey-haired men are silver foxes and women old and witchy?

The rage in my pelvis

May 17th, 2021

33:00

Nearly one million Australian women live with persistent pain in their pelvis. Yumi Stynes finds out what the hell it is, what causes it and most importantly, how to get through the day with a raging pelvis. If you need …

What the hell happens in old age?

May 3rd, 2021

28:32

Saggy boobs, cracked vaginas, being invisible, loneliness. Getting older can't all be this grim? CAN IT?!? Yumi Stynes finds out how to stay awesome, …

Fetish

April 19th, 2021

25:30

What really turns you on? Getting your toes sucked? Latex? High-heeled shoes? Fetish is a word that can be overused without us really thinking about …

Introducing — Season 5 of Ladies, We Need To Talk

April 12th, 2021

3:59

Ladies! Listen up: we're back and we've missed you! Join Yumi Stynes as she dives right in to all the taboo lady-business that women find tricky to talk about. Whether it's your fetish, what the hell happens to us in …

The secret lives of vaginas

October 19th, 2020

27:32

Sex, babies, periods, discharge. Our vaginas do a lot. But how well do you really know your vagina? Get comfy for a guided tour of your vagina with Dr Elizabeth O'Farrell. Plus, you'll meet Deanna, owner of possibly the …

To pube or not to pube

October 5th, 2020

30:36

Pubic hair — it's one of the most scrutinised patches of hair on our bodies. Research says 80 per cent of women groom their hair regularly. But why? …

Escaping monogamy

September 21st, 2020

33:54

Monogamy is the default, but for lots of people it doesn't work. More and more people are actively looking for alternatives to monogamy, according to …

How to break up well

September 7th, 2020

27:57

It can take months or years to get through a breakup, and the fallout can be totally devastating. Whether it's money, legal stuff, kids, or all the …

Anal Sex — the biggest taboo

August 24th, 2020

27:57

Warning: explicit content. One in five women in Australia has had anal sex. It's everywhere in porn and many of us, especially young women, are feeling the pressure to do it. It's uncomfortable discussing anal sex, so …

Solving the mental load — update

August 10th, 2020

29:21

A movement's begun to expose the mental load women shoulder. All that relentless, unpaid, thankless and invisible work women do. Naming it is …

Emotional abuse

July 27th, 2020

32:01

One in four Australian women have experienced emotional abuse from a partner. You don't get physically hurt, but psychologically it's devastating and …

Clitoris 101

July 13th, 2020

27:53

When most of us picture our clitoris, we think of it as being the size of a tiny jellybean. But sisters, your clitoris is so much more than that! It's going to blow your mind just how amazing the clitoris is. You'll …

The answer's no

June 29th, 2020

31:10

Women are pretty bad at saying no — we're socialised to please and serve others. Author of F*** No!, Sarah Knight, political commentator Jamilla …

Propping up your partner

June 15th, 2020

36:15

Caring for partners is something women do well and often. But what's the limit, how do you know if your support is causing more harm than good and how do you do it without sacrificing yourself? We speak to women …

Coronavirus — Are we panic buying partners?

June 8th, 2020

31:32

You'd think a pandemic would stop all romance and the dating game. But it's seen an acceleration of relationships and romance as some single people …

The gender beauty gap

June 1st, 2020

33:45

It's no secret women spend way more time, energy and hard-earned cash on our appearances than men do. But what else could we be firing our mental …

A gender gap of pandemic proportions

May 18th, 2020

29:56

Guess who is way worse off in pandemics? Yup — women. While we're leading the charge on the frontline by slogging away in jobs like nursing, teaching and aged care, our purses are copping a flogging now and into the …

The secrets we keep

May 4th, 2020

35:46

Most of us have a secret we've never told anyone. Secrets are self-protective and universal, but some are hard to keep and impossible to share. If …

50-shades of erotic literature

April 20th, 2020

26:45

What if you could read something that would radically change your sex life and your whole relationship dynamic? What if, a few pages could actually …

Anxious? We got you

April 6th, 2020

30:58

While one in three women will experience anxiety in normal circumstances, when COVID-19 hit, for many it was the first time they'd ever felt anxious. And for many of us, that feeling isn't going away because there's a …

Coronavirus — hot tips on how you can get through

April 2nd, 2020

32:19

Whether you're juggling working at home with kids or figuring out how to pay rent as a single mum after losing your job — life just got a whole lot …

BONUS — The concrete ceiling

December 9th, 2019

33:24

You’ll have heard of the glass ceiling — the invisible barrier that stops women getting ahead at work. For women of colour, that ceiling is actually …

Ladies, we love your boobs

November 4th, 2019

31:35

Boobies, tits, cans, your rack. Ladies, we want to celebrate your boobs. Despite what the beauty mags tell you, boobs come in all shapes and sizes. Some are big, some small, some are great at breastfeeding, others are …

Toxic mums

October 21st, 2019

32:05

There’s a whole lot of mythology around the so-called sacred mother-daughter bond, but it isn’t always reality. Mumming is hard work. It’s a tonne of …

Sex after sexual assault

October 7th, 2019

30:53

One in five Australian women over the age of 15 have experienced sexual violence.
1.4 million Australians have lived through childhood sexual abuse.

