Good Girls Talk About Sex

Growing up in a conservative church, some kids don't even know being gay is an option. Add that to an ill-kept family secret, and Olivia became …

The most important move for a great sexual experience: having the talk.

STARS is an easy-to-remember acronym for conversations that lead to awesome consensual sex.

In this episode, Samara and Caleb have the STARS talk. …

It's been a tough week. With the decision in Dobbs v. Jackson Women's Health Organization, fully half of the American population has lost the ability …

While a stutter may seem like an impediment to clear communication, Mia says it helped her identify a perfect partner. She talks about how an early experience of being "the other woman" continues to affect her feelings …

Purity ring, wedding ring ... cock ring?! After many conversations with people who have religious trauma around sexuality, it's a pleasure to finally welcome someone who grew up in conservative Christianity and has a …

People typically talk about an absence of sex as something gone wrong, followed by an array of advice to spice up, fix, rekindle, reboot, top down, …

Talk about coming full circle: when your friends-with-benefits from age 12 comes back around to become your life partner and literally make your …

Rain Dove grew up with a birth certificate that listed gender as "F." For much of their life, they imagined that "F" stood for "Failure" to be properly "Female." Today Rain is a gender-bending model who walks runways …

It's been a minute, but I'm back!

In this episode, I talk about what's been going on and where I've been. Then, we take a deep dive into a question …

Having trouble loving your body? In our culture that’s normal, no matter your shape or size.

In a special crossover episode, Leah talks with Rachael …

Did you know when you say “I feel fat” it's actually code for something much deeper?

In a special crossover episode, Leah talks with Kate and Haje on the Human Awareness podcast about body image and how many of us feel …

What happens when you discover the reason you've never been interested in sex is that you've been having the wrong kind of sex for your body? And that the mismatch at the root of your loving-but-sexless marriage is that …

Surprise! It's a bonus episode! Leah shares how she became a featured guest on the #1 sex and relationship advice podcast, and why it is such a big deal for her.

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How can kink un-kink you? Cate is a sex educator who discovered for themselves that kink can be therapy for chronic pain, emotional overwhelm, and neurodivergent patterns. Cate shares how they manage being ADHD, …

Whether it’s secretly watching our parents’ porn or uninformative Sex Ed, most of us get inadequate information about sex.

Liz learned to pleasure …

Is it normal to want dating without hook-ups? And what if you don’t even know who you want to date?

When you’re on the asexual spectrum with bisexual attractions, it can be confusing to chart desire and create a …

How do you know you’re queer if you don’t even know that’s an option? It’s hard to imagine what we can’t see.

Julia takes us through confusing early …

What happens when a girl grows up in purity culture and gets married to the first boy who pays attention to her, just so she can have sex? Is purity …

Joy talks about taboo territory like incest porn, being HSV-2 positive, and trying out “water sports.” She has early memories of non-consensual experiences, which led to weak boundaries and a tendency towards …

Brenda grew up in a “sex silent” household and transitioned right into purity culture. For a naturally highly sexual person, this spelled dysfunction …

Kay is our youngest guest yet, and she lets us in on how her generation is exploring sex differently because they’re the first with easy access to …

Caz is an open book with a ton of chapters: a non-binary disability advocate kink-loving trauma survivor pain/pleasure early wayfinder who left live sex shows for the dating apps. The extraordinary roads they had to …

Tori grew up in a church that preached purity culture, which mostly taught her what she didn’t want—a life with far more shame than sex, compounded …

Tammy is a listener-turned-guest who takes us into her American Jewish culture and shares how that shaped her early experiences around sex and …

It’s our 100th episode!!!!!

Ar Blia is a listener-turned-guest who has been untangling early experiences of trauma, limiting cultural beliefs, and …

Karin talks about living with cerebral palsy and how she shows up in her own life and on Instagram. Early in her life, she struggled with hating her …

Chandra grew up in the 7th Day Adventist church, which she equates to a cult. She faults the church for being an educational, social, and religious …

Gina grew up as a hot babe, the kind we’d all be jealous of. It took a long journey of sexual acting out and questionable marriages for her to realize that she was both groomed to be this way, and that it’s a trauma …

Danielle is a therapist who has also graduated from the school of life. Her earliest sexual experiences were non-consensual and impacted her for long …

Christine inhabits a sexual landscape that includes orgies, bondage, non-monogamy, skilled play partners, and sex-positive parties. She talks about a surprising struggle: how dissociation and OCD impact her ability to …

Vin goes from the prototypical good girl to a (nearly) fearless adventurer. She married young, and enjoys a positive and openly communicative sexual relationship with her husband. Vin opens up about how their initial …

Natalie is a 30-year-old, cisgender female who describes herself as monogamous, straight and engaged to be married.  She describes her body as petite.

