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40 Plus: Gay Men. Gay Talk.

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Welcome to the only podcast exploring the messiness, awesomeness, of masculinity of being a gay man over 40. Each episode is about sparking idea, addressing challenges, and diving deep into what it looks like to be a vulnerable gay guy. We talk about the stuff us gay guys have a hard time talking ab… read more

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148: Holiday Prep – No Douche Required – Rick Clemons

November 26th, 2021


We're coming into the home stretch of the year and it's - HOLIDAY TIME! Don't freak out, don't put pressure on yourself, and please don't try to please everyone. OK, EASIER SAID THAN DONE. However, you can have a …

147: Killing Your Relationship Expectations – Rick Clemons

November 19th, 2021


You want a man, and you want him to be perfect. Really? Maybe you should be looking in the mirror. For every expectation you put on your man you …

146: Self-Awareness – The Gay Man’s Key To LIfe’s Big Ticket Questions – Ed WIlson

November 12th, 2021


As a gay man do you find yourself constantly looking for answers, and then getting frustrated because they aren’t right there in front of you? What if they are but you just simply haven’t dug deep within yourself enough …

145: Internalized Homophobia – Knock That Sh*t Off – Rick Clemons

November 5th, 2021


There isn't a gay man alive who hasn't hated on himself or another gay man. Sometimes, we do it subconsciously and don't even realize what an ass we're being. It's ok, society groomed us this way. So let's break that …

144: Owning That Dad Bod – Anthony Catalino

October 29th, 2021


We're all perfectly imperfect. But for gay men, perfection seems to be a futile pursuit - perfect abs, ass, chest, smile, bank account, material things...the list goes on. But when it comes to our bodies and our body …

143: Defining A Healthy Gay Relationship – Rick Clemons

October 22nd, 2021


Sex, laughter, sex, love, sex, money. That's all it takes to make a healthy gay relationship work. If you believe that I've got a bottle of Clorox for you to fight COVID too. Truth is, it takes a lot of patience, …

142: Loving Yourself Through and Out of Addiction – Gregory Silva

October 15th, 2021


LGBTQ people are 9-10 times more likely to addicted to sex, drugs, alcohol or food. Why? For many reasons, but the most obvious reason is we've been …

141: The Art of Relating, Man-to-Man – Rick Clemons

October 8th, 2021


This man-to-man connecting, dating, mating, and relating, is so damn hard. Or is it? It can be if the effort isn't there, but it does take effort in all the right places. It may even take work, but when you invest in …

140: All The Sh*T You Can Do After 40 – Anthony Hand

October 1st, 2021


When you hit 40 you think, "It's all down hill from here!" Sure it is if you are on a bike, riding 500 miles and you come into the home stretch of the AIDS Life Cycle ride. Yes, after turning 40, that is just one of the …

139: Why Open Relationships Work – Canaan

September 24th, 2021


If you don't like gay marriage, then don't marry someone who's gay. If you don't approve of abortion, then don't have one. And, if you don't want an open relationship, then don't be in one, and stop throwing shade on …

138: Gay Man’s Manifesto For Living: Part 3 – Rick Clemons

September 17th, 2021


We're coming into the home stretch of this three part series that explores 12 manifestos that I have uncovered for gay man that truly inspire them to …

142.1: 20 Years of Making It Work With My Man – Rick Clemons

September 16th, 2021


I can't believe I'm saying this, but we've made it work, last, thrive, and sometimes even survive. Yup, me and my guy - George Solis - are …

137: Gay Man’s Manifesto For Living: Part 2 – Rick Clemons

September 10th, 2021


As a gay man, have you ever struggled? Felt exhausted by trying to do the right things for your life? Felt like everything was in vain and just wanted to give up? Maybe it's time for a Manifesto, one that inspires you …

136: Gay Man’s Manifesto For Living: Part 1 – Rick Clemons

September 3rd, 2021


As a gay man, have you ever struggled? Felt exhausted by trying to do the right things for your life? Felt like everything was in vain and just wanted to give up? Maybe it's time for a Manifesto, one that inspires you …

135: Why are gay friendships so hard to make? – Rick Clemons

August 27th, 2021


Friendships. Gay Friendships. You either have them or they are completely absent from your life. This is what I hear over, and over, and over from gay men. They can't seem to maintain friendships, and it has nothing to …

134: Date Smarter. Sexier – Andrea LaRosa

August 20th, 2021


If your dating expectations constantly leave you disappointed, and the only compatibility you can find is hooking up on Scruff or Grindr, it's time for you to do some introspection and turn your dating habits around. …

