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Rydha and Kerry Witta K talk about issues and everything involved with couples and relationships. The show contains very useful information for couples no matter what age.

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Dating Etiquette/ Friendzone violators

March 25th, 2015


Condom gets stuck after sex. Friend zone violators. Encouraging your mate during the relationship. Too many Nintendo DS's for the kids. Date someone …

Halle Berry/ Sexual Exploration

March 25th, 2015


Are you satisfying your man sexually ? Do you take advantage of morning wood ? New sexual explorations. Emotional versus physical cheating, which is worse ? Can you forgive a cheating spouse ? Never go backwards in …

Your Turn/ Moody Man

March 25th, 2015


Is that you Bubba ? Infidelity stories, nobody is actually yours it's just YOUR TURN. Should women have an opinion when it comes to engagement rings …

My Side of the Bed/ SexLab

March 27th, 2015


How important is it that the man pay all the bills in the household ? Is it still ideal to be a stay-at-home Mom ? Should the man always pay for the …

Fun With Toys/Sidechick Episode

March 27th, 2015


How do you recognize if you are a side chick or a side dude and why has it become so popular ? How can you become the #1 guy or gal in his or her …

What Not To Say/ Angry Woman

April 9th, 2015


This week the fellas discuss what do you do if your mate butt dials you and do you hang up or listen and if we are meant to be a fly on the wall during personal conversations between your girl and her friends. Do you …

What Is Good Pussy / Get A Hobby

April 19th, 2015


The fellas attempt to define what good pussy is and tell guys to get a hobby.

Things Your Girl Might Like / Sex As A Weapon

April 22nd, 2015


The fellas discuss a few things to try with your girl, why you should never use sex as a weapon, stop choosing people just because they want to be …

Protect Ya Girl / Married Women Are The Easiest

April 29th, 2015


JR Rydha wonders how far is too far when trying to protect your girl from other men trying to approach her. Kerry Witta K tellls guys how to secure your valuables during a break up. The guys speak on how porn gives you …

Do Men Like Makeup / Define Gender Roles

May 6th, 2015


JR Rydha talks about reinventing yourself in a relationship and gives the guys game about doing the small things that women like. Kerry Witta K talks …

Wet Dreams / Weigh Your Options

May 14th, 2015


The fellas discuss puberty, virginity and wet dreams. How to approach your sons virginity. Ways to combat teen pregnancy.

Female Friends / Dirty Pictures

May 21st, 2015


This episode is featuring our friend Key. Key goes into what intimacy is to him and the difference between intimacy and physical attraction. The …

How to Have a Sex Party/True Value of Pussy

May 28th, 2015


Kerry witta K talks about the time his woman stepped on his feet by fixing a bike that he was struggling with which turns into a lesson in communication. JR Rydha tells the audience how to have a sex party without …

Hurt Your Ex With Success / Stop Lying

June 4th, 2015


Kerry witta K gives you 3 types of people to keep out of your relationship drama. Jay Rydha talks about the best way to get over somebody. Hurt your ex with success and let it go. Kerry witta K tells the fellas how to …

Never Say Never / Celebrity Chicks Are Not Special

June 12th, 2015


Kerry Witta K goes over things your man does not want to hear you say and J Rydha asks if oversharing is ok when speaking about intimacy with past partners. The fellas gives couples some advice about not embellishing on …

Jealousy / Bad Habits

June 18th, 2015


Kerry witta K discusses the two kinds of jealousy while Rydha tells you why withholding sex does not work in a relationship.  Other topics include …

Chloraseptic / The Messenger

June 25th, 2015


Kerry witta K discusses the 3 types of relationships while J Rydha gives women a bold new way to perform oral sex. The fellas talk about accepting …

Organize Your Life / Premature Ejaculation

July 2nd, 2015


Rydha talks about ways you can organize your life to make yourself more happy. Kerry Witta K explains the rules of online dating and what to do about …

Workin' with Bae / Don't Be Afraid of Sex Toys

July 8th, 2015


Kerry witta K tells you the pros and cons of working ith your significant other. Rydha goes over some old sex toy innovations that may be new to some …

The Father / Son Episode

July 16th, 2015


In this episode we decided to switch it up a  bit and change the format. JR Rydha interviews his son Domo about how the youth see things these days and provides listeners with some valuable insight from a young mans' …