I need a longer break than I anticipated, so in order to keep giving you new content, I’m releasing a handful of interviews in their uncut form.

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I told you I’d drop something fun into your feed while I’m on break and here it is!

A couple days ago, I had a conversation with my friend Stefanie …

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Hope is trapped in a sexually repressive, emotionally abusive marriage shaped by the patriarchal traditions and relationship culture of her country …

You don’t worry about having a bathtub masturbation addiction. Leah answers a listener’s questions about whether she has a porn addiction, and why she can’t orgasm with her husband. She talks about identifying the …

Charlotte’s sexual journey has taken the deep bends—and openings—of the yoga she practices. She met her husband in a guru community, fled it, had two daughters, reclaimed her body, and is now exploring “high-fidelity” …

Leah shares a coaching session with Cindy, a married mother of one, for support around a very human variety of issues: decreased libido, sex after motherhood, love languages, pandemic life, sex for connection vs. …

Jordan is a young mother of two young children; she’s also a doula, and therefore all up in bodies and their business. Her innate curiosity led her …

Caitlin returns for a follow-up coaching session with her partner, Chris. They check in with Leah about their BDSM explorations, dom/sub dynamics, …

Tee is unhappily married, and unhappy with her sex life—like so many people. Also like too many, she experiences the lingering impacts of sexual …

Leah shares a coaching session with client Caitlin to give us an in-depth experience of what coaching looks and feels like. Caitlin is divorced and currently in a friends-with-benefits heterosexual relationship. She and …

Stephanie shares how childhood shame about feeling good in her body led to an eating disorder. She talks about how the eating disorder affected her ability to relate with sexual partners, including her now-husband. …

Dr. Evelin Dacker returns to answer a listener’s question about common and chronic UTI’s that occur after sex. She breaks down the how and why, and addresses prevention and treatment. She explains how naturopaths can …

“Deaf U” star Alexa Paulay-Simmons gets candid about who she is (and always has been) as a sexual person, and how that’s shaped her life—both on the …

Hey friends,

You’ll notice this isn’t the regular episode you were expecting! 

The regular episode was loaded into the feed, and some of you may have …

“The story of our pandemic sex life: it has not been pretty.” Host Leah gets raw and real about how her intimate life has weathered the storm of a year-long international crisis, and about how confronting her partner’s …

Debbie was formed by experiences of both pleasure and pain. She was blessed with good early relationships, but also is a survivor of the epidemic of sexual abuse in elite women’s sport. Her faith in herself helped her …

STARS is an easy-to-remember acronym for conversations that lead to awesome consensual sex.

Dr. Evelin Dacker developed the STARS method to create a way for potential and current partners to have a thorough and safe …

Lachlan was born with a vagina. His is the story of how a boy learned to be a girl, then learned to be invisible, then a lesbian, before learning …

What kind of touch do you enjoy? Have you thought about the ways, and places? Touch is a many-splendored thing.

PSA: If you don’t know what kind of touch you like, there’s nothing wrong with you—but you have some …

Leah met Gretchen at Sex Geek Summer Camp. They realized they share remarkably similar journeys; both started having sex later in life, believed that they were broken, then sought out sexual experiences and healing. …

Even people who think they’re sexually open have hard red lines. This week Leah digs into discerning where your absolute no’s are, why they might be …

Overview: Candi lives with Muscular Dystrophy. She shares how it progressed and how it changed her physical capabilities over her lifetime, and what …

After having a baby, a mom is left feeling alone in the process of re-learning her body. Leah explains why it’s more than okay to seek support, and …

Yami opens up about a variety of common though not-commonly-talked-about subjects: sexual assault by a family member, and navigating polyamory.

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Bookmark moments:

• 1:05 - You can say no at any point, even when you’re in the middle of it. Leah talks about how to do this in real life.
• 6:24 - Men …

Jocelyn is a full-service sex worker who’s seen many aspects of the industry, and who currently specializes in sexual healing and sexual surrogacy.

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Leah talks about a consent violation she experienced during medical care last year, and also shares her insights into her own fear around exercising.