133: How To Start Having Better Sex Now – Rick Clemons

August 13th, 2021


Most gay men enjoy sex. Doesn't matter what that looks like. Whether it is simple intimacy, to dolled up in Leather, or playing in an orgy. We gay …

132: Dating for the modern gay guy – Tyler Greenberg

August 6th, 2021


Dating is a pain in the ass...and not in a good way. For most gay men, the dating and pursuit of Prince Charming, is a frustrating, just give up scenario, that leaves most little energy for even a hookup. Or, you aren't …

131: Getting Over Your Money BS – Martin Cowart

July 30th, 2021


Money, money, money. Never enough, always wanting more, and being judged for having to much or too little, and we haven't even started on the vicious judgements from other gay men if you don't have money, money, money. …

130: Break free from the “You’ve done so much wrong” syndrome – Rick Clemons

July 23rd, 2021


You're a liar. You're a cheat. You've broken trust. You're wrong by being gay and not worth knowing. To many of us as gay men have been told how - …

129: How To Break Free From Your Hidden Addictions – Rick Clemons

July 16th, 2021


Sex, Drugs, Food, Video Games. We all have addictions, but we may not OPENLY admit to them. Another possibility, is we don't seem them as addictions, because we have become so used to hiding them that we just don't even …

128: Quit Bitching and Step Up To The Plate – Rick Clemons

July 9th, 2021


We all complain. We all want more. We all wish it was easy. Check, check, check. But WTF happens when all you do is complain and never step up to the plate go get that home run you so desperately desire? You've got to …

127: Why Validation and Attention Seeking is F*CKING You Up! – Rick Clemons

July 2nd, 2021


Look at me. See me. Love me. Want me. Hell just notice me. This seems to be the quest for most gay men, but it's also the quest that kicks us in the ass. Instead of posting on social media with your shirt off, or your …

126: It’s Fat Loss Not Weight Loss For The Gay Man – Jack Kunkel

June 25th, 2021


Give me those abs, pecs, guns to hang on and that bubble butt to salivate over. Sound like a pipe dream? Or is it more of a nightmare because you just can't lose weight? Diet, diet, diet. Workout, workout, workout. Yet …

125: Infatuation or love…what is it you really feel? – Rick Clemons

June 18th, 2021


You're hot for him, or you're hot about the thought of love with him, or both, or are you just confused? If you're confused, welcome to finding love. No one, literally no one, simply waves their gay magic wand and finds …

124: Should you be OUT at work – yes or no? – Rick Clemons

June 11th, 2021


Even though there are Federal and State Guidelines and laws prohibiting discrimination at work because you are a gay man, doesn't mean every gay guy gets a hard on and excited about being out at work. And, if you're …

123: Stop being commitment phobic you silly homo – Rick Clemons

June 4th, 2021


I want a man. I want a better job. I want to lose weight. I want, I want, I want. Yes, yes, yes, and yes. Gay men want a lot but for some silly reason they are commitment phobic with a capital "C" and a capital "P." …

122: Confidence For The Queer Guy – Yannick Picard

May 28th, 2021


Confidence doesn't come easy, or so they say. But confidence for the gay guy can really be an uphill climb unless you have some guidance. Slaying the confidence saboteurs is Yannick Picard's mission, as he works with …

121: Gay GHOSTING is Not Pretty on you – Rick Clemons

May 21st, 2021

About Mike

Mike mi-KAL-o-wits is the author of Profit First, Clockwork, Surge, The Pumpkin Plan, and his newest release Fix This Next. By his 35th …

120: Dadding, Careers, And All That Gay Stuff – Hans M Hirschi

May 13th, 2021


The struggle is real. From managing a multinational relationship, to raising a child, and doing your career. May sound like no big deal, but when you …

119: How not to FREAK out when the sex dies – Rick Clemons

May 7th, 2021


He's not so into sex. He must be cheating. That BJ you were so fond of, he's no longer interested in giving it to you. He must think you are ugly. These and other thoughts run rampant in our minds when suddenly, "Sex is …

118: Aging as a Transman – Sex and all that jazz – Buck Angel!