Pretty Girl, Stank Breath

July 18th, 2015


As a treat for our listeners we decided to upload an early bonus episode for you all. JR Rydha presents Kerry Witta K with a scarf. This episode is right when we began the current format of talking strictly about …

How to Lose a Gal / No Means No

July 23rd, 2015


Kerry witta K talks about stalking and being stalked and why its a bad idea. JR Rydha talks about new and improved sex toys and why men should use …

Pretend Cousins / Celebrity Crushes

July 29th, 2015


Kerry witta K talks about responsible sex and coins the phrase, "lay wit someone you would stay wit". JR Rydha gives available single people new …

How to Know A Keeper / Lasting Memories

August 6th, 2015


In this episode featuring Sylvie the Official Aristocrat, J Rydha discusses how do you know if somebody is a keeper while Sylvie talks about a few things she wishes men will stop doing like being in her ear. They also …

Who Needs Closure / I Am Karma

August 13th, 2015


Kerry Witta K tells us how to create closure.

Cuffin Season Schedule / The Love Contract

August 21st, 2015


Kerry Witta K gives guys  the Cuffin Season schedule for the year. JR Rydha explains the benefits of a Love Contract and how it could help couples  …

The Pink Pill / Is Sex Still Special ?

August 26th, 2015


Kerry Witta K goes over 3 topics that couples don't discuss until it's too late. JR Rydha talks about the pink pill which is the female viagra pill. Does the Black Church keep women single ? We discuss this. The fellas …

Men Are Simple / Honesty In Dating

September 3rd, 2015


Kerry Witta K talks about why men are perceived to be simple. JR Rydha talks about honesty in dating. They also fidcuss real life relationship goals …

Handling An Independent Black Woman / Is Sexting Inappropriate

September 10th, 2015


This episode is featuring Chandelle. Kerry witta K asks the question if a Black Man can handle an independent Black Woman. Chandelle discusses why fathers are overly strict on their daughters but let their sons get away …

Red Flag / Kudos for Housework

September 17th, 2015


This week Kerry witta K gives you 4 reasons why relationships fail and JR Rydha discusses if it's a red flag for your mate to forgive you for …

Staying Married / 7 Questions

September 24th, 2015


Kerry witta K talks about what ever happened to getting married and staying married and also comes up with 7 questions you hope your girl never asks.

Sex Drive, Netflix and Chill

October 1st, 2015


JR Rydha talks about prescription drugs that will kill your sex drive. Kerry Witta K names some good movies for Netflix and Chill. They also talk about aggressive sex.

Little Arguments / Credit Scores

October 8th, 2015


This weeks episode is featuring Stephani, yes she is a real person. Kerry witta K talks about little arguments that couples have that can lead to …

Overseas Sex / Suspect Behavior

October 15th, 2015


This weeks episode features guest host Aminah. Kerry witta K tells us the rules of vacation sex whether overseas, out of the country or out of the …

Shallow People / Sugar Scrub

October 22nd, 2015


Kerry witta K names products that men can use to be blowjob ready. JR Rydha talks about if its good to tell someone your expectations at the beginning of the relationship. The fellas discuss when is too soon for sex.

Animal Mating Rituals / How to Approach Women

October 29th, 2015


JR Rydha talks about if you would date someone with a mental illness. Kerry Witta K goes into if humans had animal mating rituals. They also discuss …

Commitment-phobia / Bachelor Party

November 5th, 2015


Kerry witta K talks about reasons why some men are afraid of commitment. J Rydha talks about if a man should have a bachelor party if his girl …

Relationships of Convenience / Lovin the One Your Wit

November 19th, 2015


Kerry witta K helps you find out if you have a relationship of convenience. JR Rydha talks about what age difference is ideal for a successful …

Finding A Man / Categories of Women

November 26th, 2015


JR Rydha talks about ways a single woman can find a man. Kerry Witta K discusses categories of women most likely to cheat. The fellas also share dry humping stories.