Lynn shares her trauma history, and then opens up on a deep and detailed level about hiring a sex worker to save her marriage.  Because no one in her family talked about sex or bodies, for much of her early life, she …

Receiving oral sex isn’t just about a tongue on a clit – it’s about all the emotional and mental conversation happening at the same time.

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Jade opens up about the tension and difficulties in her past marriage, and the sexual dynamics of subtle pressure and coercion she experienced in the …

We follow the oral sex question with a deep dive into swallowing ejaculate (or *not*.) We hear a wide variety of yes/no answers, but also yes/no …

This week, 72-year-old Paulette gives us a window into growing up in a conservative time and culture, and how those tight-lipped and sexually …

A variety of women answer whether or not they enjoy giving oral sex; host Leah goes more in-depth about her own personal experiences and preferences, and about how to engage in, negotiate, and enjoy the act. Then, the …

Mel had plenty of boyfriends but had trouble being faithful. She has chosen ethical non-monogamy as a way of meeting her variety of relational and …

Leah asks the women’s she’s interviewed about their relationship status with their pubic hair. Then she shares her own story of growing up with a …

Heather grew up assuming she would marry a man and have children.  So she did.  But sex was never a good experience. Then she had sex with a woman …

Leah tackles the hierarchy of orgasms—and getting there at all. This week women respond to whether they prefer clit or vaginal stimulation, which …

Stacey grew up aware of and comfortable with her own pleasure from an early age. She has a daughter and is twice divorced. She’s had a rich sex life, and now finds happiness, satisfaction, and opportunity for personal …

Leah has asked many of her interviewees how many sexual partners they’ve had. The answers, in their surprisingly wide variety, show that there is no “normal.” This also opens up a discussion about what “counts” as sex.

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Jessica is one of so many women who have been told, “You have such a pretty face, if you could only lose 50 pounds…”

During her teenage years, she …

In this episode, Leah begins answering the Lowdown questions – with a twist!

To date, she has done well over 60 interviews, most of which have included an in-depth Q&A. As she answers each Lowdown question, you’ll …

Melissa experienced childhood sexual abuse and is dealing with its long-term impacts. She has a complicated pleasure response and is working on …

This week we put aside the regular episode to feature the stories and voices of women and non-binary folx of color.

The first half of the show calls …

Maya was born in the Sudan and came to the United States at age 6. She shares the frustrations she’s had around religion and how it affected her sexuality, the way she used sex in her early life to fill an emotional …

In part 4 of my conversation with Jessi Kneeland, we talk about how I ended up doing a six month solo road trip around the country in my car, and …

Lois carried shame into her adulthood due to childhood sexual abuse. As an adult, she found healing and had wonderful sex with her current husband, …

In part 3 of my conversation with Jessi Kneeland, we talk about how I learned the difference between sensual and sexual touch, learning how to determine and voice my boundaries, and my ongoing battle with body image …

As a child, Cathy experienced extended molestation, which caused her to dissociate from her body and feel huge shame about her body. As she grew …

In part 2 of my conversation with Jessi Kneeland, we talk about working through the messaging I received as a child about my body and sexuality, learning to say “no”, and how women protect men’s feelings during …

Julia and her partner have agreed to a certain amount of openness in their relationship – openness that they haven’t taken advantage of yet. But …

Good Girls Talk About Sex is now a weekly show! Every other week you’ll get these shorter solo episodes where I tell bits of my story and answer YOUR …

Jillian offers us a glimpse into a story that I am intimately familiar with. It’s the story of having huge blank spots in your memory along with an aversion to sex. There’s nothing specific to grab on to so you can say, …

Voluptuous Leah is a plus-size model and Instagram influencer. At the time this episode is released, she has over 166,000 followers and she regularly …

Part 2 of our conversation with Brianna! Today she details her recent entrance into the swinger lifestyle with her husband.  She spares no details about how they discovered their mutual interest in swinging, their early …

(Part 1 of a 2-part episode) Brianna grew up in the Baptist church where she learned that sex was sinful. Today, Brianna talks about her childhood …

Timari is a 37-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, straight, monogamous, married and the mother of two children.

She is a …

In this short solo episode, Leah talks about what she has learned since spoke to you directly in January - what she affectionately thinks of as her …

Tenisha is a 29-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as black, heterosexual, monogamous, average body type, currently in a relationship, …

Jazz is a 31-year-old gender non-conforming, femme-identified person who uses the pronouns "they" and "theirs". They describe themselves as black, …

In this special episode, Leah talks about her recent slide into anxiety and depression.

