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62: The Bride Price


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Every wedding has a at least a little bit of drama. For Mai Neng Moua and her mother, Yer Vu, their mother/daughter wedding drama was about who they were, and who they wanted to be. You can catch up with TTFA on Instagram, Twitter and Facebook using @ttfapodcast. Nora's Instagram is @noraborealis. You can pre-order Nora's new book - No Happy Endings - from her website at TTFA is public media. Which means we are supported by you. You can join us with a contribution at And check out our sponsors this week: Talkspace - with code TTFA Third Love - Calm -

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