April 30th, 2021


He's in his late 50's. He's a trailblazer. He's done porn, and he's a man. A transman, and he's got something to say about being a man of a certain age in the LGBTQ community. Never one to walk away from a fight or a …

117: The Ultimate Circle Jerk – Rick Clemons

April 23rd, 2021


Who doesn't like an awesome circle jerk? Ok, maybe not everyone, but most gay men do, but sometimes they love a circle jerk so much the end up jerking themselves into oblivion. Is that you? Are you jerking yourself off …

116: To Be Out or Not To Be Out In Corporate Life – Jeff Nally

April 16th, 2021


Are you out? Really out? Let's rephrase that question. Are you out in your work life, and really out in a way that represents you, the whole you that …

115: Let Go Of Your Ex or Shut The F#CK Up – Rick Clemons

April 9th, 2021


Break ups are inevitable. Don't believe it ? Watch any episode or Queer as Folk, The "L"Word, or Pose and the truth will show you it's real. Of …

114: The life of the party without the booze – Erik Svendsen

April 2nd, 2021


What happens when you grow up a good little Catholic boy, who as a young adult gets sucked into the gay scene in South Florida? You drink, you drink, …

113: Pushing Past Loneliness As A Gay Man - Rick Clemons

March 26th, 2021

About Steve

Mike mi-KAL-o-wits is the author of Profit First, Clockwork, Surge, The Pumpkin Plan, and his newest release Fix This Next. By his 35th …

112: Jealousy and Insecurity – Gay Men’s Worst Enemies – Rick Clemons

March 19th, 2021


"Don't you be looking at my man!" Sigh. Guys we don't own the market on men looking at our men. Unless you reign that jealousy and insecurity in, you are going to be one messed up gay guy. Today we explore ways to …

111: Why gay men avoid commitment – Rick Clemons

March 12th, 2021


Gay men can't commit. Really? Maybe some can't but most can and will if given the chance. The truth is most have to give themselves the chance to commit and they don't. In this episode we take a deep look at the …

110: Just Be Gay, Gay, Gay…Your Way – Rick Clemons

March 5th, 2021


Whether you're 40+ or 2o something, or sliding into your golden years, someone is going to throw you some shade by telling you, "This is how you do …

109: What’s Right With Having An Open Relationship – Rick Clemons

February 26th, 2021


Open relationships. They seem to be the hot button trigger in gay men's circles. You're either all for them, completely against them, or not being …

108: How To Have the Confidence Of A Porn Star – Rick Clemons

February 19th, 2021


One of the things gay men struggle with the most is CONFIDENCE, with a capital "C." Whether it's our looks, career, finances, or the size of our penis, everything comes (no pun intended) under the confidence gun. Here's …

107: Determined To Be A Dad – Steve Disselhorst

February 12th, 2021


This guy said "Fatherhood is for me, no matter what, even if I am gay!" He was so determined to be a Dad, her wrote a book by the same name. Speaking candidly with passion about fatherhood and being Gay, Steve …

106 – Can you really handle an Intergenerational Relationship? – Rick Clemons

February 5th, 2021



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105: How To Avoid Gay Death Bed – Rick Clemons

January 8th, 2021


It's inevitable. Wait that's not true. It likely - that sounds better - that at some point in your gay relationships the bedroom will die. No not the bed, but the SEX. It happens, and rather than avoid it like a nasty …

104: Best Life Hook-up Tips For 2021 – Rick Clemons

January 1st, 2021


Happy New Year Guys! So excited to launch the new version of 40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk, with the slight, fabulous twist to 40Plus: Gay Men. Gay …

103: The One Gift – Rick Clemons

December 25th, 2020


Merry Christmas guys. As you celebrate, however you celebrate this year, I want to invite you to consider this one gift. One that is important, and …

102 – How To Get Out of Your 40 Plus Life Rut – Rick Clemons

December 18th, 2020


We all get in ruts in our lives. 2020 has only made that worse in so many ways. And ruts, suck. Here's a few simple steps for getting unstuck and out of your rut so you can kick ass in life. And the last one just might …

101: Finding Your Soul Center As A Man – Chris Failla

December 11th, 2020


At the heart of every guy there is a man who want's to be his own man, his way. A guy who wants to be seen, heard, and understood...on his terms. …

100: 10 Things I’ve Learned As A Guy Over 40 – Rick Clemons

November 20th, 2020


We're celebrating the 100th Episode with the 10 things I've learned to make me a better man as a guy over 40. What could those 10 things be? Listen …

099: The art of Humility & Acceptance – Rick Clemons

November 13th, 2020


Regardless of the fact that some men can't accept defeat and loss (Donald Trump for example) the truth is most of us as men hate to admit we've lost and accept defeat. Why is that? Mostly because we haven't learned the …

098: You’re never too old to be fully yourself – Colton Ford

November 6th, 2020


"I'm to old for that!" Really, then you must not have any adventure left in your life and your soul. How about instead, you said, "I'm never to old …

097: Men, Intimacy, and Affection – Get Over It Already – Rick Clemons

October 30th, 2020


You'd have to be hiding with your head in the sand to not hear all the crappy politics going on right now. And this podcast isn't about politics, …