Sexually transmitted isolation

September 23rd, 2019

29:54

Around four million Australians have had an STI at some point in their life, but who ever talks about it? STI’s are shrouded in loads of shame, secrecy and regret. And it’s not just young people getting them — women in …

Walking away from your kids — update

September 9th, 2019

27:26

Women are still expected to be primary caregivers — but what happens when they choose to walk away from this role? In season one we heard from women …

How to make friends as an adult

August 26th, 2019

34:48

At a certain point in life, making friends gets trickier and feels super awkward. Many of us want and need new friends though — so how do you do it? At a live recording of Ladies, We Need To Talk, Yumi Stynes and a …

The patriarchy of poo

August 12th, 2019

29:47

Do you feel embarrassed if you have to poo in public? You're not alone. Whether it's poo, farts, discharge or sweat — women are constantly self-conscious about our odour because it's considered 'unladylike' to smell. …

Esther Perel — how to have a hard conversation

July 29th, 2019

32:32

How do you tell a mate your friendship isn't working? Or a partner you can't stand the way they kiss? Hard conversations are tough to have but sometimes necessary. Psychotherapist Esther Perel is the world's best known …

Birth control — choose your own adventure

July 15th, 2019

32:25

We're totally spoilt for choice when it comes to birth control. There are 12 different types of contraception to choose from and about 30 different …

Stone cold sober — alcohol update

July 1st, 2019

35:46

In season one, we looked at why so many Australian women drink at risky levels. Yumi Stynes revealed her battle with drinking and quit alcohol. We …

Footloose and childfree

June 17th, 2019

29:24

Grow up, find a partner, have kids — we’ve been doing it for thousands of years. But more and more women are choosing to ignore that path. And the latest research says they’re actually happier for it. So why do we judge …

Body image — why do we hate our bodies?

June 3rd, 2019

33:28

Have you ever felt like a massive failure when you've looked in the mirror or felt depressed about the size of your thighs? You're not alone — research says almost 80 per cent of Australian women are unhappy with their …

Discharge — the gooey taboo

May 20th, 2019

22:51

Lots of women are really self-conscious about the way their vaginas smell. We quickly hide our undies the second we take them off and up to a third of us wear a panty liner every day. But how much do you actually know …

Abortion — beyond the stereotype

May 6th, 2019

32:35

If you’re in your 30s and have had an abortion or are going to, you’re not going through it alone. It’s a myth that only the young and reckless have …

When bad sex is your life

April 22nd, 2019

33:45

We’ve all got a bad sex story. The partner who’s selfish in the sack. The horribly uninspiring one-night stand. The lover with 'performance anxiety'. Most of us have been there. There’s this idea though that we grow out …

INTRODUCING — Series 3 of Ladies, We Need To Talk

April 8th, 2019

3:05

We're back! Join Yumi Stynes as she once again tears open the sealed section on life to talk all about your forbidden lady business. This is the podcast where we can confess all our secret ladies' stuff and learn …

Ladies, we love you

November 5th, 2018

30:31

You trusted us with some of your deepest, darkest and most intimate secrets and you let us share them with the podcast universe.

For our final episode of 2018, we check in with the women we’ve met and hear from YOU about …

Anxious much?

October 22nd, 2018

29:09

Everyone gets a little bit anxious at times, but is what you’re feeling normal? Anxiety is the most common mental health issue in Australia. Up to one in three women will experience anxiety, for men it’s one in five.

So …

Perimenopause — coming to a uterus near you

October 8th, 2018

30:42

Sore boobs, loss of libido, hot flushes, irregular periods. Sound familiar? While you may think you’ll only experience these symptoms when you’re of …

Mean girls — our secret sexism

September 24th, 2018

28:47

How often have you casually heard the terms "bitch" or "mean girl" being used to describe another woman? And, be honest, how often have you used …

The secret life of hormones

September 10th, 2018

30:34

Every month you go on a hormonal rollercoaster but most of us ride it blindfolded. Reproductive hormones control ovulation but they can also affect …

When sex hurts

August 27th, 2018

31:19

Sex that feels like your vagina is about to tear open isn’t exactly dinner party conversation, but it’s common. One in five women experience painful …

Obsession with youth

August 13th, 2018

30:57

If we are intelligent, ambitious and capable women, why are we still judged by the way we look?

