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"What's the story I'm telling myself and what's the story I'm telling other people."
Are you saying to others (and your boss) you're happy with your job? But in your head you're telling yourself you're better and deserve better?
Why the gap? Why are you telling one person something different than what you know to be true.
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When I was out of work, telling myself I'm a loser and unskilled, scared every day. I let it become personal for me. They must have laid me off because I wasn't good at my job, because they knew I was a fraud. Nearly 10 years ago when I first got into marketing, I dealt with an overwhelming amount of imposter syndrome. When I got laid off, all those feelings came roaring back.
But, the story I'm telling other people is that I was prepared and will be okay. I was telling people what I thought they wanted to hear, instead of telling the truth. I thought they wanted to hear that I was okay and that I was prepared. Why? Cause that's what people think of me! I wanted to keep that "brand" going. I'm always prepared, confident, and strategic. I didn't want them to think being laid off caught me off guard.
In reality, people wanted to help me. If I was willing to be honest, put out there what was bothering me and where I needed help, there were dozens of people who were ready and willing. Instead, I kept it all to myself and gave two versions of the same story. One, the truth. The other, the reality I wanted desperately.
So, what is it that you're telling other people that is different than what you're telling yourself? Is it about your job? Your life? Your significant other?
An example of this are the times when we're self-deprecating. When we put together an amazing slide deck, ready and proud of the work we accomplished. Then, in the meeting tell the group, "Sorry for the slides, I know they're not the best, but they'll do for today." Why are we telling others something we don't believe?
Maybe, we should just tell the truth.
Contact me. Would love to hear from you on this topic!
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