094: Being Better Beings – Michelle Zellner

October 9th, 2020


How often do you find yourself wishing you were better? Better at your job, better at your relationships, better at taking care of yourself, just simply better, better, better. It's a daily occurrence for me. Yet, I've …

093: Stepping Into and Letting Go of Love – Rick Clemons

October 2nd, 2020


Not all divorces, job layoffs, or health scares require walking away in disgust from something that we love. In fact, really healthy situations lead us towards honoring the love for something or someone and graciously …

092: Tap Into The Power of Your Younger Self, Even In a Pandemic – Rick Clemons

September 25th, 2020


Life sucks right now in so many ways, but are you really going to let it keep you stuck? In a rut? Causing you to give up? Maybe what you should do …

091: How your hard “No’s” are ruining your life – Rick Clemons

September 18th, 2020


"NO!" We started learning that word form a very young age. Before we knew it, our life was filled with no, no, no's! So are we surprised that we have a hard time getting to "YES" in our lives? Then add to the fact that …

090 – Helping men find peace in a chaotic world – Steve Strother

September 11th, 2020


We're living in a chaotic world. Possibly in some ways more chaotic than at any other point in the history of the world. So how does a guy find peace when he is surrounded by chaos? Is that even possible?

Steve Strother …

089: Becoming A Boomer Musician – Michael Fairman

September 4th, 2020


It's time to take a stand against ageism. No more saying, "You're to old!" You're only as old as you buy into the voice in your head. But, you have …

088– Gay and 40 Plus – William Smith

August 28th, 2020

About William

William Smith has been in the “people” business for many years helping support individuals and families. He is the President of Senior Care Advisers. This informational company gives mid-lifers and above an …

087: How to come to terms with the “What’s next?” question – David Hooper

August 21st, 2020


What happens when you live your life, doing your thing, been doing it for most of your life, and then suddenly you hit the brick wall, and you gotta figure out, "What's Next?"? This dilemma happens all the time and then …

88: Creating Radical Alignment In LIfe & Love – Alexandra Jamieson & Bob Gower

August 14th, 2020


Nothing is harder in any kind of relationship than having difficult conversations. For us guys those conversations make us feel uneasy,vulnerable, …

085: Fitter Healthier Dad – Darren Kirby

August 7th, 2020


If you're a Dad who's ever woke up feeling BLAH about your body, your energy, or the way you approach life, then it's probably time for you to be a Fitter, Healthier Dad. Even if you are not a Dad, this podcast will …

084 – Developing The Attitude of Gratitude – Chris DT Gordon

July 31st, 2020


Imagine a simple little cut on your arm, changing your whole life, but also causing you to truly embrace the attitude of gratitude. Chris DT Gordon …

083: Stop playing it safe and do what you love – Tripp Lanier

July 24th, 2020


If you've ever found yourself on the hamster wheel of life, just getting through the day, and not feeling alive, then it's time you become dangerous, in your own right.

Tripp Lanier, challenged men to get out of their …

082: Embracing F*CK Ups When They Happen– Rick Clemons

July 17th, 2020

About Mike

Mike mi-KAL-o-wits is the author of Profit First, Clockwork, Surge, The Pumpkin Plan, and his newest release Fix This Next. By his 35th …

081: Why your mindset makes the day, every day of your life – Tomi Dagan

July 10th, 2020


Mindset, mindset, mindset. It seems to be all we hear about these days. So it's either a crock of crap, or a load of wisdom. The latter seems to be more spot on for us guys over 40. With the pressures of work, health, …

80: Real Talk, About Being A Male Victim of Sexual and Physical Abuse – Brian Cardoza

July 1st, 2020


Imagine hiding a secret that made you question who you are, if you did something wrong, and causing you to feel like you are not worthy. Now imagine all of this started for you when you were 3, 5, 12. It happened at an …

079: Defining Your “WHY” behind your health – Jack Kunkel

June 26th, 2020


No guy anywhere said, "I want to be unhealthy, fat, and struggling diabetes and heart disease," or any other such thing that keeps us from living our best life. Yet, many guys silently allow those thoughts to exist in …

078: Embracing Your Dad, Loving Every Bit of Him, Even The Worst Parts – Rick Clemons

June 19th, 2020


Happy Fathers Day! It's that once a year time when we celebrate and being a Dad, regardless of what your version of a Dad is. But what do you do when your relationship with your Dad is strained, a challenge, and down …

077: Standing in your naked truth – Ben Bidwell

June 12th, 2020


Why can't you stand around naked? Naked in your truth! Allowing yourself to be aligned in your truth so you can be exactly who you are. For most me, …