Feeling Complacent / Semen Is Protein

December 3rd, 2015


JR Rydha talks asks what do you do when you start to feel complacent in a relationship. Has your mate ever admitted that you were not the best they ever had at sex ? Kerry Witta K discusses the history of marriage and …

8 Ways To Stay Faithful or Break Up Like A Boss

December 10th, 2015


JR Rydha talks about how to break up with someone like a boss and the details of a love contract. Kerry Witta K discusses 8 ways for you to stay …

Sex Overseas / Relationship Curfews

December 17th, 2015


Can you trust your mate when they travel overseas ? Kerry Witta K talks about why women are more sexually promiscuous when traveling to different countries. JR Rydha talks about if there is a curfew when you're out with …

Porn for Couples / Top Fetishes

December 24th, 2015


The fellas discuss new Porn sites that are couple-friendly and the top 10 fetishes.

Special Episode ft. Ro

December 30th, 2015


JR Rydha interviews guess host Road and asks her questions to get answers from a woman's perspective like the benefits of dating an older man and the …

Interracial Dating / Avoid Couples Therapy

January 7th, 2016


Kerry witty K gives you 10 ways to tell if she is leading you on. JR Rydha gives couples some tips on avoiding therapy. The fellas also discuss interracial dating.

Falling In Love Too Fast / Kissing After Oral Sex

January 14th, 2016


This week JR Rydha discusses how intimate kissing is and if you should kiss after oral sex. Kerry witty K talks about falling in love too soon and …

Sex on Demand / Having an Ex as a Friend

January 21st, 2016


Kerry Witty K talks about the pros and cons as having an ex as a friend. JR Rydha talks about if you should ever turn down sex with your partner. The …

All About Vagina's / Don't Get Hustled

January 28th, 2016


Kerry Witty K talks about Vaginal Steams with herbs and 10 interesting facts about vaginas. JR Rydha talks about how you can tell when a girl wants to ask for money and how not to be hustled.

Always Make A Play / Women Are Tricks Too

February 5th, 2016


JR Rydha sits down with guest host VJ this week. They discuss the downfalls of tricking and how to set the mood on a date so it's not all about getting the booty. They also discuss if sidechicks are winning and if men …

More Vagina Maintenance / Top Turn-ons and offs

February 18th, 2016


Continuing in his Vagina Series Kerry Witta K gives you easy and natural ways to keep a Vagina tight and small and JR Rydha tells you the top turn ons and offs between men and women. 

Women Using Strap-On's / Do We Make Our Women Fat ?

March 2nd, 2016


JR Rydha tackles the question of when it's appropriate for a woman to use a strap-on on her dude and the rules to a threesome with an extra male. Our …

White Lies About Black Relationships / Should You Have To Ask For Head ?

March 9th, 2016


Kerry witty K discusses the biggest lies about Black relationships. JR Rydha discusses ways a woman can tell if they are bad at ducking dick and how to correct it. 

Can A Woman Raise A Man / Oedipus Syndrome

March 16th, 2016


Kerry witta K delves into young boys that suffer from Oedipus Syndrome and end up psychologically lusting after their mothers. JR Rydha talks about …

Best Part of Marriage / Communication Exercise

March 31st, 2016


JR Rydha is joined by cohost CC to talk about the best part of marriage and ways to navigate the relationship minefield.

Stop Arguing and Solve the Problem / 10 Dirty Little Secrets of Married couples

April 7th, 2016


Kerry witta K gives some examples of ways to stop arguing and solve the problem. The fellas discuss 10 Dirty Little Secrets of Married Couples.

What is Manhood / Tips For a Healthy Vagina

April 21st, 2016


Kerry witta K talks about the meaning of manhood while JR Rydha asks the question of if a woman should tell her mate if his friend propositions her. …

Happy Mothers Day Audio 4 Mom

May 8th, 2016


Kerry witta K recorded an audio card to his mother for Mothers Day because she is 1000's of miles away. Love you Mom.

Domesticated Women / One Night Stands

May 12th, 2016


Kerry witta K talks about 5 things that ruined American Women while JR Rydha asks his listeners if they have ever had a one night stand. The fellas discuss the wonders of domesticated women in this hilarious episode. We …

Why Hoes Are Winning / Desensitized Penis Remedy

May 21st, 2016


Due to computer uploading issues Kerry witta K handles this week's episode solo. He talks about why h is s are winning and gives fellas a remedy for …

Relationship Appreciation / How The World Defines Beauty

June 2nd, 2016


JR Rydha poses the question of how do you keep from getting to the point of not being appreciated in a relationship and goes over ways you can fall in love deeper. Kerry witta K talks about definitions of beauty around …

Is Arguing Natural ? / Online Dating Obsession

June 10th, 2016


Kerry witta K discusses if arguing in a relationship is natural or not. JR Rydha talks about the perils of online dating. The fellas also discuss 3 …

2 Girlfriends / Strengthen Your Relationship

June 18th, 2016


JR Rydha talks about if men can handle 2 girlfriends. Kerry witta K discusses ways you can strengthen your relationship.

