I Shared My List - Number 50
December 17th, 2020
10:32
Once in a while, we do something that marks a “before” and “after.” This list, for me, was one of those things. The defeated, desperate, broken person I was at the beginning is far from the determined, risk-taking, …
I Drew Attention to Myself Physically - Number 49
December 15th, 2020
8:09
So much of my life has been spent worrying about what other people think. I stressed over what people would think of how I was dressed, my hair, my …
I Watched the Live Feed at Take-Off and Landing - Number 48
December 10th, 2020
7:37
When something is scary, we avert or close our eyes. We don’t watch. We don’t look at it. We close our eyes and wait for it to be over, right? Someone will take away the scary or gross thing, the scene in the movie will …
I Approached a Group of Fans at the Pole - Number 47
December 8th, 2020
6:43
Is there anything scarier than approaching a group as an outsider? For me, in the moment, I couldn’t think of anything harder to do. They were having …
I Talked to Gillian Without a Shield - Number 46
December 3rd, 2020
6:03
I’ve spent my life hiding and so much of my list reflects that fact as I’ve repeatedly fought to break out of that pattern. It hasn’t gotten easier. I think some things have, the more I’ve been exposed to them, but not …
I Went Out on the Deck of the Viewing Area at Tate Modern - Number 45
November 30th, 2020
5:11
Maybe it was the adrenaline rush and momentum from riding the London Eye because, not long after, I found myself deciding to attempt yet another …
I Stood at the Window - Number 44
November 26th, 2020
6:36
I could have stayed on the bench. I could have been content with just getting on the ride. It was a big step. It could have been enough, but then I …
I Rode the London Eye - Number 43
November 24th, 2020
6:58
I have always been terrified of heights. I don’t like rides that go up in the air. I’m also afraid of drowning. I’m not a good swimmer and I have …
I Didn't Numb Out - Number 42
November 19th, 2020
8:45
It seems there are endless ways to numb out these days. We don’t have to look very far for ways to distract ourselves. The problem is that it only …
I Got Tattoos - Number 41
November 17th, 2020
10:26
Tattoos are a way of marking a moment or a feeling or an event. They tell a portion of our story. They are a visual reminder and I desperately needed a visual reminder that I am safe. That I can let go. To pick up that …
I Pumped Gas - Number 40
November 12th, 2020
5:08
When you struggle with anxiety and/or social phobia it is very easy to avoid certain tasks or situations and let someone else do them for you. It …
I Let an Artist Draw My Face - Number 39
November 10th, 2020
5:20
I am surrounded by people who live to get their pictures taken. They do photoshoots for fun. I am not one of those people. I’ve always hated getting …
I Shared My First Draft With Someone - Number 38
November 5th, 2020
7:29
I struggled with perfectionism for much of my life. I have improved a lot over the years, but not when it comes to my writing. Sharing my early …
I Attempted the Gym on a Saturday - Number 37
November 3rd, 2020
11:42
So often I have kept my life small by avoiding situations that scared me. The only way out of that pattern is to root out where you are still stuck …
Beta'd - Number 36
October 29th, 2020
6:02
I have always tried to control my environment in order to feel safe. I don’t like to even go to a restaurant without reading everything on their …
Volunteered to be on a Podcast I Didn't Know - Number 35
October 26th, 2020
5:29
Sometimes things ended up on my list because I pushed through tremendous fear to achieve them and then there are times like this where the list takes on a mind of its own. I was gaining so much confidence by this point …
Made a Phone Call - Number 34
October 21st, 2020
6:40
I’ve always hated to make or receive phone calls. I’m sometimes okay once they get started, depending on the person and the reason for the call. More often than not, however, I end up talking over the person or having …
Played in the Snow - Number 33
October 20th, 2020
6:24
One of the hardest things for me to face on this journey was the loss of my playful side. I used to be fun and I wanted it back so I took a chance. …
Bought Tickets to a Play in London - Number 32
October 15th, 2020
7:16
Sometimes an idea is planted and we allow the door to open just a crack. We allow ourselves to think, “What if?” Or “Maybe that could work for me, …
Worked on My Sleep Habits - Number 31
October 13th, 2020
7:00
I’ve always been jealous of people who could use sleep as an escape. Sleep, for me, has always been a struggle. I wanted it to be a time of peace and …
Rejoined the Gym - Number 30
October 8th, 2020
5:53
Some of the items are very straightforward and there’s a clear reason it’s on the list. For this one, there are so many reasons. I had to get past the financial fears, taking resources for myself, going somewhere …
Went Back - Number 29
October 6th, 2020
7:04
Grief is brutal. Just when you think you’re through the worst part and are back on your feet, a wave hits and you’re swept back in the water. I avoided going back because I didn’t want to relive that horrible …
Called My Mom - Number 28
October 1st, 2020
12:21
One of the harshest realities that I have ever had to face is that sometimes we are born into a family we don’t belong in. Sometimes we stay longer …
Acted in a Commercial - Number 27
September 29th, 2020
5:11
As hard as some of the items on my list have been, it’s times like these that really made me question why I ever started this project! I was making …
Accepted Positive Personal Feedback - Number 26
September 24th, 2020
5:48