076: Why Pride Matters For Every Man – Rick Clemons

June 5th, 2020


It's the kick-off of LGBTQ pride month, but what does that have to do with guys over 40? Everything, even if you're not LGBTQ. Pride in who you are is affording yourself the confidence to have pride in who you are - …

075: How to take the leap in to self-care and peace – Troy Love

May 29th, 2020


Men, in general, struggle with self-care. Not talking about the brushing teeth, taking showers, eating right, etc. Talking about the deeper stuff. …

074: Do your thing, stay young at heart – Michael Symonds

May 22nd, 2020


If you are one of those guys that says, "One day I'll..." or "I'm too old to..." you need this podcast. You are never to old and someday might not …

073: Vulnerability and Responsibility – Matt Ward

May 15th, 2020


When COVID19 became our reality, our lives took on a whole different meaning. Many of us began thinking about life in a whole lot of new dimensions - …

072: How To Compete Every Day – Jake Thompson

May 8th, 2020


Every day is an opportunity. You either compete or give up. Whether it is with yourself or the rest of the world, you GET, not HAVE to compete. Yet, many of us allow the competition in our own heads to keep us from …

071: Making Your Age Work For You – Tavarus Hogans

May 1st, 2020


We all are aging, and there is nothing we can do about that. But what we can do is realize that everything works out just as it should.

Serial …

070: How to be an Uplifting Dad – Mark LaMaster

April 24th, 2020


Fatherhood is a gift, a challenge, a blessing, and a trial by fire. It's also a great reward. It can also be a huge failure if you don't play your cards right, in so many ways. Even then, sometimes the outcome be less …

069: Fix This Next – Mike Michalowicz

April 17th, 2020


What do you do when you hit that block wall in your life or your business, and you feel like, "Shit, this isn't ever going to change?" You lean into yourself, commit to putting yourself first, and humble up and look …

068: Successfully Living In A Blended Family – Joel W. Hawbaker

April 10th, 2020


When it comes to divorce, it's never easy, and it's often chaotic. Yet, when you realize that it is not your job to get your ex-spouse to do what you want, and it is your job to find ways to make it work, then success …

067: Erectile Dysfunction Doesn’t Make You Less Of A Man – Dr. Ron Gor

April 3rd, 2020


Most guys fear having a broken penis. It's our lifeline to enjoyment, pleasure, and of course peeing. But how much of our issues with sexual function …

066: 6 Steps for committing to show up fully in crisis – Rick Clemons

March 27th, 2020


We all know where we are right now as a planet. In the midst of a global pandemic - COVID19. But, what is that calling us to do? What are we men being asked to commit to during this crisis? For each of us it varies, but …

065: How to tap into joy, gratitude, and connection – Murray Guest

March 20th, 2020


What happens when you lose sight of joy, happiness, connection, and intent in your life? Us guys tend to keep a lot of that stuff on the surface and say, "I'm great, I'm fine," when in reality we become disconnected and …

064: Your Negativity Is Killing You – Rick Clemons

March 13th, 2020


Ever found yourself stuck in the negativity? Like nothing does anything but pisses you off and makes you only experience the crappy side of life. Then you wonder why, why, why you feel so darn miserable. It's because …

063: When Opposites No Longer Attract – Michael Testa

March 6th, 2020


There are those life moments when you realize, "This just isn't working!" For some it's when they realize, "I'm gay and I just gotta stop pretending to be straight." For others, its "I'm killing myself trying to carry …

062: Navigating The Possibility Of An Open Relationship – Rick Clemons

February 28th, 2020


Relationships are not easy...right? Yet, sometimes relationships cause one or both partners to wander into the land of infidelity or lackluster connectedness. On the other hand, some relationships wander into the realm …

061: Building Your Destiny – Grant Baldwin

February 21st, 2020


He went from being a youth pastor to a conversation with his Dad about his destiny, to now running a highly successful online business, all because …

060: All YOU need is love…self-love – Rick Clemons

February 14th, 2020


It's Valentine's Day. The day of either a lot of pressure, loads of love, or screw this who cares. Regardless of how you feel about Valentine's Day, there's one thing most men forget to do...LOVE THEMSELVES. I know …

059: I got nothing – Rick Clemons

February 7th, 2020


I woke up this morning, chatting with a friend, and then she said, " I got nothing!" She was referring to a time when she was doing a Facebook Live and she admitted to her viewers that she had nothing to say. I loved …

058: Creating Killer Relationships With Your Partner – Chuck Chapman

January 31st, 2020


Relationships are tough. Relationships are wonderful. Either way, as men we tend to get confused about what to do when the relationships get tough. …