The "too long, didn't listen" version is: the podcast will …

It's been a year! In this final episode of 2019, we revisit some of our most popular conversations so far.

We've got excerpts from the Q&A …

Lisa is a 40-year-old cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, currently in a relationship that is heterosexual, monogamous, and …

Sarah is a 35-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, married, monogamous, and pansexual. She clarified however that while she has …

Michelle is a 42-year-old, cis-gender female who describes herself as black and married. She is currently sorting through whether she is gay or …

Jo is a 58-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, heteroflexible, and in a friends-with-benefits situation. She deals with …

Shasta is a 45-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as Canadian First Nation/Cree, heterosexual, monogamous, and married to her husband …

Aimee is a 37-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, straight, and married.

Although Aimee considers herself monogamous, she has …

Erin is a 34-year-old, cis-gender female who describes herself as queer, in a new relationship, she isn’t certain of her preferred relationship style.

Martyna is a 29-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, heterosexual, monogamous, and in a relationship. She grew up in Poland and …

Margot is a 39-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as black, British, bisexual and currently in an open, long-distance relationship.

She …

Diana is a 37-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, heterosexual, married and monogamous.

Diana had a traumatic birth with her …

Davina Bookbinder is a 33-year-old, transgender woman who describes herself as white, Jewish, queer, polyamorous and actively dating.

Major themes in …

Jane is a 36-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, heteroflexible, monogamous and with a partner of three years.

Jane went to …

Betsy is a 38-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, straight, monogamous and in a relationship.

Betsy had sex for the first time …

Shelly is a 44-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, lesbian, living with her girlfriend and monogamous. She grew up in the …

Laina is a 33-year-old cis-gender woman who describes herself as Chinese, heterosexual, married, and monogamous.

Laina has one child and struggles …

Jessi Kneeland is a 32-year old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, bisexual, single, and monogamish.

Jessi gets up-close and VERY …

Inez is a 32-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, heterosexual, married with children, and monogamous.

Inez is dealing with …

Danielle is a 41-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as white, Jewish, heteroflexible, married and monogamous.

Danielle and her husband …

Shana is a 41-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as biracial (half black/half white), heterosexual, monogamous and currently in a …

Season 2 of Good Girls Talk About Sex is almost here! It begins Thursday, May 30! Make sure you've subscribed in your favorite podcast app so you don't miss a single episode.  Here's to your better sex life!

Welcome to a between-the-seasons mini episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex!

Reema Zaman is a 35-year-old, cis-gender woman who describes herself as …

It's the season one finale of Good Girls Talk About Sex!

When I began this podcast, I had the typical fears - primarily, I wasn't sure it was any …

In this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Amy, a 47-year-old cis-gendered white woman who describes herself as bisexual and married.

In this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Elizabeth, a cis-gendered white woman in a monogamous heterosexual relationship who is approaching 40.

Elizabeth has an active sex life with her male partner, …

In this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Trystan Reese, a transgender white man in a monogamous gay marriage who is 35 years old. …

In this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Yaz, a 30-year-old who describes herself as half-Persian/half-European, polyamorous, and …

In this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Kate, a cis-gendered white woman in a monogamous heterosexual marriage who is 37 years …

In this special bonus episode, Dr. Evelin Dacker explains the STARS method she created. It’s an easy-to-remember acronym that will help you begin conversations leading to great, consensual sex.

But I don’t want you to …

In this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Dr. Evelin Dacker, a cis-gender half-Mexican, half-Jewish polyamorous woman who is 53 …

In this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talked with Jessi Kneeland, a 31-year-old cis-gendered white woman who is bisexual, monogamous, and …

In this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Jenna, a 34-year-old, cis-gendered female who describes herself as white, lesbian, …

In this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Stacey, a 45-year-old, cis-gendered female who describes herself as black, heterosexual, …

In this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Terri, a 32-year-old, cis-gendered female who describes herself as Pakistani, straight, …

In this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Sharon, a 58-year-old, cis-gendered female who describes herself as Caucasian, straight, …

In this episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Meagan, a 36-year-old, cis-gendered woman who describes herself as Hispanic, straight, …

In the very first episode of Good Girls Talk About Sex, we talk with Liz, a 37-year-old, cis-gendered white woman who is single, heterosexual, and …

IT’S COMING!!!!!!

I’ve been working on this podcast for over a year and I’m SOOOO excited to finally be sharing it with you!

Here’s a sneak peek into the conversations we’ll be sharing in the first season of Good Girls …