I listened to the tape recorder in my head that repeated what my abusers used to tell me. As a result, I allowed the voices of the people who …
Accepted Help - Number 25
September 22nd, 2020
6:40
I had a lot to overcome to accomplish this step. I had tremendous guilt about taking/using resources whether that was material goods, money, time, etc. I was stuck in a scarcity mindset. I also held myself to a standard …
Assistant Directed - Number 24
September 17th, 2020
6:06
Agreeing to do something and actually doing it are two very different things. I have always excelled at the first one but often bailed before getting to the second one. I was afraid of not being able to deliver. I was …
Allowed Myself to Get Paid - Number 23
September 15th, 2020
6:37
I had a lot of misguided beliefs about money. Those beliefs kept me from seeing my worth and caused me to devalue myself. This spilled over into every aspect of my life and destroyed my self-esteem. Taking this step was …
Volunteered To Be A Beta For FanFic - Number 22
September 10th, 2020
5:54
My pattern was to agree to something or sign up for something and then panic and back out. I battled the anxiety of not knowing what I was getting …
Connected With My Fandom on Tumblr - Number 21
September 8th, 2020
6:54
By this point in my journey, I was realizing how taking these steps had released me from so much of my generalized anxiety. I was doing things without overthinking. I was calmer. I was breezing through parts of my day …
Volunteered to get interviewed on a podcast about music that is important to me - Number 20
September 3rd, 2020
6:34
Music has always been my lifeline. There are songs that saved my life, songs that gave me strength, songs that made me feel I could take on the …
Got Therapy - Number 19
September 1st, 2020
8:30
I struggle with taking resources from my family for something that is just for me. That’s how I found myself at 50 with a lifetime of unresolved …
Noticed It, Named It, Felt It, Let It Go - Number 18
August 27th, 2020
6:02
It may be apparent after 16 episodes that I struggle the most with feeling my feelings. This exercise I learned in the WE book challenged me to push myself to the next level. It helped me so much that it’s a practice …
Didn't Get Sucked In - Number 17
August 25th, 2020
7:12
It’s very hard to break behavior patterns, especially ones that are lifelong and steeped in dysfunction. For me, guilt and fear would keep me coming …
Accepted Praise - Number 16
August 20th, 2020
7:06
I was conditioned to believe that accepting praise or a compliment meant that I was full of myself or had an overinflated sense of self. In order to …
Hosted An Event - Number 15
August 18th, 2020
6:42
Speaking in front of a crowd to do a keynote address wasn’t enough, apparently. I decided to challenge myself by also hosting/emceeing the event which meant introducing each set. It wasn’t pretty and there were plenty …
Gave a Keynote Address - Number 14
August 13th, 2020
7:28
With all the fears I’ve had in my life, I don’t think there was one that rivaled my fear of public speaking. Facing this fear head-on was absolutely …
Attempted to Host a Game Show - Number 13
August 11th, 2020
5:16
Sometimes the path to healing involves a game show, a microphone, and publicly failing...in front of a live audience and on multiple live streams. …
Found Beauty In All Things - Number 12
August 6th, 2020
6:17
Finding beauty in the world around me helped me to see the beauty in myself. It taught me to see that broken is beautiful, that cracks in us won't …
I Dueled - Number 11
August 3rd, 2020
8:26
There is something so empowering about challenging yourself to do something and not choosing the easy path. I could have participated and chosen …
Put on a costume and allowed myself to be part of the story - Number 10
July 30th, 2020
7:26
By now, I was starting to realize how much I kept myself back from really living. Trying to be invisible takes a lot of work and it’s exhausting. My …
Volunteered To Be In A Documentary - Number 9
July 29th, 2020
4:30
I've never been one to do things without overthinking, planning every detail, and considering every possible outcome. It was always easier to get someone else to just do it for me. This time I didn't allow myself to …
Publicly Fangirled - Number 8
July 29th, 2020
8:53
I've let so many opportunities pass me by because I wanted to be invisible. I was always too afraid of ridicule or judgment. I knew, this time, …
Played Volleyball in My Bathing Suit - Number 7
July 21st, 2020
6:17
I spent my adulthood saying no to so many things because I was afraid I would look stupid or because I was ashamed of my body. This was a huge …
When It Rains... Let It - Number 6
July 16th, 2020
6:21
When you are raised in chaos and have no safety net, you develop tools to survive. One of the tools I used was to attempt to control as much as I …
Let Go - Number 5
July 14th, 2020
7:26
When I found myself at this step of the journey, I was still avoiding the pain and doing my best not to acknowledge my triggers. I would act out. I …
Felt the Pain - Number 4
July 8th, 2020
5:22
I spent my life avoiding pain. I’d dissociate. I’d escape into worlds I created in my head. I was so scared to let myself feel the feelings because I …
Got Out of Bed, Took a Walk, and Told the Truth - Numbers 1, 2, & 3
July 7th, 2020
9:19
This is where my journey to bravery began. To break out of my fear and heal my life, I challenged myself to do 50 brave things in one year (my 50th). It wasn't easy. Trauma needed to be healed and fears had to be …
Introducing Broken to Brave
May 28th, 2020
1:19
Southgate Media Group is proud to introduce the most personal podcast it's ever presented. Broken to Brave follows the journey Martha W Southgate …
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