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Growing "Give-N-Take" Kids: Power Traits for Life™

52 EpisodesProduced by Victoria & MariaemmaWebsite

Our mission - empower parents and educators to empower kids to give and receive respectfully: •Find out how your child/student learns, works, and communicates best. •Deal with school issues and gain the confidence to reframe labels such as ADD, learning disabled, slow, lazy, or “just average”. •Str… read more

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The Impact of Feelings & Needs in the Classroom

July 7th, 2021


A couple of months ago Edie Lanphar and I (Mariaemma) did an episode called Talking in Class - It's Essential for Learning. The topic of feelings and …

Talking in Class - It's Essential for Learning!

April 3rd, 2021


When adults meet in a class or group it is understood that time is needed for greeting each other, for processing information through discussion and …

Solution-Focus vs Blame-Focus - What's the Difference?

March 7th, 2021


Solution-focused kids are much more likely to feel capable in any situation, including learning, while blame-focused kids are often afraid, …

Anxiety Free Testing!

February 28th, 2021


Is this even possible? Mariaemma shares how to make it happen!

For more information or questions: email or call 805-648-1739

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The Magic of Focusing on Interests: Our #1 Motivators

February 22nd, 2021


Interests are our #1 Motivators yet adults often used them as punishment. What do I mean by that? Have you ever heard a parent or teacher take away a …

Effects of Trauma on Learning & Behavior

February 14th, 2021


Do kids experience trauma or can they just shake off scary experiences? What kinds of trauma do kids experience? Can changes in behavior and learning be signs of trauma? How can we best help our kids process and move on …

What Has COVID Taught Our Kids and What Are Our Kids Teaching Adults Part 2 - The Adults

February 6th, 2021


How  is the pandemic affecting our kids and us? What are the negative  effects? Are there any positive effects? What can we do to lessen the  negative effects and promote mental health and well-being for ourselves  and …

What Has COVID Taught Our Kids and What Are Our Kids Teaching Adults Part 1 - The Kids

February 3rd, 2021


How is the pandemic affecting our kids and us? What are the negative effects? Are there any positive effects? What can we do to lessen the negative effects and promote mental health and well-being for ourselves and our …

F.I.T.T. Series Episode 4: Track Successes

September 22nd, 2020


In this episode Victoria and Mariaemma discuss the value and importance of tracking successes rather than failures. Tracking successes leads to increased motivation, confidence, and focus. People who learn to track …

F.I.T.T. Series Episode 3: Take the Pressure Off

September 18th, 2020


When kids feel overwhelmed and under pressure, they are not able to focus on learning because they are preoccupied with fears of failure. For some …

Back to School - Small Environment Changes That Make a Big Difference!

September 1st, 2020


Lighting, Sound, Color, Body Position - they all matter and can greatly affect the ability to focus, learn, and get work done. Whether we are talking …

F.I.T.T. Series Episode 2: Identify Goals

August 16th, 2020


Join Victoria & Mariaemma as they discuss the value of identifying goals - for yourself, your kids, your family, your school, your group! Kids …

F.I.T.T. Series Episode 1: Focus on Solutions

August 11th, 2020


Join Mariaemma & Victoria as they discuss the value of focusing on solutions. When you practice solution-focus, your kids learn how to …

Game Curriculum Part 2

July 17th, 2020


Did you know that it takes  about 400 repetitions to create a new synapse in the brain unless it is done with play, in which case it takes only 10-20 repetitions! (stated by the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, co-founder of the …

The Game Curriculum Part 1

July 14th, 2020


Did you know that it takes  about 400 repetitions to create a new synapse in the brain unless it is done with play, in which case it takes only 10-20 repetitions! (stated by the late Dr. Karyn Purvis, co-founder of the …

Self-Care for Parents & Teachers

June 22nd, 2020


If you've been on an airplane you've heard the instruction, "In case of emergency put your oxygen mask on first, then help your child or others." Self-Care is like putting your oxygen mask on first. Victoria and …

What About Summer School?

