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The Myth of Closure

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Are you still stuck on an event from the past? Something ended and you don’t really know why? Deborah talks about what she calls the ‘myth of closure’ and how you can move on by accepting an apology you will never get and making peace with an explanation you may never hear. Turn the page and move on with the story of your life after a chapter has ended, without clinging to needing some explanation or validation.

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