057: When The F*CK Did You Decide To Live In A Box? – Rick Clemons

January 24th, 2020


Do you ever feel like are living in a box? Maybe it's not a box of your own choosing? Yet, you are choosing. We all choose to get boxed in. Now it's time to choose better. Get the F*CK out of that box and start living …

056: Un-structure Yourself For Success – Rick Clemons

January 17th, 2020


Do you find yourself feeling penned in, marching to, to many drums, and never feeling free? Maybe it's time to drop the structure and create your F*CK YEAH life. But you gotta UN-STRUCTURE in order to do that. Here's …

055: Getting Radical Alignment With LIfe – Bob Gower

January 10th, 2020


Imagine being married 3 times, and feeling on the verge of suicide, and then getting WOKE! Woke to your truth and become radically aligned to your truth about what you wanted for your life. You got specific, dumped the …

054: Set your year of intentions with three words – Rick Clemons

January 7th, 2020


We're well into the first full week of January, a new year, and by now, many resolutions are out the door. But what if you started with intentions …

053: Create Your 2020 F*ck It List - Rick Clemons

December 31st, 2019


It's about to be 2020. Or it might already be 2020 by the time you listen to this podcast. Instead of resolutions, how about creating a F*CK IT List …

052: Taking the walk of faith to leave your faith - Brian Gilbert

December 27th, 2019


Faith. It's something that guides us, gives us cause to take risks, and sometimes gets in the way of us being able to be who we are meant to be. Faith in ourselves, faith in the path, faith in our destiny. Especially …

051: 12 Holiday Gifts Men Should Give Themselves – Rick Clemons

December 24th, 2019


It's Christmas Eve, or right in the middle of Hanukkah, but regardless of where you are or holiday you celebrate, how about giving yourself some …

050: Facing your Daddy issues head on - Rick Clemons

December 20th, 2019


I've typically had an on again, off again relationship with my Father. It's not easy and sometimes I feel like a real asshole because I don't' have a …

049: Accepting Our Changing Bodies - Elliott Kronenfeld

December 17th, 2019


Guys just don't want to admit our changing bodies. We continue to try to do the stuff we did in our 20's, 30's and wonder why our changing bodies …

048: Getting clarity in the crap of life - Mike Kim

December 13th, 2019


What happens when you wake up and realize that your marriage isn't working, but you don't hate each other - and there is clarity. Then you realize you need to feel security, so you move back to family - and there is …

047: Why One Day is One Day To Long - Rick Clemons

December 10th, 2019


You done a lot of things in your life. Military, been a DJ, worked in corporate America, husband, father, and then that tickle begins. You're being called to step out of the comfort zone and do what you are called to do …

046: Becoming A Midlife Entrepreneur - Erick Rheam

December 6th, 2019


You done a lot of things in your life. Military, been a DJ, worked in corporate America, husband, father, and then that tickle begins. You're being called to step out of the comfort zone and do what you are called to do …

045: Why men should invite their toddler out to play - Rick Clemons

December 3rd, 2019


The holidays can be a really grind or a real blast. Either way, you're going to probably find yourself feeling overwhelmed, tired, exhausted, and …

044: Becoming a Self-Reliant Man & Entrepreneur - John Jantsch

November 29th, 2019


Men have been innately raised from childhood to be self-reliant. Do it yourself. Man up. Don't ask for help. Yet, one of the biggest downfalls of men is that we often are too self-reliant and we don't let others in and …

043: Avoiding the Holiday S*it Show - Rick Clemons

November 26th, 2019


The holiday season is upon us. If you're in the good old USA, Thanksgiving is just two days away, and poof then it will be Black Friday. Of course, …

042: Being Your Badass Self - Lou Bortone

November 22nd, 2019


He went from introvert to being his own version of a badass. So what caused the change? He realized that being fully expressed was more important …

041: He Said, She Said – Jackie MacDougall

November 19th, 2019


He said, she said. It's a part of life, and a part of this podcast as my sister - Jackie MacDougall - from another show - Forty Thrive - joins me in a true "He said, she said" moment. Well actually more than a few …

Why being a PREP whore is a good thing - Damon L. Jacobs

November 15th, 2019


He's a WHORE, for PREP. A wonderful human offering responsible education about the use of PREP to prevent transmission of the HIV virus. He's not …

How to align your heart and your art - Rick Clemons

November 12th, 2019


Sometimes stuff just falls out of your mouth and they you think, "Boy that was some pretty profound shit I just said!" Ever felt that? Well I did, just the other day while coaching a client. I said "If your heart's not …

How to create connection with your emotions - Alan Cohen

November 7th, 2019


We're all emotional beings. Except as men we're told not to show our emotions and then we wonder why we lack connection. What a bunch of bullshit. …