June 15th, 2020


Do students really lose most of what they've learned during summer vacation? Is summer school a good idea or do students need a break? What are some …

Schooling & Learning - What's the Difference?

May 24th, 2020


Schooling is not the same as learning. In this episode Victoria and Mariaemma talk about the amazing opportunity parents have during the virus lock …

Identifying Feelings & Needs - What's the Big Deal?

May 17th, 2020


Victoria & Mariaemma discuss the importance of identifying feelings and needs to have more effective communication, improve relationships, and …

School At Home Made Easier: Be F.I.T.T.T.!

May 7th, 2020


Victoria presents our LearningSuccess™ F.I.T.T.T. Principles to help school at home be easier and more fun:

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School at Home Made Easier: Different Learners, Different Needs.

May 1st, 2020


Mariaemma & Victoria discuss the needs of different kinds of learners, as well as the importance of paying attention to the learner's surroundings - such as sound - noise, quiet, music; body position - sitting, …

Forced Homeschooling: The Importance of the Emotional Factor During the Corona Virus Lockdown

April 8th, 2020


Mariaemma interviews Edie Lanphar - teacher, educational therapist, and now director of curriculum & instruction at her current school. Edie …

Forced Home Schooling: How to relax and even enjoy it!

March 31st, 2020


Because of the Coronavirus, many families are now in the third week of schooling at home. In this episode Mariaemma interviews educator Dawn Jackson, …

Opportunities versus "Mistakes"

March 15th, 2020


In order to be successful at anything, including learning, you have to be willing to make mistakes. The more we can see "mistakes" as opportunities …

Relieving Homework Stress

March 11th, 2020


Most kids dislike homework. They've been in school all day and now they are home and have to do more of the same. If it were up to us there would be …

For Homeschoolers: Strenghts-Based Learning in the Home Part #2

February 9th, 2020


Today's guest, Marianne Sunderland, is the mother of 7 children who have reading and learning difficulties when it comes to traditional schooling, …

For Homeschoolers: Strengths-Based Learning in the Home Part #1

February 2nd, 2020


Today's guest, Marianne Sunderland, is the mother of 7 children who have reading and learning difficulties when it comes to traditional schooling, …

Literacy: The Reading/Writing Connection & Where It All Begins

January 20th, 2020


Mariaemma is joined by special guests Edie Lanphar and Dr. Phil Fitzsimmons to discuss Literacy and the Reading-Writing Connection. Literacy begins at birth and the foundations for learning to read and write begin in …

The Brain & Learning Part 3

January 12th, 2020


Mariaemma is joined by special guests Dr. Phil Fitzsimmons and Edie Lanphar to discuss the Conditions for Learning.  For more information or questions email us: or visit …

The Brain & Learning Part 2

January 5th, 2020


In this episode Edie Lanphar and Mariaemma discuss the Neuroscience of Learning. When students are upset—frustrated, angry, sad, discouraged—a stress response occurs that tells the adrenals to release chemicals that …

The Brain & Learning Part 1

December 29th, 2019


Edie Lanphar is back with Mariaemma to discuss the connection between learning strengths and social-emotional learning. Knowing how to identify feelings, interests, values, and strengths leads to self-confidence, one of …

The Curious Disposition

December 22nd, 2019


Do you know someone who is always asking questions, wants to know how and why things work, likes to tinker, takes things apart and sometimes doesn't put them back together, loves to experiment and discover, loses track …

The Spontaneous Disposition

December 18th, 2019


Do you know anyone who needs to move, move, move? Someone who isn't into planning so much, can do things on the spur of the moment, thrives with adventure, or maybe is a natural "entertainer?" In this episode Mariaemma …

I Wish My Child's Teacher Knew...

December 9th, 2019


In this episode Mariaemma discusses how powerful it can be when teachers know what their students and their students' parents wish they knew!

