Happiness Simplified

In Episode #16, Kayvon and Dai discuss the key to clarity, exercises to help you find it with greater ease, and how confusion is frequently tied to challenging childhood experiences.

Time Stamped Show Notes:
● 00:58 – Dai shares how he’s doing while on the road
● 01:31 – How Kayvon is doing
o 02:05 – Kayvon’s father had health issues
o 03:34 – Kayvon’s friend on EMDR therapy
● 04:10 – “We all have memories that are traumatic”
● 04:33 – Starting to live your life from the belief
o 05:09 – Identifying beliefs from early childhood
● 05:32 – The EMDR therapist alters the association and puts a new belief
o 06:51 – Kayvon underwent EMDR sessions
o 07:47 – “Stories develop in our minds through habitual choices”
● 09:25 – Habits as an excuse
● 10:08 – “We use different reasons as alibis to NOT change”
● 10:50 – Kayvon’s example from medical school
● 11:56 – Action orientation
● 12:45 – EMDR is pragmatism
o 13:51 – Kayvon researched about EMDR
o 14:48 – EMDR is Kayvon’s way to get clarity
● 15:32 – Dai turning away from alcohol
● 17:51 – A lot of personal habits are influenced early in life
● 18:15 – Living in the same pattern is similar to addiction
● 19:22 – Where Kayvon is right now in his EMDR therapy
● 20:33 – “Let the new level of clarity come up”
● 21:30 – Take time to explore and navigate
● 22:26 – TRY this EXERCISE
o 23:01 – Get a sheet of paper
o 23:14 – Column 1 – Write…
o 23:47 – Column 2 – Write…
o 24:04 – Column 3 – Write…
● 25:24 – The freedom model
● 27:42 – Some habits are just automatic
● 28:07 – Try the two exercises in one
● 29:48 – We encourage you to participate!
● 30:30 – Connect with Dai and Kayvon on Twitter

3 Key Points:
1. Beliefs come from personal memories.
2. Memories play a great part in your life choices.
3. People use reasons to use as alibis for not changing.