Expectation of Privacy / Men Want to Feel Wanted

July 13th, 2016


JR Rydha talks about the reasons and consequences of going through your mates phone. Kerry witta K speaks on effective ways to get the ought an argument. 

Best Condom Brands / Weird Animal Mating Rituals

July 23rd, 2016


Kerry Witta K gives you the best condom brands depending on your preference. JR Rydha asks the fans what men and women want in a relationship. Then there is a rare Q & A with Kerry Witta K when he answers 6 personal …

Giving Husband Privileges to Boyfriends / Why Women Fake Orgasm

August 10th, 2016


JR Rydha talks about the rules when traveling with the opposite sex. Kerry Witta K gives us things women wish men knew about them sexually and the …

The Return of Grownmenchoppingitup

October 15th, 2016


Kerry witta K returns with good news for GMCU fans, the show is back in production. He leads us off talking about things that should be a dealbreaker …

Vaginal Odor / Social Media Relationships

October 26th, 2016


Kerry witta K talks about a few things that can cause vaginal odor. JR Rydha talks about if Facebook or Instagram bad for relationships and what …

Grownmenchoppingitup Lost Episode

November 2nd, 2016


We recorded this episode after the episode talking about the Oedipus Complex where we were saying some mothers treat their sons like their man or boyfriend. It was lost in the archives until we found it. Go back and …

The Flatland Diva episode

November 19th, 2016


JR Rydha interviews Andrea Jones aka Flatland Diva. They talk about dating rules, superstitions, cunnilingus tips, world class head and interracial …

Where Are All The White Women At / Settling For Bad Sex

December 6th, 2016


Kerry Witta K discusses a study that talks about white women fantasizing about Black men. JR Rydha discusses reasons why some people settle for bad sex.

Do You Know Your Kids ? Featuring Miss K (PART 1)

December 16th, 2016


JR Rydha talks to special guest host Miss K,  who has over 20 + years working with middle school students, about middle school sexual orientation, …

Do You Know Your Kids featuring Miss K (PART 2)

December 20th, 2016


JR Rydha continues his conversation with Miss K about subjects such as Hide and Go Get It, very first orgasm and sexual myths. They also tall about …

How Freaky Is Freaky ?/ Rebound Love

December 28th, 2016


JR Rydha talks about how long you should wait from the time a relationship ends until you get into another one. Kerry Witta K talks about things men …

Is Spicing Up The Bedroom Overrated / is Squirting Really Pee

January 4th, 2017


Kerry witta K tackles a listener question about is spicing up the bedroom overrated. JR Rydha talks about how to te) a coworker that you're interested.

Jedi Mind Tricks / Relationship Stats / Sex Foods

February 4th, 2017


JR Rydha addresses the many issues of one of our female listeners including issues such as he never helps around the house and ways that you as a woman have to use jedi mind tricks on men. Kerry witta K gives some …

Candid Discussion About Manparts

March 1st, 2017


Kerry witta K goes on a trip to Oklahoma to have a life changing surgery on his manbits.

Dating Out Of Your Type / Batwing Labia

March 30th, 2017


JRYDHA talks about people that date out of their normal type man how it makes them feel. Kerry Witta K sets the record straight about women with outer labia that look like pastrami.   

Social Media Self Control / Black Couple Therapy

May 5th, 2017


Is it OK for your spouse or significant other to tell you who you csn be friends with or talk to on social media ? The fellas discuss this and new age vibrators.  

Is She Really Old School / Micropenis Issues

June 17th, 2017


JR Rydha talks about first date etiquette and if women are really.old school like some say they are. Kerry witta K explains what a Micropenis is and …

Chicks Dig Pretty Dicks / Should Women Propose?