For …

Celebrations & Gratitudes

December 1st, 2019


In this episode Mariaemma discusses ways to honor and celebrate your children, your students, and any special people in your life. For questions, email Mariaemma -

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Turnaround Stories 7: From a Classroom Teacher & Principal

November 25th, 2019


Today we have a guest sharing turnaround stories from traditional classrooms. Edie Lanphar brings years of education and experience as a classroom teacher and principal. In this episode she talks about the importance of …

How to Teach Kids to Read - What Does Dyslexia Really Mean?

November 17th, 2019


There are so many misconceptions about learning to read. The very first misconception is that all kids need to begin early - as early as 3 or 4 years …

Learning Disabilities or Learning Strengths? Episode 3

November 10th, 2019


 What comes to mind when you hear, "Learning doesn't have to hurt?" In this episode you will hear the story of a student who was encouraged to use her Verbal Modality strength when taking a test she didn't think she …

Learning Disabilities or Learning Strengths? Episode 2

November 3rd, 2019


Magic happens when students are looked at through the lens of different learning needs, instead of being given a learning disability label. The possibilities for students are endless when educators choose to focus on …

Learning Disabilities or Learning Strengths? Episode 1

October 18th, 2019


What is a learning disability? What is a learning strength? Are learning "disabilities" really hidden learning strengths? Why is it important to focus on strengths in the learning situation? Find out in this episode!

Turnaround Stories 6: Downshift or Uplift?

October 6th, 2019


We have done several Turnaround Story episodes and they have all been about positive turnarounds. But there is another kind of turnaround that is not so positive - it is what we call the downshift turnaround. To …

Turnaround Stories 5: Where Are They Now?

September 29th, 2019


In this episode Victoria and Mariaemma share stories of families who decided to homeschool because their children were sinking in traditional school. …

Turnaround Stories 4: Multiple Turnarounds!

September 22nd, 2019


In this episode Victoria and Mariaemma tell several stories of students who struggled with reading, math, and writing - some to the point of tears. What's the secret to their magnificent turnarounds? Find out!

For more …

Turnaround Stories 3: Math Facts Lead to Planning for the Future

September 20th, 2019


In this episode Victoria tells the story of a 4th grader who was having trouble memorizing the multiplication tables. She looked to his learning …

Turnaround Stories 2: REAL Hands-On Learning with a Surprise Ingredient!

September 8th, 2019


No matter what age the student is, the best, most authentic, long-term learning takes place when the student is allowed to experiment, make mistakes, and discover principles, concepts, and processes on his/her own. Find …

Turnaround Stories 1: A Thinker in a Family of Athletes

September 1st, 2019


Greg was having difficulties at school and also didn't seem to fit in with his family. All of them were athletic, energetic, and noisy! Except for …

C.A.R.E.S. Series Episode 6: Switch On Confidence

August 25th, 2019


Leading with negative judgments, anxiety, and worry is a missed opportunity to connect with the hearts of children, their liveliness and passion for …

C.A.R.E.S. Series Episode 5: Expand Your View of What Motivates Your Child or Student

August 18th, 2019


It's hard to stop happy, satisfied people from trying to learn more about themselves and the world, or from feeling good about themselves when they’ve accomplished something. It's not actually human nature to do as …

C.A.R.E.S. Series Episode 4: Respond Rather Than React

August 11th, 2019


When things happen that are outside your comfort zone, and you’re feeling a lot of pressure, what do you do? This episode is about reactivity and responsiveness, the difference between the two, what brings them out in …

C.A.R.E.S. Series Episode 3: Accept Your Role as Your Child's or Student's Coach

August 7th, 2019


We believe that our job as teachers and parents is to be Great Coaches – coaching young people to believe in themselves, to be confident in their own abilities and what they CAN do. This episode is all about how to …

C.A.R.E.S. Series Episode 2: Celebrate Your Child or Student

July 30th, 2019


Children see themselves as we see them, and that is what they are going to believe. If we mostly see and point out their faults, they will see …

C.A.R.E.S Series Episode 1: What Are Give-N-Take Kids?

July 23rd, 2019


What are Give-N-Take Kids? What does it mean to "grow" Give-N-Take Kids? And how do we do it? In this episode we will answer these questions. And we will explore environments that allow kids to thrive by developing …

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