Being the "nice Christian girl" has benefits, and it can lead to positive outcomes many times. But what if being nice is the wrong goal for us as Christians?
In the final episode of our communication series, Holly and I chat with Sharon Hodde Miller about the issue of niceness. She shares why it’s a problem when we make it our goal to be nice, the difference between niceness and kindness, and what niceness stops us from doing.
In addition, you get to hear about Sharon’s journey as a leader, how God has led her to do things she didn’t ever anticipate, and how she stays healthy as a wife, mom, and pastor.
For the full show notes for this episode, visit estherlittlefield.com/episode80.Key Points Discussed:
“There is a nice Christian girl image that, if you are in ministry, will be very profitable for you.”
“I had to make a choice between continuing to serve the ‘nice girl’ image or to serve God.”
“Niceness seems to be about the other person, but it’s really about you. It’s about trying to ensure a certain type of response.”
“There are so many people in the church who are not actually free because they’ve settled for this appearance of Christianity instead of the real thing.”
“Integrity matters. Character matters. Holiness matters. Being above reproach--it matters. And it matters in the small things and it matters in the big things.”
“What stands in the way of people coming to the church or to Jesus is if we are more concerned with the church’s reputation than with people’s freedom and safety.”
“People love candy; but what people are craving is a meal.”
“Niceness will never ask you to die to yourself.”
“Most of the leaders that you see are there because they persevered when no one was paying attention to them.”
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Sharon Hodde Miller leads Bright City Church in Durham, NC alongside her husband, Ike. In addition to earning her PhD, Sharon has blogged at SheWorships.com for nearly ten years, making God's Word accessible to women everywhere.
Author of “Nice: Why We Love to Be Liked and How God Calls Us to More” and “Free of ME: Why Life is Better When It’s Not About You”, she has been a regular contributor to Propel, She Reads Truth, and Christianity Today, and has written for Relevant, (in)courage, and many other publications and blogs.
She speaks regularly on topics ranging from leadership to body image to Scripture. She and her husband have two sons and one daughter.Connect with Esther and Holly:
This episode was originally published on estherlittlefield.com/episode80.
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