The truth about being openly... - Rick Clemons

November 5th, 2019


There's a phrase used in the gay community, "openly gay." It's always bugged me a little bit. Why should anyone have to be "openly" anything...except …

Age is all in your heads boys - Matt Marr

November 1st, 2019


Aging isn't a disease it's a reality and if you don't feel it you can't heal it, or at least that's what therapist, actor, and podcast show host Matt Marr says. He's the one person who can tell it like it is better than …

Keeping it real - Shane Mallory

October 29th, 2019


Most of ust guys have a hard time keeping it real with ourselves, let alone others. We put on these costumes of manhood and pound our chests and …

Making Multigenerational Work Environments Work - Adam Lippin

October 25th, 2019


Imagine you own a business, or for that matter work in a business, and you are the oldest guy in the group. You try to figure out how to relate to …

Dumping the excess weight - physical and otherwise - that's killing you! -David Conley

October 22nd, 2019


You're too fat. You're tired of being called stocky when what people are really saying under their breath is your fat. It's all about the extra weight you are carrying, but it's not just the physical weight, it's about …

Let's get real about happiness - Rick Clemons

October 18th, 2019


I'm so happy. Everything is great. Nothing could be better. Really? Or, are you just blowing happiness smoke up your ass just to make yourself feel …

Why some guys initiate divorce – Stephen Warley

October 15th, 2019


Did you know that only 30% of men ask for divorce? And when they do, it's like they've committed the ultimate sin. So what happens when you're a guy, …

Why Every Guy Has A Coming Out Journey - Rick Clemons

October 11th, 2019


Hey guys. Hate to say it but you need to come out of the closet. No, I'm not accusing you of being gay or bi-. Don't make that assumption. Nor am I saying that if you are gay or bi- that you aren't already out of the …

Why One Thing Changes Everything - Rick Clemons

October 8th, 2019


Focus. Focus. Focus. You ever heard that or been told that? Of course you have. But sometimes us guys just don't want to listen to that advice. Yet, …

Embracing and Loving Your Self-Image - Darren Main

October 4th, 2019


It all starts with that very first, "You're a dork," or "Be a man,' and from then on we as men question the image of who we are in our own minds. Struggling day-in and day-out to embrace and love ourselves, often doing …

Why a guy needs a break - no guilt necessary - Jim Kukral

October 1st, 2019


We all have a lot on our shoulders. But what happens when you're the primary breadwinner? Does that weight eat at ya? Make you nervous? Or does it …

Fitness, Knitting & Being a Man - Jon Giswold

September 27th, 2019


What happens when your life suddenly takes a detour, your career as a boutique fashion designer suddenly comes to a halt, and you wander into a fitness studio at the suggestion of the owner of the studio? Probably not …

What manhood really means! - Ryan Sallans

September 24th, 2019


What defines a man? Ever asked yourself, or been asked that question? The answers are as varied as there are men, yet when we step back, most of us guys have more in common in our definition than we have differences. …

Just because life hands you lemons, don't be a dead beat Dad - Steve Bates

September 20th, 2019


Divorce isn't easy for anyone, but it doesn't mean if you can't hack it, that you need to become a deadbeat Dad. Yet, society sure likes to assume that a lot of Dads are deadbeat Dads, but that's not necessarily always …

The Importance of Male Sexual Health - Dr. Dudley Danoff

September 17th, 2019


We guys, most of us, sure love our penis and using it. Sex, getting off, or cutting loose with a good stream of pee just seem to be so manly. Yet, one of the things most men do is take their sexual health for granted. …

Embracing The Second Half of Life - Salvatore Sapienza

September 13th, 2019


If you’re hating on your mid-life, then no wonder you could be in a crisis. On the other hand, you could be writing and publishing your first book, …

Life Choices & Learning To Appreciate Them - Josh Packard Ph. D.

September 10th, 2019


There are those moments in life, when you reach the crossroads. You stand there wondering which way to go, and you make your life choice. Then, you wonder, "What might have happened if you had chosen differently?" Even …

Stop and push the Pause Button – Darren Tipton

September 6th, 2019


You’re a guy who’s found your passion. You pursue it with a loving vengeance. You feel alive and on a roll. Then that roll leads you to realize, “If …

Dump The Pressure Of Others - Rick Clemons

August 30th, 2019


We're all under pressure. Crazy, fast-paced pressures of life. Yet, most of us play into this pressure because of some thing that someone else says …

Why Men’s Work Ain’t no Circle Jerk – Andrew Newman

August 23rd, 2019


Men are more rapidly than ever flocking to men’s work, and we aren’t talking about men working out. They’re going to places where they can feel safe …