July 30th, 2017


Kerry witta K goes over in order of importance what women find most attractive about penises. JR Rydha talks about why women should propose …

Top 10 Mistakes Men Make In A Relationship

September 23rd, 2017


Kerry witta K gives you the top 10 mistakes men make ln a relationship and fields a listener question.

Uber Hubby / Red Flags

November 10th, 2017


Kerry witta K reads a listeners question about how to get her hubby to be more invested in contributing to the relationship besides sex. JR Rydha talks about red flags during a relationship.

Relationship Books / Introducing Sex Toys

March 9th, 2018


JR Rydha asks what is the best way to introduce sex toys to your mate. Kerry witty k gives listeners a few relationship books that will change their lives. A listener writes in with a common issue of outgrowing her mate.

Womens Mindset / Married Black Men.

March 22nd, 2018


Kerry witty K talks about certain mindsets that hinder relationship success for Black wome, JR Rydha has another great question that is answered by his listeners.

Topic ? We Don't Need No Stinking Topic featuring D

April 19th, 2018


We tried to do a professional show as we always do with topics but we got so far off track telling stories i doubt if we got much out. This is Part 1 of a two part podcast with special guest D who has known both of us …

We Don't Need No Stinkin Topic Part 2

May 2nd, 2018


....more stories and hijinks with the guys and special guest D.

All Fair In Love...

May 20th, 2018


JR Rydha and Kerry witta K delve into topics about love and relationships.

Happy Ladyparts / Swapping Phones

June 27th, 2018


In this episode Kerry witta K gives you 11 ways to keep your vagina happy while JR Rydha tries to come up with a solution for a guy whose lady falls …

Uber bae update / Bad Animal Fathers

July 12th, 2018


The listener behind Uber Bar wrote is with am update on her situation and its getting juicy. Also Kerry witta K lets us know that human males aren't the only bad fathers.

How To Be Her Greatest Lover

September 22nd, 2018


Kerry Witta K gives men a few great ideas to be their womans' superstar once again.

8 Relationship Problems U Can't Fix / Listener Questions Answered

October 17th, 2018


Kerry witta K talks about 8 relationship problems that can't be fixed and answered listener questions. Guest hosts are Triple D members JDub and MDeezy.

Gimme A G !!! (How to find her G-Spot)

October 24th, 2018


In this episode Kerry Witta K attempts to enlighten our listeners and tell gentleman and Roombas (lesbians) how to find a womans' g-spot.   

The Case of the Lost Swag

November 21st, 2018


Kerry Witta K gets a call from long friend and old music partner Latino Nino with an issue about how he feels he has lost a step when it comes to …

The Jezebel Stereotype and Objectification of the Black Woman

December 24th, 2018


Kerry witta K along with Millz and J Source discuss a study on the Jezebel Stereotype and the past and current objectification of the Black Woman. …

5 Date Ideas / Loving More Than 1 Person

January 2nd, 2019


Contact info: Kerry witta K - 510 688-9508 FB:grownmenchoppingitup webpage: Twitter: grownmenchoppin Instagram: grownmenchoppingitup       Kerry witta K gives fellas 5 date ideas to …

Masturbation Encouragement / Black Marital Failure

January 15th, 2019


Kerry witta K explains what Masturbation Encouragement porn is while JR Rydha offers some new age dating tips. The fellas also answer a few listener questions and discuss Black Marital Failure and how to combat it.

The Rape Culture Discussion

March 24th, 2019


Kerry Witta K takes on a full discussion of rape culture with guests Millz and J Source. 

Positive Black Father Stats / How to Love a Black Man

May 5th, 2019


KerrywittaK gives positive Black father statistics that we didn't know. JR Rydha tells you the ways you can love a Black Man. The fellas also discuss celebrity relationship advice.

Nino Finds His Swag (continued)

September 5th, 2019


If you haven't heard the Case Of The Lost Swag or need to be refreshed about the episode please go back and take a listen so this episode makes more sense to you. Kerry witta K caught up with Latino Nino for an update …

Signs Your Relationship Isn't Going To Last / Relationship Goals That Will Make Your Love Stronger

March 26th, 2020


The fellas are back in the saddle like they never left with how you can recognize when your relationship is headed nowhere but also relationship goals that will be sure to make your love stronger. 

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