The Australasian College of Cosmetic Surgery estimates …

Settling for average

July 30th, 2018

27:29

A healthy relationship is meant to feel like a warm hug from your mum after about a year, according to psychologists. But if your partner doesn’t …

Ladies Live — closing the orgasm gap

July 16th, 2018

32:00

Women don’t orgasm as often as men during sex. A US study of 50,000 people found 95% of men orgasm during sex, but only 65 per cent of straight women do.

The pelvic flaw in all of us

July 3rd, 2018

27:47

Do you wee when you sneeze? Or avoid star jumps at the gym? One in four of us experience pelvic floor problems which can lead to incontinence, or …

Foreplay — getting what you want

June 18th, 2018

26:44

When was the last time you talked about foreplay? Women tend to need more foreplay than men — so if your partner’s just a bit crap at foreplay — get them to listen to this. We talk to psychotherapist Esther Perel and a …

BONUS — ladies who are single and killing it

June 15th, 2018

5:25

We’ve been inundated with single ladies flying the solo flag with pride. We asked you; what do you love about your single life? What have you been …

Being single and owning it

June 4th, 2018

27:16

More people are living the single life than ever before. But what if you don’t need a partner to feel whole? In a world that wants you to couple up, …

Can porn be good for women?

May 21st, 2018

28:15

It’s free, it’s prolific, it’s easy to find and more of us than ever are watching it but is mainstream porn contributing to the exploitation of …

BONUS — you tell us - living through pregnancy loss   

May 18th, 2018

3:10

The response to our last episode was extraordinary. We asked you; what do you wish people knew about pregnancy loss? What’s the best thing to say? How can we better support family or friends who are dealing with it? …

The 12 week rule

May 7th, 2018

24:43

The first trimester of a pregnancy can often be the hardest, so why do so many women feel the need to stay quiet? And what if the answer — …

Women who cheat

April 24th, 2018

27:15

The statistics say the number of women who are unfaithful is massively on the rise. So why? What’s driving those who seek a covert thrill outside …

INTRODUCING — series 2 of Ladies, We Need To Talk

April 10th, 2018

3:10

We’re back! Season two is coming and this time, we’re calling on you - our sisters out there. What's in your treasure chest of taboos you feel like you can't tell anyone, but seriously need to get off your chest?
We’re …

Bonus: More than pads and tampons

November 23rd, 2017

7:42

When was the last time you sat down with your girlfriends and had a conversation about menstrual products? No need to. We did it for you.

Bonus: Your vagina questions answered

November 9th, 2017

5:40

Imagine knowing so much about vaginas that you’ve been given an Order of Australia medal. Dr Elizabeth Farrell received the award for her incredible work in women’s health. Warning: This episode contains the odd swear …

Masturbation — the big taboo

October 25th, 2017

22:02

Masturbation is still a conversation stopper for many women. There are some really good reasons, though, why we need to move on from our embarrassment and start talking about women's pleasure.

Fat talk

October 18th, 2017

24:50

You're a woman who makes a point of not hurting other women's feelings. But have you ever considered that the way you talk about your own body could …

Has anyone seen my libido?

October 11th, 2017

24:36

Your day is finally over, the kids are in bed, and you get a moment's peace. But then, your partner gives you the nudge and you're ready for sex! Right? Nope. Low sex drive is pretty common for women, but why is that? …

Breaking the motherhood contract

October 4th, 2017

21:04

At some point, most mums ask 'is this really what I want?'. Sure motherhood means cuddles, love and macaroni necklaces. It also means sleepless nights, tantrums and vomiting bugs. But what happens when you genuinely …

Let's slay menstrual taboos

September 27th, 2017

22:47

In many ways we're OK with periods, but we've still got a way to go. Because it's one thing to ask for a tampon, it's a whole other story when you …

Anyone for a drink?

September 20th, 2017

19:57

Many of us like a glass of wine to help put a line under our day, and research tells us more Australian women are drinking than ever before. So why …

Time to name (and shame) the mental load

September 13th, 2017

27:00

You’re cooking dinner, answering work emails, calling the tradie, and getting the kids bathed. All at the same time. It’s no wonder you feel like you're an octopus, juggling tasks. All of this work you do is invisible, …

You say vulva, I say vagina

September 6th, 2017

26:16

What’s the difference between your vulva and vagina? Do you know what your cervix feels like? Can you lose something inside your vagina? Ladies, it’s …

INTRODUCING — Ladies, We Need To Talk

August 31st, 2017

3:39

Brace yourself. Leave your judgement at the door. And embrace a head first dive into those tricky topics that we’re all thinking about, but don’t feel comfortable talking about out loud.

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