Venturing Back To Corporate Life Does Not Mean You Failed - Phil Gerbyshak

August 16th, 2019


So what do you do when everything is going well in your business, you seem to be on top of the world, and then suddenly everything flips 36o degrees the other direction. You step up to the plate and do something that …

Depression isn’t and shouldn’t be a shameful prison – Chris Brogan

August 9th, 2019


I admit it. I suffer from depression. I also take my little one pill a day to keep it at bay…no shame whatsoever. Then there’s my buddy Chris Brogan. A guy who’s written NY Times Bestsellers, talked in front of 100’s of …

Birthday Message - Doing Stuff From Your Soul - Rick Clemons

August 2nd, 2019


Not going to go all sappy on ya, nor am I looking for a ton of birthday wishes, and I'm not needing your sympathy. Now that we've got all that out of …

Weathering The Storms of Life – Mark Asquith

July 26th, 2019


We all have storms in life. Crazy making storms. Some that we call the S*it Storms of life. As a guy 40 Plus, we can find ourselves right in the …

Internalized Homophobia and all that Jazz – Seth Vermilyea

July 19th, 2019


Sometimes you get slapped upside the face with your stuff and you didn’t really realize it was sitting there in the corner of your mind just waiting to hit ya! Those things that you’re like, “No, no, no, no, no. This is …

Yeah that mind is meant to be mindful! – Will Schneider

July 12th, 2019


Ok, I’m going to be honest. I met him on an island in Bermuda. I was drawn to him. I saw things in him that I wanted. And, no I wasn’t some gay guy crushing on a handsome straight guy…well maybe a little. Truth is, I …

Making Space For Men To Be Men - Rick Clemons

July 5th, 2019


There are amazing things you learn when you get a group of men together to be vulnerable. They are either one, upping each other, or being very tight …

Kindness and the Masculinity Factor – Rocco Cozza

June 28th, 2019


He’s a Jersey boy, an attorney, and built pretty much like a tank. First thoughts? He’s an Alpha Male. In reality he does have a book with alpha in the name and he’s also a kindness kind of guy that makes you go, …

Just because you’ve got wisdom doesn’t make you old! – Brad Montgomery

June 21st, 2019


“I look up to you because you are older and wiser! You have so much wisdom.” Ok! God, I feel old now. Or you could say, “Wow what a compliment!” …

Gay, Black, White, Interracial Couple, and an Ex-pastor. Oh my! – Joel Barrett and David Seymour

June 14th, 2019


Man #1 - He was married to a woman. Was a pastor. Then decided he could no longer, NOT live his truth as a gay man.

Man #2 – He was black, gay, and …

Get A Grip. Aging is just part of the equation! – Chris Guillebeau

June 7th, 2019


God I can’t believe I’m aging and turning 30, 40, 50, 100! Yeah it happens guys and I know you know that is true, but what happens when it hits you like a ton of bricks? I know, because I’ve experienced it and it wasn’t …

Men of Respect, RESPECT – Mike Domitriz

May 31st, 2019


Aretha Franklin, just reading the word RESPECT, will start getting you all sassy in your heads. Some of you even started singing it out loud with the …

Taking Ownership When You Screw Up – Gerson Sternstein

May 24th, 2019


Let’s be honest. Being honest is tough for us guys. Then add admitting we’re wrong to the mix, or that we're a screw up, and that brings on a whole …

Spirituality Is Such A Guy Thing – Chris Tompkins

May 17th, 2019


Yes, real men (whatever that means) get spirituality. It’s not some woo-woo, out of this world thing. It’s at the core of who you are as a man. Don’t’ believe me? Fine. Not going to twist your arm, but it is true. …

Divorcing with Dignity – Leo Cardenas

May 17th, 2019


I plan to get divorced, said no guy, as he stands at the alter getting married. Yet, it happens and how we get through it is a very individual experience. This is a real. Raw, honest chat about divorce, with a guy who’s …

How You, As A Man, Can Stop Shaming Men and Vulnerability

May 17th, 2019


Admit it. We’ve all been shamed as men for our vulnerability and it has nothing to do with Brene’ Brown and her work around shame and vulnerability.

Why Guys 40 Plus Need This Podcast

May 17th, 2019


 I'm a 40 Plus Guy. A dad. A small business owner. A friend. A mentor. A lot of, of lot of things, like most people. I'm also a guy that wants to connect with guys, guy-to-guy on a deeper level, to make me a better man …

40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk. - Trailer

May 15th, 2019


40 Plus: Real Men. Real Talk. is a short-format (10 - 15 minutes per episode) podcast where real guys talk about real guy stuff for men over 40.It's a shame free environment, where anything goes, including the B.S. …

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